[IAMommy]

SO, it's our 4th anniversary today, and dh didn't forget about it, but he didn't do anything for it either. I'm a little upset about it. I worked all day, got off work, got a nice card for him, and bought some stuff to make him a nice dinner and got a bottle of wine to share.

Well, when I got home, he didn't even get off the couch, he just said hi, and happy anniversary. when i gave him the card, he said "ohhh, I haven't got you anything - let me leave and get you a card - I'll be right back." I stopped him, and said that wasn't the point. Don't go and buy a card now. So he said OK, and went outside to have a smoke!!!!!! (Men are so stupid - didn't he realize that he should have 1) Thought of something for our anniversary BEFORE I got home and 2) when I said you don't have to go - HE SHOULD HAVE GONE ANYWAY!!!!!)

I am REALLY TRYING to be a little understanding. We had a friend of the family pass away earlier this week, and his funeral was today. I left work to go to the funeral, and then went back, but he took the whole day off. I know he is sad about our friends passing, I am too, but that doesn't mean that our anniversary should be forgotten.

I don't need jewelry, or clothes or anything else fancy. BUT a card or something would have been nice. He has never forgotten to do something for our anniversary before, and it really sucks!!!!!

[~*Nessy*~]

I am sorry DH didnt get you anything. That has to be hard. Especially when it's not really the gift but the thought that matters the most to you.


Forgive me. I am being very fiesty right now.

Hubby and I dont spend alot of money on each other but we always get eachother a little something that we can keep over the years. I would buy yourself something on his behalf.

[IAMommy]

It's not that I wanted a thing, I just wanted recogition of the day that was more heartfelt than a "Hey you, happy anniversay" while sitting on the couch. I do not want my marriage to be that way, and it never has been in the past. We have gone though a lot of losses this year, and I feel like we kinda give up on celebrating the good things.

Oh, well, this probably isn't comming off very good, I'm terrible at writing, I just can't seem to get my thoughts accross very well.

I know what you mean, hun. It's hard to be disappointed in the one you love. Maybe he'll make it up to you?

[KDD]

Well, when I got home, he didn't even get off the couch, he just said hi, and happy anniversary. when i gave him the card, he said "ohhh, I haven't got you anything - let me leave and get you a card - I'll be right back." I stopped him, and said that wasn't the point. Don't go and buy a card now. So he said OK, and went outside to have a smoke!!!!!! (Men are so stupid - didn't he realize that he should have 1) Thought of something for our anniversary BEFORE I got home and 2) when I said you don't have to go - HE SHOULD HAVE GONE ANYWAY!!!!!)[/b]

DH & I had a good chuckle. You would think that after 4 years he would know that when you say not to do something, that he should do it. Maybe he'll make up for it on the weekend.

[madmum_sarah]

men can be so totally useless sometimes but even more so if they have something else on their mind (like your friend passing)
mine gave me the same reaction last month but i kind of expected it from him as we are not married and he "doesnt do anniversaries as you shouldnt need to celebrate making it through another year" but he did stay over just to cuddle up and watch a film with me.
i hope he makes it up to you over the weekend hun but if not then maybe next year you should turn the tables on him, thats my plan
xx

[IAMommy]

Thanks you guys, I know I was being a little selfish that day. I was having a bad day, and I over-reacted. The silly thing is that I know that DH loves me, and I should have been more supportive of him. The good thing is though that I kept my calm around him, because I was able to post about it here. Thanks for letting me get my frustration out!!