[Christine-MA]

I've thought about this for the last week since I had the miscarriage.

When I was pregnant, I would always rub my belly before I went to bed (and other times, but then specifically) and say I love you, and DH would do the same (sometimes I'd fall asleep first and I'd wake up slightly to feel him saying goodnight to the baby).

I wonder if I'll do it this time? Like I won't think it's real (or going to last), so I won't?

Anyone else have similar thoughts?

[MountainMomma]

I wondered that after my first miscarriage. In reality, each time I get that beautiful BFP, I find myself (and DH) talking to the baby even more. It's kind of like we want to get in as many I love you's as we can just in case it happens again. No matter how short the time with them was, each one of our babies was very loved, and we want to make sure they know that.

[..Jessica..]

I found myself saying I Love You to Quinn a few times a day.

[Ann1212]

I don't think I ever really spoke outloud to my baby, but I thought to it all the time, like I expected it to be able to read my mind or something.

[MusicalJulia]

I'll join the speak out-loud to baby club, LOL! I did that.
But honestly, I think everything will be the same for me during the next pregnancy. I'll be more nervous for sure.. BUT, I don't think I'll have any "attachment" problems thinking the pregnancy won't make it. I'm an attachment kind of person. I already know as soon as I get that bfp I'll love that kid just as much as I did the previous one/time.

I might even venture to say I'll be MORE attached?? Only because I know what it feels like to have something snatched away with the blink of an eye. One day I hear the heartbeat, the next it's gone. I might feel more attached knowing ANYTHING can happen.. and to treasure the time I DO have... kwim?

Who knows Hopefully soon I find out!

[KDD]

I'm still talking to my bean - only now I'm saying "are you in there? Don't you want to be?"

[Enchanted Mumma]

I always spoke to our baby...even before we had a BFP...I just KNEW i was pregnant and I'd rub my belly and talk to our little one last thing at night and first in the morning.

I think I'll do it again...let them know how much they are wanted and loved.

[Brittanie]

I'm more like Ann1212. Even with Cora I didn't speak out loud to her until I was feeling definite movement regularly, and then I'd talk to her when she was awake. It was the same way with Erin, although it took a while for her. Not that I didn't love her as much as I did Cora right away, I was just scared, and so I didn't talk to her as much. With Erin though, I also knew deep down that there'd be a lot of time to talk to her after she was born, whereas with Cora, I think I knew I'd lose her, so I had to talk to her as much as possible right away.

With this one, I haven't really spoken out loud to him (I don't know for sure yet that it's a boy), except to tell him he has to be born in February.