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August 18th, 2008, 02:23 PM
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I've been TTC for a year. Nearly everyone who was TTC at the same time I started has already gotten their BFP and went on to have great pregnancies. Some are now working on TTC the next baby. This is so fusterating. I even had a friend who I hadnt told about our loss (or that I was even pregnant at the time) she was so excited and told me she was pregnant. We were due at almost the exact time. A day apart. She has pictures of her belly and ultrasound picutres and all that and I have nothing. I almost feel like it was a fluke that I even got pregnant in the first place.

I feel like this is never going to happen. I start Clomid next cycle. The next cycle cant come soon enough. I am so sick of seeing only one line on my HPT.

I feel cheated. I feel that if I ever do get pregnant again that I wont be able to enjoy it because I am going to be super paranoid that I am going to loose it again.
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August 18th, 2008, 02:28 PM
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Oh Ness, Im so sorry youre having a ######ty day girl. I know how you feel about feeling like you were cheated, or even robbed. It sucks and you have every right to be pissed off. Its all part of healing hun. I hope that the clomid is the answer to your issues of getting and staying pg. Heres hopin you get a big belly first cycle hunny
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August 18th, 2008, 02:33 PM
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Awww hun. I know EXACTLY what you mean. I'm on month 8 and probably have to take a couple months off now. On JM and in real life I've known soooo many ppl that have gotten their BFPs. I have NO children, why do they all get pg so easily (IRL), why did I lose mine, why I am not pregnant again, what if I never can get pregnant again....

It is so frustrating. I hope it helps to know you are definitely not alone in feeling like this.

I am so hoping you get your BFP soon. Maybe the clomid will do the trick. I wish I could give you a big hug!
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August 18th, 2008, 03:33 PM
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I'm sorry. I don't know what to say. I pray Clomid is the answer you're looking for and you get a sticky BFP on that first try!!
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August 18th, 2008, 04:04 PM
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I've been TTC for a year. Nearly everyone who was TTC at the same time I started has already gotten their BFP and went on to have great pregnancies. Some are now working on TTC the next baby. This is so fusterating. I even had a friend who I hadnt told about our loss (or that I was even pregnant at the time) she was so excited and told me she was pregnant. We were due at almost the exact time. A day apart. She has pictures of her belly and ultrasound picutres and all that and I have nothing. I almost feel like it was a fluke that I even got pregnant in the first place.

I feel like this is never going to happen. I start Clomid next cycle. The next cycle cant come soon enough. I am so sick of seeing only one line on my HPT.

I feel cheated. I feel that if I ever do get pregnant again that I wont be able to enjoy it because I am going to be super paranoid that I am going to loose it again.[/b]
I am right there with you. It's been a year for me as well. I actually had to leave JM for a little while b/c it just got so hard month after month for me to have that disappointment. I sometimes wonder if the miscarriage was my one chance and I blew it.

Good luck with the Clomid. I think that you will find there are a few of us who do feel exactly how you feel. Feel free to rant if you need to!! It's all that has kept me sane!
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August 18th, 2008, 06:58 PM
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Nessy hunny I am so sorry. i know what you mean abiut feeling cheated. we tried for 2 1/2 years before we conceived the baby that we loss it wasnt just the fact that we lost it it was the fact that we tried for so long and then lost it so i know how you feel. I sure hope that the clomid does it the first time and you get your beautiful BFP and a heatly sticky bean
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August 18th, 2008, 07:08 PM
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I'm right there with you. It's so frustrating. I've seen so many friend, family and coworkers get pg after we started trying and they have babies in their arms. Me - I've got a flat stomach. No babies. Not even pregnant. I totally agree it's not fair. I have accepted I'll never be one of those girls who gets to laugh and complain throughout their pregnancies - lucky B's.

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August 19th, 2008, 03:04 AM
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I just wanted to give you a .

I know how frustrating it is. DH and I tried almost a year before we found out that he's infertile. It then took another 9 months after trying various options (like hormone therapy for DH) to finally get to TTC. I got pregnant with Kairi by random luck. The RE just caught my LH surge. I'm heading into my 2nd cycle since our loss. I am also going on Clomid. Maybe we'll both get twins!!

Just remember, we're all here for you hon!
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August 19th, 2008, 04:44 AM
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I just wanted to give you big !!! It is soo hard TTC!! It's also hard seeing other people around you with babies and pregnancies. I'm going throught that right now with my sister who I just found out was pregnant. I really hope that you do get a BFP soon. And I hope the clomid works right away!!!
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August 19th, 2008, 10:31 AM
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Maybe we'll both get twins!![/b]

Twins would be such a blessing. I think Hubby was only in it for one.... But I'll take two any day of the week!!!

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August 19th, 2008, 04:47 PM
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I just wanted to give you a .
Maybe we'll both get twins!![/b]

Twins would be such a blessing. I think Hubby was only in it for one.... But I'll take two any day of the week!!!


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Hehe DH is all for having twins, I'd LOVE to get it all done with. My luck will be though that I'd get my twins when we try for our 3rd.
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August 19th, 2008, 05:32 PM
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I'm sorry that this has been so hard on you. Who would have thought that TTC would be so hard? Good luck with the clomid!
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August 19th, 2008, 07:01 PM
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i just want to let you know i can relate. me and my husband tried for so long too only to loose the baby.and now back to trying again.
i hope the clomid works for you
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