When will you join your DDC?

I will join them when I am 20 weeks or so, for obvious reasons I think. But I will stay put right here with you ladies the whole time.

[~*Nessy*~]

I think I will Lurk, but not introduce myself or post until I reach about 12 weeks. Hopefully by then risk of loss for me wont be there for the same reasons it was last time.

[Ann1212]

I will join right away. Even though I know I will be nervous about a pregnancy, I will still be too excited to wait to tell people.

[jenn27]

I will definately be sticking around in here even after I get a BFP if that ever happens but I will probably join the DDC once I get to my second trimester. I don't even really plan on telling anyone except immediate family and of course all you wonderful ladies until i hit 13 weeks. I learned my lesson from the last time.

[.x~KAT~x.]

i always join straight away...its nice to be in a ddc

[MusicalJulia]

I'll join immediately, probably the same day I get my BFP. Will I be nervous? Absolutely. But I got so much support from "my girls" in the DDC when I had my miscarriage.. and still talk with a handful of them. It was so hard to leave, I made friends.. but it was nice to have people on my side when I needed it. I'm going to need that DDC (the new one) to occupy me so I can relax and just the pregnancy.

[~Laurie~]

I will join right away. I lost Eva when I was 6 months pregnant so I'm not sure I will ever feel....comfortable. I don't plan on telling family, friends or work until I can't hide it any longer. Hopefully it will be winter, so I may make it to 5 or 6 months.

[Christine-MA]

I will join the day I get my BFP. I like meeting the girls immediately. It was a shame to have to leave March DDC, but I still love to stalk some of them (even though it's sad).

I won't be telling anyone (except maybe my best friend) until at least 12 weeks though, maybe a few weeks later depending when my appointments fall.

[..Jessica..]

I'd join right away. Granted, I will be scared, nervous, paranoid, etc. I still would want to go through the first bit of the pregnancy with girls I could possibly be having my baby the same day as. If that makes any sense.

Now that I'm reading all of your responses, I am changing my mind!

The reason I wouldn't want to join right away is b/c 1- I would be afraid I would get attached to all of the girls on there and then m/c again. and 2- if a bunch of girls join and have m/c then it would make me think I would have a m/c too. That sounds so selfish. But I know from stalking other boards that's a common comment "So many of our DDC members lost their babies" It would be so emotional for me.

I think I'll just stick with this board and PAL until I'm a few months along.

I guess I should focus on getting that before I worry about this!

[..Jessica..]

I often wonder what I'd do when I get pregnant. I know in my old DDC, after I left a large group of girls m/c and that hurt me a lot. To be honest, I think I'd join and then lurk for a bit, but I'd be active in PAL and stay here throughout the pregnancy completely.

[Eleysia]

I figure that by the time im TTC again JM will be obsolete

[going4it]

I would join right away. I still lurk in the March and April DDC now.....I was "stradling" both clubs as I didn't have an exact date for my last period.

[cherryblossom88]

i will join right away but will be nervous. but i will stay in here too..

I figure that by the time im TTC again JM will be obsolete [/b]

Oh please, Eleysia! You'll have a surprise wedding on New Year's Eve and get your beautiful BFP sometime next Spring. (I have a crystal ball by the way)

[kellyanne]

I'm the exception to the rule, I didn't join a DDC for any of my losses and I'm glad I didn't. I was scared to even go over to PAL last time. I'll probably just stay here where I'm comfortable until I'm a long ways into a pregnancy...then I'd go to PAL, no DDC for me.

[IAMommy]

I think I will def join a DDC as soon as possible - probably as soon as I see double lines on a stick!

Being pregnant will be scary, but I really want to try and enjoy it. I will probably only tell DH and all the JM ladies when I find out. I want to wait until our first u/s to tell family. Our Dr says he wants us to have an u/s at 6-8 weeks to see if we are having multiples again or not, so if we get good heartbeat(s) then, we will tell immidiate family. We are going to wait until 13 weeks to tell everyone esle.

[Frangipani]

I don't know if I'll join. I would like to but I am thinking I would need to wait until...I don't know. I'm not sure how far along would make me feel confident that the baby would stick-probably not until I was holding the baby in my arms, you know?

[MountainMomma]

I'm joining the minute I see two lines. I still lurk in the April 08 PR and the April 09 DDC, and I enjoyed being a part of a DDC (even if it was only for a few days) so much that I can't wait to join again. Yes, I'll be a nervous flippin' wreck, but we aren't telling ANYONE other than people on here until we see a heartbeat, and then only our church, parents and siblings. No one else IRL will know until the second trimester at least. I'll need as many people on here to talk to as possible so I don't blurt it out to everyone IRL!

[Jessica!]

I'll head over that way right away. I always like to introduce myself. I probably won't post much though. The PAL board is a little better after a loss. Everyone there has been through it. The DDC ladies may not understand if they never went through it.