[~SaRa~]

Hi everyone. This is my first post, and I'm not sure if I am posting it in the right place...but I need some encouragement and you are the ladies with the experience that I need!!
I am a mother of three (8,6,2), and i miscarried my little angel in January at 11 weeks. I had to have a D&C...and it was the WORST experience of my life!!! I was staying in a domestic violence shelter. I had been there about 3 weeks. The baby's dad (my husb) didn't even know I was pregnant..still doesn't know we lost a baby. I had to go through that completely ALONE. I was devastated, and for about 3 months I was not able to stop crying and actually function normally. The pain was overwhelming, both physically and emotionally. I don't want to ever go through that again...
I am in a new relationship (not the abusive one anymore)...and this morning, 36 days since my last period...i got a BFP.
I am scared and excited at the same time, but mostly SCARED!!!!! What if i lose this baby too????????? I am so terrified! I don't want to even tell any of my friends that I am pregnant, because I am afraid I will lose my baby.
I knew you ladies probably experience the same fears...so, any advice?

[Christine-MA]

You've been through a lot, I'm so sorry!

You're most likely not anymore likely to miscarry this baby just because you miscarried before. But I imagine it's still scary. I most likely won't tell anyone for quite a few weeks next time I get pregnant. That's completely up to you though. The fears are totally normal though, and I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

[amy2008]

Welcome! First I am sorry for the loss of your baby in January. Second, congrats on the pregnancy (and new relationship!). It is totally normal to be completely terrified at this point (and many points down the road!). It is completely up to you when you start sharing the news, but for me, I am only going to tell my family until I am at least out of my first trimester.

Good luck! I wish you a happy & healthy pregnancy!!!

[MusicalJulia]

((HUGS)) I'm SO sorry for what you've been through recently. How hard to deal with a loss of a baby, on top of an abusive relationship. I can't imagine. I'm very glad you got out of that situation, and REALLY glad you now have someone to treat you better.

All of your feelings are normal. I'm not even pregnant right now, but I'm still worried about the day I get my BFP. Keep your head high.. I'm sure things will be just fine. Congrats!