when you have/had a baby and you bring them home from the hospital???


My biggest fear will be:

What other ppl expect from me and I'll be too hard on myself. I know that sounds dumb, but....I have a Bachelors degree in Child Development, emphasis on infant studies, I have been a nanny and preschool infant/toddler teacher for years. I think ppl will expect me to know how to do everything and be a "perfect" mom. But, I always have a good nights sleep, get paid, and know I have the weekends off. It'll be very different when I have my own kids and it's not just a job anymore. Lol. I don't know why I'm thinking about this!



What about you?

[IAMommy]

When I was pg, the biggest fear for bring baby home was making the best decision for child care while I was at work. I have known several people who were sexually abused as toddlers at private daycare, and my biggest fear was that I would make the wrong decision and my baby would be hurt in the worst way.

[MusicalJulia]

My biggest fear in having a child, and bringing them home... is losing me. Losing US. I know our lives will drastically change once we have a child. We're so used to picking up and GOING. We can go out at 10pm because.. we can. We can be spontanious. We can decide at last minute to pack up and have a mini vacation one weekend. We can nap if we want! Obviously, that will change when we have a baby!

Of course, drastic changes in our lives are TOTALLY worth it.. but as a first timer, they're still a bit scary.

[amy2008]

My biggest fear is a bit more down the road. I am intentionally trying to become a single mom via donor sperm. What if I somehow fail that child and they feel somehow *less* than other kids because mine doesn't have a dad? Intellectually I know there are NUMEROUS single moms and their kids turn out fine, I just hope my choice of having a sperm donor doesn't make it worse....

I have an excellent support system and for the most part am fairly confident in how I will handle everything....but this is what I wrestle with the most.

I'm scared of not being able to juggle my toddler with breastfeeding a newborn. I breastfed my DD for 14 months and I just want to give our next baby the same opportunity, but I worry if my toddler will not like me as much because I won't have as much time one on one with her.

[AliciaF]

Starting over!

I'm done with the sleepless nights, the diapers, strollers, etc etc etc. Both of my boys are in school for 6 1/2 hours a day and I want to start over?!?

Yet, I have this need to do it. I don't feel our family is complete.

[Enchanted Mumma]

Having a relapse on me PPD. I was diagnosed with severe PPD when Taeleigh was 1 week old, I am so scared it will happen again and then I worry about the effects it will have on both kids but especially Taeleigh because she will be older.
The positive is that I will know what is going on the next time and the steps to take to get help and put my support systems in place...the time would be very different in that aspect (but fingers crossed there won't be a relapse).

[Brittanie]

For me? I went through all of those fears with Erin. I'm much more confident in my ability as a mother now that I have one. I'm worried about being overwhelmed by 2, but it's not really a fear. But I'm terrified of SIDS. I still worry every night when I go to bed that Erin won't be breathing when I wake up in the morning, and she's 15 months old. It's so much scarier with a newborn.

So, in the end, my biggest fear is still yet another loss.