[~*Nessy*~]

We've been trying for a year. HAd a loss and we are trying so patiently to wait our turn.

Friday I ended up doing the task of canceling an appointment for a co-worker who really hasnt been being herself lately. She works independantly and doesnt have to come into the office, but she did. Kept falling asleep, puked in her trash can...that sort of thing. She said she was gonna go home and go to sleep. I know her on a personal level and I asked her if she was pregnant and she said no.

Today she text me. She took a test this morning and it was positive. She took two more after that and they were positive too.

An unplanned pregnancy. She seems excited tho, so I am happy for her. But geez. How is it so easy for people to get pregnant like that and for me (and the rest of us) who are trying it is so difficult?

I am being ing to feel like I have been ripped off.

[madmum_sarah]

vanessa
i wish i could help to understand this but i cant because we all know how difficult it is.
i just wanted to let you know that i totally understand how you feel about this as it seems to happen everywhere i look.
keep your chin up hunny, your time is coming and you will realise then that it was worth every moment of pain and patience
xxx

[Enchanted Mumma]

I know exactly how you feel....we've only just started to TTC # 2 (It's not like we only just decided to start, we've wanted another for a while but I was unable to due to my suffering severe PPD after Taeleigh). I watched my best friend fall pregnant...and my sister fell pregnant and nearly everyone I know who has a baby around the same age as my first (nearly 2) is either pregnant or already had their 2nd baby...and we HAD to wait!

We finally get the go ahead and we fall pregnant pretty quickly but we m/c...

Sometimes I feel guilty for complaining as I am already blessed with one beautiful little girl but we so want another...so badly.

It cuts when I hear about ANOTHER person who fell pregnant when you so badly want a baby but its out of your control...hopefully we will both have some good news soon.

Chin up....

[Christine-MA]

I agree it's not fair. My sister (and mom actually) got pregnant at 16. My cousin is due in October and isn't married or in a good financial situation. I know some people think things happen for a reason, but I'm still having a hard time with that.

to you. I hope you get your BFP soon!

[KDD]

Nessy, I think we all know how you feel. Even though we're happy for people who are trying when they do get a BFP - it's hard for us when they get it so quickly.

Before we every started to try I was sure that it would be easy to get pg. It had to be right? Otherwise think of all the time and effort (and money) I wasted all those years before trying to prevent it.

Now I realize that it will happen in it's own sweet time and that I have to learn to be patient. I try not to think of how easy some of my friends have it.

[*Bobbie*]

Here is my take on this....

I think we are dealt these struggles because it makes us exceptional mothers.... not just average ones.

I have been on both sides of this. I got pregnant at 15 and now at 33 it took me 7 years and three losses to get where I am today. Instead of taking pregnancy and life for granted I thank God every day for another day I get to have this baby growing inside of me. I know once this little guy is here there won't be a single middle of the night feeding I won't welcome with a smile.

It is so hard when it feels like it will never happen....getting a sticky BFP... but once it does it feels like all that time was just the blink of an eye. If you want a baby bad enough you will have one. Don't stop believing in you and the child you will someday have.

I agree it is sooooo hard though to know something comes so easy to those who don't want it... but we are left with the pain of wanting it so bad it HURTS



Chin up girl.... you turn is coming And you will be an amazing mom because of it!

[Jessica!]

I feel the same way. My cousin had a one night stand and ended up pregnant with twins.

She is 22 yrs old, lives with mommy, and makes $7/hr at Arby's.

It irritates me.

[~*Nessy*~]

Thanks for being so understnding. I never used to even notice pregnant women when I went places. Now I swear they are everywhere. All of my friends are getting pregnant, even the ones that arent trying. I try to smile and be happy for them, but in the back of my mind I feel like it should be me. I feel like I am being incredibly selfish. I've never been a "Me, Mine, I want" type of person but I feel myself starting to fel that way.

[HippyMomOf4]

thats how it always goes!

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

I totaly understand how your feeling. When DH and I were TTC it took us a year to get this baby after having been through 2 losses in two years. Right after I found out I was pg I found out my cousin was also pg with an opps and still lives at home with her parents and the dad isnt even the best person. She is due the day after me. It shocked me so much to think that DH and I had been through so much and had to take medication to get pg this time and all she had to do was sleep with someone other then who she was dating at the time. I just couldnt wrap my brain around it all. But now I relize that those things only make us stronger and will make a stronger bond with our baby. You will have a baby and you will love them more then you ever thought you could love another human being because of the journey you went throught to get that baby. Never give up and you will reach your dream. hon.

[*Bobbie*]

The best way I found to deal with the PG bellies is to try an imagine what the woman must have gone through to get that belly. I always wonder if maybe the belly is an IVF belly...or 15 years of infertility...or multiple unexplained losses. It's hard to see past the belly...but sometimes it works. Sometimes it still makes you cry no matter how hard you try not to.

Anyways.... I do have some lucky tests left over..... want them?

[..Jessica..]

I couldn't understand more, Ness. And I completely agree with you - it DOES hurt.