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August 1st, 2008, 04:24 PM
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CopperBoom!
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: MI
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Hi all...I was wondering if it would be alright if I came back? I'm very very embarrassed for disappearing so suddenly with no explanation. At the time, I was embarrassed because everything happened so quickly, I didn't even know it was possible to get pregnant before AF showed up again. And I was so scared that I would lose the baby again. I didn't know what to say, so I disappeared and I'm sorry  And now my worst fear has come true, and I lost this baby, too. And now I'm embarrassed all over again to be asking you wonderful women to let me return. It's just that you are all so wonderful and so supportive and have been such a huge help for me. I feel like I'm doing something wrong or there is something wrong with me. It's horrible. I'm officially waiting 3 months to give myself time to heal and get healthy again, and then I am TTC. I no longer care if the timing is perfect, it may never be perfect. I just know how badly I want a baby, and how ready I am. Again, you all have my deepest apologies for deserting you before, I promise, I won't do it again!
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August 1st, 2008, 04:42 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Washington
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Oh, I am so sorry for your loss! I also had losses back to back and as hard as it is to take a bit of a break, it was really good for me. I was getting all wrapped up in "timing" too, and I just had to get past that mentally. I think everyone here can sympathize with the feeling of being defective or broken. But we aren't....and it will happen for you eventually. Will your doc be doing any testing? Welcome back 
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August 1st, 2008, 05:14 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Indpls
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There is no reason for you to apoligize. You are welcome to come back any time you please. We will always be her for you. You shouldn;t worry about being judged.
I am very sorry for you losses. I have only experienced one miscarriage and I know that waiting those 2 months was exactly what i needed. Everyone is different.
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August 1st, 2008, 05:45 PM
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Oh I am so sorry for your loss. This board is full of warm, understanding women so I don't think you need to apologize or be embarassed. Welcome back.
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August 1st, 2008, 07:43 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Rochester, NY
Posts: 15,519
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Of course you are welcome to come back!
I am just sorry you have to. I am sorry you lost your baby 
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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August 1st, 2008, 07:51 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Connecticut
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I'm so sorry that you had to go through that again. I know how tough that can be. I also have been lurking... but, the ladies here are so wonderful and I'm sure you're welcomed back with OPEN arms!!! Big
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August 1st, 2008, 07:51 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Ohio
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 the other ladies!
You are always welcome here...this is a great group of women, and you can come and go as you need 
I am so sorry for your recent loss. I hope you get your sticky bean soon!
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Proud Parents to: Branden 10/28/1997 Owen 5/17/09 (Born with Hirschsprung's Disease) And expecting our newest addition 5/7/12 
 
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August 1st, 2008, 07:57 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Las Vegas
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No offense taken here! Everyone is welcome.
I am so sorry about your loss.
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August 1st, 2008, 09:19 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 3,071
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it was so sad reading your post in the ddc. i too had to post that same thing before in a previous ddc. maybe taking some time off ttc will help, and when you ttc again, good luck.
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August 1st, 2008, 10:01 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Varnville, SC
Posts: 894
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No apologies needed here. You are welcome anytime. I am just so sorry that you have to return under these circumstances.
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Nette MacNeir
Proud Wife to Kevin~November 29, 2003(met October 24, 1998)
Proud Mommy of Kaisee Amber~March 3, 1998
Proud Mommy of Kameron Wesley~February 28, 2001
Proud Mommy of Kaiden Austin ~ August 3, 2009 (born 9 wks 3 day premature)
Proud Mommy to Our Angel in Heaven~June 3, 2008
Proud Mommy to Our Angel in Heaven ~March 2009 ~ Kaiden's Twin
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August 1st, 2008, 11:02 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Bremerton, Wa
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Dont you ever feel embarrassed about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love that youre here, i hate the circumstances, but once you come here.. youre always family. If you didnt come back I'd have been pissed at you, honestly, i would have. You can be a sideline cheerleader with me for the next couple months while you heal
Love ya girly, and Im glad you decided to come back
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August 2nd, 2008, 02:29 AM
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formally sarah_the_sane_1
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: scotland uk
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im so sorry about your losses.
ive now had 3 loses in 6 months and its hard, very hard! but with the love and support of these amazing women i am getting through it and im sure you can too.
x
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August 2nd, 2008, 05:55 AM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 844
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I just joined this board last month and haven't posted much yet. I just wanted to say I'm sorry and welcome.
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August 2nd, 2008, 08:45 AM
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just me
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Littleton, CO
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I'm just adding my Everyone has said what I would say. You don't have to be embarrassed, and you don't have to apologize. I'm sorry that you have to be back here.
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August 2nd, 2008, 08:49 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 16,067
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I am so sorry to hear about your losses. You are always welcome here!
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Missing our Angel since April 11, 2008
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August 2nd, 2008, 09:34 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: B.C. Canada
Posts: 3,734
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I am very sorry you have come back
I had 3 of my losses back to back and just had another lose in April at 17w. I hope waiting the 3 months well help you have a healthy pg next time around in the mean time Hop right in!
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~IRENE~ MOM TO 8 KIDDOES! DS 18, DD 16, DD 14, DD 8, DS 6, DD 4, DS 3 and DS 1
Ttcing #9 After TWO 2nd trimester loss's and FIVE 1st trimester loss's. Missing our 8 ANGEL'S
IUI W/CLOMID/TRIGGER FEB 12/13 09!
Kyle (absent) Chelsea, Miki, Hanna, Johna, Sari, Jessiah and Isaiah.
     
THE LORD GIVES AND TAKES AWAY MY HEART WILL CHOOSE TO SAY BLESSED BE HIS WONDERFUL NAME!
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12W, 6W, 6W, 9W 1 twin, 5W
17W twins (sex unkown) and "Elijah"
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August 3rd, 2008, 07:03 PM
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CopperBoom!
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: MI
Posts: 12,486
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Thanks Ladies 
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