When you do get your BFP.....

katiegirl · #1 September 23rd, 2008, 12:50 PM

When will you announce it to others?
Will there be a select few that will know at first or are you planning on sharing the news with many?

#2 September 23rd, 2008, 01:16 PM

hmmm this is a tough one....

I would want to tell everyone because jeez louise I've been waiting nine months so far to get pg again...but last time we waited til I was 12 weeks and "safe", we told our parents and grandparents and then shortly after that I m/c. So this time I think I would tell my bff and wait til I'm about 20 weeks to tell family. I just can't go through it all again.

AliciaF · #3 September 23rd, 2008, 01:23 PM

My kids can't handle another loss. They took the loss of their brother very hard. For that reason we will only telling a select few, like my mom and bff. Of course, I show very early so it will be hard to hide for longer than 8 or so weeks.

katiegirl · #4 September 23rd, 2008, 02:06 PM

I say now that I will only tell a select few but who knows.
I may end up blabbing it to everyone.

MusicalJulia · #5 September 23rd, 2008, 02:08 PM

I'll shout it to the world.
You would think I wouldn't.. because I know what can happen. I know things can be perfect one minute- one minute you're hearing a beautiful heartbeat, and the next thing you know you're bleeding and clotting .. and everything is snatched away from you.
But... my family and friends were SO supportive when we had our miscarriage. I've had BOTH family members and friends with losses, so a lot of my loved ones understood. I can't IMAGINE not having them with me through it. So, god FORBID that ever happened again... I would want the same support.
So, I will definitely tell everyone right away. Not to mention - I'm terrible at secrets, and a horrible liar!

mary30 · #6 September 23rd, 2008, 02:22 PM

That is a hard one. I waited for sure until 12 weeks ,but now i am going to wait until about 20 22 weeks. That is when I probably will start showing. Just had a miscarriage at 19 weeks. If I do tell anyone it will be my sister . then again I might not tell anyone.

If we get pregnant again my Dh said this time I could find out the sex of the baby !!!! I think It was hard on him this last time not knowing what the baby was going to be.

LifeToTheMax · #7 September 23rd, 2008, 02:36 PM

I will probably wait as long as I possibly can. I might tell DF right away

But everyone else will just have to wait, probably until I start showing and can't reasonably hide it anymore. I just don't want to put up with their criticism. It's my choice, it's my baby (and DF's) and we want him/her.

Eleysia · #8 September 23rd, 2008, 02:41 PM

Thats a toughie. I think for my personal situation, id wait until I was showing. i just dunno though. Hard to say. I dont think id wait to be in a "safe" zone, but just because Will and I havnt been together long, if it happened id wait for a while. BUT luckily it wont happen any time soon so yeah...

Christine-MA · #9 September 23rd, 2008, 03:08 PM

Besides DH I think I'll tell my one best friend immediately. After that, I plan on waiting until 12 weeks or so (whenever I have an u/s around then and see the hb) to tell my family. I don't know if it'll happen. I thought I'd wait at least a few weeks with my first pregnancy and I lasted a day LOL But God Forbid I do miscarry again, I will tell my immediate family that I had a miscarriage. I just want to save them the weeks and weeks of being so excited I guess.

..Jessica.. · #10 September 23rd, 2008, 03:31 PM

My BFF's would know immediately because I'd need the support. My parents and sister would know quickly as well. As for his family I'm not sure. The rest of my family and friends would find out either from a birth announcement or a baby shower invite. They don't live near me, so, that's the best way I think.

HippyMomOf4 · #11 September 23rd, 2008, 05:00 PM

When will you announce it to others? Prolly around 12 weeks, if i can keep it in until then lol
Will there be a select few that will know at first or are you planning on sharing the news with many? Just my mom and dad, the in laws and some close friends!

#12 September 23rd, 2008, 08:21 PM

I will tell my DH immediately!!! And I'm "hoping" to be able to wait to tell everyone until I have my first ultrasound. I want to mail everyone a copy in a "Thinking about you" or "Just wanted to say HI" card!!!! So probably 8 wks or so...lol

tracalyn · #13 September 24th, 2008, 03:13 AM

I have an entire cheering squad at my work who knows I've been going to the RE. So there was NO keeping a secret. And I couldn't help but show off my BFP.

The entire immediate family knows and DD is now referring to my belly as 'Baby Crumb' again. Then it'll be 'Baby Blueberry' 'Baby Grape' etc.