[carrierose5]

Hello. I think I already introduced myself. But I have been out of it lately. Just incase, my name is Carrie. I just lost my sweet son Aaron on July 13. He was stillborn at 28 weeks. I just had my post partem appt today and my doc gave us the go-ahead for whenever we are ready to ttc. I have not had my period yet but felt like I ovulated last week. My doc said that that would not surprise her. We are not sure if we are completely ready emotionally to try so we are still in the talking stages. Both of us (DH and I) want something to look forward to as we have been swimming in our grief for the past month.
My question is: Are you more fertile after birth? I have heard rumors about this but dont know if that is true or not. My son Joshua is 2 1/2 and was a honeymoon baby, so no trouble conceiving there. Aaron took us 7 months to conceive and that was agonizing. We just did not expect that. So if I am more fertile in the coming months, then we would rather try at that time. Anyone ever heard of this?

[..Jessica..]

First, let me send my condolences onto you Carrie. I am so sorry you lost your son, Aaron.

Second, I too have heard that you are more fertile after a pregnancy. I'm not sure how accurate it is though.

One of the ladies on here, Brittanie, also lost a baby. Beautiful baby girl named Cora. In May 2006, and she got pregnant with sweet Erin, born in June 2007. A few months later. (Hope Britt doesn't mind me saying this.)

Good luck Carrie, I hope you conceive when you're ready.

[Del4]

Carrie, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

In regards to your question, I have heard that you are more fertile after giving birth. And I know of three women in my birth board in 2007 who got pregnant within 6 weeks of giving birth.

Good luck TTC when you are ready and again, I am so sorry about Aaron.

[TTC2009Miracle]

Carrie, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, Aaron.

Yes, you are more fertile after birth, my doctor told me that it has something to do with the hormones that are already in your system. My cousin and my sister have babies concieved 6 weeks after giving birth. My sister TTC for 7 years for her second, then was pregnant with her third after 6 weeks.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss!

Patty

[jenn27]

Hi Carrie. I am glad that you have decided to join us again. I am really sorry about your loss. I know the last month must have been extremely difficult and I'm sooo sorry that you had to go through that.

I have heard that you are more fertile after birth as well as after a m/c. I don't know how true it is either but I have heard that lots of times. I hope that when ya'll are ready to start ttc again it doesn't take long and that you get your 2nd precious miracle right away.

I hope you will stick around and get to know everyone. If you need anything, we are all here for you.

[MrsPoe]

Carrie,

I lost my little girl at 27w5d. It took us 5 years to get pregnant with her, so I am by no means "fertile". And after giving birth my cycles were all over the place. The first cycle was only 24 days, the second one was 35 days, and the third was about 30 days. Now before giving birth my cycles were about every 3 months. So I am going to say that you may be more fertile after giving birth. It only took us a year after giving birth, but we waited two full cycles to start ttc because I was waiting for test results. I found out I have 3 blood clotting disorders and needed extra folic acid and baby aspirin. So then we started ttc again. I have talked to several other women who have lost their babies and most of them waited 2-3 months and got pregnant on the first month of ttc. I think you are more fertile after giving birth, but you may O sooner than before or later than you used to. Also I noticed a trend with other women and after giving birth our LP (luteal phase) is much shorter in the first 3 months on average.

In my honest opinion, waiting the few months is what I needed. I didn't know it at the time, but I needed that time to grieve my little girl. Dh also needed more time for his healing. TTC is a strain of its own, as you already know since it took you 7 months. Getting the bfn's after already losing a baby makes it even more intense. It is a very personal decision of when to ttc again, and only you and your dh will know the answer to that. I hope that the first month of ttc will be all it takes for you and then 9 months later you will have a screaming baby in your arms. If you ever need anything or want to talk I am here!

[HippyMomOf4]

I think most woman are, i know i was when my DD was 5 months old i got pregnant with my second DD, which was a total shock. I know 5 months seems like awhile after but we wern't even trying and i got pregnant(using comdoms)