[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Well ladies, let me start by saying, I love you all dearly. I haven't posted much here lately for a few reasons..........I have read from quite a few women who don't like seeing the TTCAL grads post for various reasons. I spent so much time with so many of you on here, that I just can't stay away. TTCAL is so hard. We all know that. I don't want to cause anyone any further pain. So................................................ ....I don't think I'll post here much anymore. There are so many mixed feelings from some ladies about posting on here while being pregnant. There are a few that I do pm now and again. I will continue to do that. If anyone wants to check in with me ever, please pm me. I just don't want to cause any hurt feelings by posting here. This is a wonderful, supportive board. I would've never made it my 9 months ttcal without it. I wish you all the best and loads of baby dust to each of you and sticky beans.

[madmum_sarah]

noooo michelle
i cant lose you!!!!! i love the girls here but you know that you and eleysia were the ones who helped me the most when i first joined and have always had a very special place in my heart!
my god im bawling my eyes out here! please dont leave us!!!!!!
i totally understand what you are saying but
i would just stalk you on the grads but i cant face seeing them and knowing i will never get to be there too im going to miss you so much. its not fair
i love you girl!!!!
xx

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

noooo michelle
i cant lose you!!!!! i love the girls here but you know that you and eleysia were the ones who helped me the most when i first joined and have always had a very special place in my heart!
my god im bawling my eyes out here! please dont leave us!!!!!!
i totally understand what you are saying but
i would just stalk you on the grads but i cant face seeing them and knowing i will never get to be there too im going to miss you so much. its not fair
i love you girl!!!!
xx[/b]

Sarah, I will never leave you. I promise to keep you updated via pm weekly if not more. You have been a true friend to me. I won't lose that ever!! I love you too, girl! You won't be missing me, because I'll be sending you messages all the time. I will be stalking you for updates and then I will pm you. Does that work for you? You are and always will be my dear friend. You truly helped me through so much!!

[Pitridge]

Well ladies, let me start by saying, I love you all dearly. I haven't posted much here lately for a few reasons..........I have read from quite a few women who don't like seeing the TTCAL grads post for various reasons. I spent so much time with so many of you on here, that I just can't stay away. TTCAL is so hard. We all know that. I don't want to cause anyone any further pain. So................................................ ....I don't think I'll post here much anymore. There are so many mixed feelings from some ladies about posting on here while being pregnant. There are a few that I do pm now and again. I will continue to do that. If anyone wants to check in with me ever, please pm me. I just don't want to cause any hurt feelings by posting here. This is a wonderful, supportive board. I would've never made it my 9 months ttcal without it. I wish you all the best and loads of baby dust to each of you and sticky beans.[/b]

I want to say that I am sorry if if have cause any of you any pain, it was not my intention. I feel really bad that I never knew this could be hurting people. I haven't heard from anybody that some women don't like TTCAL grads to post, if I would of known I would stoped posting.
Michelle, I don't mean to steal you post but since you brought it up I thought I would say something too.
I breaks my heart to leave and not post here as much, but if it causes pain to other people I don't want that. You girls have been supporting me throught so much, that I can't live without you. Michelle has said it all best of luck to all of you and lots of dust to you girls.

[Wee3monkeys]

Well, Pooh, Michelle!! I post here more than you do lately, no one has said anything to me. Maybe because they know you better, or something. I haven't seen anything negative about us being over here in a long time. I'm terribly sorry that you are being made to feel that way!!

Is that true ladies, is our being here more hurtful than our support is helpful? We love you guys, that's why we're still here. But like Patty said, I don't want to be hurting anyone by posting over here. I guess I'm not really sure what to do at this point.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm sorry I brought this up. It just seems like some have posted about pg women on boards and IRL. I don't want to hurt anyone. We all had a loss. We all know how much it hurts. When I was ttc, I loved hearing from the grads who were pg. It gave me so much hope. Everyone is different though. Maybe it hurts some of you and that's not our intent.

Please just let us know where we stand. Please be honest. That's all we're asking for.

[princesskate]

Right im going to be brutally honest here, so I hope I dont offend/upset anyone.

Sometimes, just sometimes, when I see pregnancy tickers and siggies I get really upset. I actually cried the other day when I saw a scan pic in a siggy request, so its not just this board. But Its not because I dont wanna be happy for the pregnant person though, its because I think 'hey why cant that be me' or ' When am I gonna get my bfp?'

But....when I am not in a horrible, feel sorry for myself, cry at everything to do with baby mood, I actually like seeing scan pics/bfp's ect...it gives me hope that ONE day that will be me

There, theres my honest answer

[jenn27]

I hope my post in the private forum has not affected your decisions. I want to say from the bottom of my heart that I want you ladies to stay. Ya'll being a part of this board gives me hope that I to will get there when the time is right. Please don't leave. I personally want you all to stay. I don't have a problem with ladies that are pregnant. The situation with my friend has hurt my feelings but I in no way meant to hurt or offend any of you. That is the honest to god truth. I feel bad now because I didn't mean for my post to be directed towards any of you wonderful ladies. PLEASE STAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't leave us. There are ladies that are not actively ttc, ladies that are ttc, and ladies like ya'll that have been where we are and give us hope and remind us that it will happen. It kind of balances things out. I can't speak for anyone else but I promise ya'll being a part of this board does not bother me in the least. I love all you ladies. I respect whatever decision that you make but I would love if ya'll would stay with us and continue to be a part of your group. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !

[..Jessica..]

I don't want anyone leaving.

If you preggo ladies want, just turn off your siggies when you reply, so the people who's feelings get hurt won't see your tickers and blinkies.

That's the only thing I can suggest. Since I don't want anyone leaving.

[kellyanne]

Well, I can only speak for myself but I've always thought that having "grads" on the board gives me hope. Now that I've been here so long, it does even more because I can remember the m/c s and struggles w/ TTC that you all had (Michelle, it really blows my mind that you are almost 18 weeks already). So, I vote NO, don't leave.

[azura24]

<span style="font-family:Arial Narrow">I am ttcal. I am currently ttc with clomid (my first cycle with meds) I dont have any prob seeing any posts here. I actually like to see the posts. I personally go into the DDC and lurk there from time to time because it just gives me hope. I personally dont have a prob with it at all and I just wonder if we are TTC why would it upset any of us? I was just wondering this. I know it can be very sensitive as I have been through a m/c with twins in 2004 and a recent m/c earlier this year but I believe this is a support board for women Trying to conceive after loss I believe everyone is doing their part to try to "warn" the topic. Maybe I am stepping on toes...but I have seen a few ladies get pushed off the board before and I dont think it is fair that anyone else should have to also. I love everyone on this board dont get me wrong and I have no pinpoints to say who is doing or saying what but honestly, I post seldom on here because when I was introduced to this board the same thing was going on and it was just too much drama for me to handle at the time and instead of feeling comfortable and welcome here, I felt pushed away and didnt want to deal with it. I love you preggo after loss ladies, I love the ttc after loss ladies, I think everyone is doing a wonderful job at doing there part and it will be a shame if anyone has to leave!</span>

[madmum_sarah]

im sorry to say but i really cant take this tonight.
this week 2 people i care about have given birth, my due date is fast approaching and the girls i need the most are the ones that understand, were there for me and who can give me hope that one day, we can all graduate from here.
im going to bed now bcause i really cant cry any more. if people are going to be leaving then im afraid i will be too because it just wouldnt be the same without you all here.
yes, there are days i get upset at bfps or births, but its normally people who cant cope with the kids they have, had a one night stand or didnt want more children. life is just so unfair in that way but NEVER would i be upset seeing messages from you girls, you have all been where i am so i know you understand and deserve your bfps!
take care girls
remember i love you all
xx

[Wee3monkeys]

Awww, thank you ladies!! That makes me feel so much better!!! See, I love you all, you're my girls!! I want so much for all of us! I want to be here and support everyone, and just stay friends w/ all of you! I don't want to leave, I love you ladies and posting over here!

[Pitridge]

Awww, thank you ladies!! That makes me feel so much better!!! See, I love you all, you're my girls!! I want so much for all of us! I want to be here and support everyone, and just stay friends w/ all of you! I don't want to leave, I love you ladies and posting over here! [/b]

I will turn the off the siggi like Jess suggested if that makes people feel better

[~*Nessy*~]

I'm personally not offended. I'm not offended by anything I see in anyone's siggies. I very much enjoy seeing everyones tickers and seeing how they have progressed from TTCAL to PAL. It makes me feel like it will be me someday. It also helps me to get an idea of what I might expect to happen. I know the ladies that have been thru this before I or been thru this multiple times can give me much needed moral support and insight. I enjoy everyones posts. I might not reply to every post because either my remarks have already been said by someone else or I have had a mind fart. But I do enjoy reading.

[Mum2three]

Not trying to be rude, i understand everyones feelings towards pregnancy. And honestly people should be happy that we are GRADS. that our babies are in our arms not in a coffin or hanging on our walls in a urn. I get that it is painful as i have been hurt to ttcing/ seeing everyone with BFP or pregnancy tickers, but i would think to myself, i wonder what her story was or is? was she another woman that suffered like i did. No one should have to leave ttcal, NO ONE!

This is a place to vent to yell to pull our hair out, ask questions and be a bit crazy sometimes. thats human nature, but no one should make others feel like crap cause they are pregnant, think about their history.

Thats my 2 cents, i hope i did offend anyone if i have PM me then...

Sorry that everyone feels this way.

Hugs to everyone!

Michelle you best be keeping me posted!! Loves ya hun!

[cherryblossom88]

me personally i like to hear from people who graduate. i like to hear how ther doing.

[jenn27]

It seems to me like everyone wants you ladies to stay. I don't have a problem with the siggy's and tickers either. I think you should be able to keep them and be proud of how far you have come. We have all been there at one time or another and we all have our bad days and gloomy days but nothing will get accomplished by you ladies leaving us. Nothing at all. Please don't go. I'm beggig you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love you ladies.

[Pitridge]

WOW, I'm almost in tears now, you girls are the best, I love you girls all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[princesskate]

Im sorry if I offended/upset anyone. I didnt say I have a problem with tickers and siggies, I just said they upset me sometimes. But thats when I have down days, not all the time. I didnt mean I wanted anyone to leave If I have upset anyone then I am truely deeply sorry. That wasnt my intention, I gave my honest thoughts that were not meant to upset anyone.

I am so rubbish with words sometimes