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kingdink · #1 September 24th, 2008, 06:41 PM

Hi, Everyone!

My name is Jo and I found out last friday, at 8 weeks, that I was having a m/c. I had been a member of the May DDC and it broke my heart to leave. The pregnancy had been a surprise, but was very, very wanted, so I know I want to TTC again as soon as I'm ready. The nurse told me I should technically wait 1 cycle before trying again, but she recommended 3 to heal emotionally. While this has been hard, I really think that in a month I will be ready. I am afraid for another loss, but I won't let it scare me out of trying again. I won't let it scare me out of trying to complete our family. If it happens again, it happens again, but there is nothing I can do to control it, so I can't let fear control me. This is basically a 180* change from what I felt like sitting in the nurses office or even the first couple days and I know I'll probably have some hesitation, but I just keep telling myself that I can't let this be it because it wouldn't be fair to change our plan because of this one awful thing that happened.

Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself, hopefully I don't sound too nuts.

I've just gotten really excited about this and am feeling incredibly determined. I look forward to reading some success stories in here and sharing experiences with those who have been through similar situations. I can't wait to get to know everyone better!

Jo

Oh, and BTW, I have been posting for the past month and a half as ShockedMama and you can still find my posts under that name, but I decided to go back to my old screen name. I don't know if anybody knew me as that, but just in case, I thought I would clarifiy.

MusicalJulia · #2 September 24th, 2008, 07:12 PM

Hi Jo ((HUGS)) I'm so sorry for your loss

I know your feelings completely! I think that fear will always remain.. when you have a loss, you know what can be 'snatched' away in the blink of an eye.. it's a scary thing. But never let fear run you from your dreams. I look forward to knowing you better, and wish you tons of luck TTC (a healthy bean!!!).

Btw- I'm Julia

My DH is Matt.. and we're TTC #1 after a miscarriage at 10 weeks.

taatie10 · #3 September 24th, 2008, 09:25 PM

Hi I'm Katie. I'm sorry you have come to join us.
First of all I am very sorry to hear that. You do not sound crazy or nuts with anything you said.
I too just experienced a loss. 2 weeks ago today during an ultrasound discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. I was having no problems or anything so I went through with a D&C. It killed me to leave the April DDC. Mine was also an unexpected pregnancy but very much wanted. My docotr said to wait 3-4 months before trying. But I think that is due to my health conditions. My husband wants to wait 6 months. It seems like forever now but it will go by fast I'm sure since it will fly by with the holidays.

If you dont mind me asking are you miscarrying natural with bleeding and cramping or are you waiting to miscarry since the baby no longer has a heartbeat? Was this going to be your first or do you have other children?

Christine-MA · #4 September 25th, 2008, 06:32 AM

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a m/c at the end of August. I was 10 weeks when I found out there was no heartbeat, and started to m/c 2 days later and also had a D&C. I went through the same thing you did. I actually had the intial thought how would I ever do it again? Then a few days later I said I'd wait 2-3 months to TTC again. Now I'm just waiting for AF to come so we can start this cycle! You sound like you have a great attitude for what you've gone through, and I wish you the best of luck.

#5 September 25th, 2008, 07:08 AM

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am really glad to hear that you are thinking positive and determined to go on with TTC. After my m/c I went back and forth for a couple weeks, but it was really a no brainer to TTC asap again. I hope you have better luck than me though, I've been trying over 9 months to get pg again!

Also, I noticed you're from MN but missing WI. I'm from Oshkosh, WI. What about you???? We need more Wisconsin girls around here, Jessica is from Janesville and I think Lynda is from WI too!

So welcome to the board, you will love this bunch of ladies, they are all so helpful and supportive. I look forward to getting to know you better.

kingdink · #6 September 25th, 2008, 08:33 AM

Thanks for the warm welcome!

As for the questions, I went in to be checked out last Friday because I was spotting red the night before. By the time I was in the car I started to cramp and when I got to the office and the u/s tech sent me to use the bathroom, it was really starting. So when she checked she could see my body was already pushing everything towards my cervix. I hadn't lost the baby at that point, but you could see it would be soon. Since my body was already taking over, we just let things be. The u/s tech said from the looks of things it would be over quickly and it was. I am just spotting at this point and thankful I didn't need any other intervention.

I am married to Josh and we celebrated 5 years in March. I'm 28 and he's 30. We have 2 boys, Malachi (Kai) who is 4 and Ezekiel (Zeke) who is 2.

I am from WI and I really do miss it. I am originally from a little town in Sheboygan County, Cedar Grove, but most recently lived in Mount Horeb, which is about 20 minutes outside of Madison. I went to school in Green Bay and Oshkosh and my closest friend lives in New London, so I wouldn't mind moving back to that area. My DH has an interview north of Wausau in a couple weeks, so we'll see how that goes. Locationwise it is really not ideal, but it would get me back "home."

Thanks again to everyone. I am just really glad this board is here so I can make a positive step forward. I'm really excited to be here.

Mommy0305 · #7 September 25th, 2008, 09:04 AM

I'm Jamie, welcome to the board and I'm sorry about your loss.

Wee3monkeys · #8 September 25th, 2008, 09:46 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss!! Welcome to TTCAL, the ladies here are wonderfully supportive! Good luck, I hope to see your sticky bfp soon!!!!!

HippyMomOf4 · #9 September 25th, 2008, 11:55 AM

i'm so sorry for you loss!

I'm Denise(23) DH is Chris(25) he is in the United States Navy, i'm a SHAM to Isis(3) and Athena(2) and we also have 3 angel babies! The ladies here are all great and very supportive!

KDD · #10 September 25th, 2008, 07:33 PM

Jo. It's always bittersweet to welcome new members. We love to have you, but we hate the reason why you're here.

I'm Kimberley, married to Jason. We're in our 5th cycle of TTC after our m/c in April. This is a very supportive group and we are happy that you are here.