[BellaBellski]

I don't know if I'm going to be able to wait until January to start TTC again.... my baby fever is hiiiigh! But part of me feels like I should at least wait until after my EDD - because it seems like the 'right' thing to do. But I don't know... Did anyone get preggo again before their EDD? How did you feel on your EDD? Do you think it made it easier - since you knew you had a little one to look forward to or harder - did you feel guilty about getting pregnant again so soon?


edited to rephrase the question

[taatie10]

My EDD was going to be 4/24/09. I was 8 weeks when I lost the baby and had a D&C. It was 2 weeks ago that this happened. My Dr told me I should wait 3-4 months before TTC. Which would still be 3 or 4 months shy of my EDD. My husband wants to wait 6 months before trying. I am in the same boat with you I have baby fever very much. I want to have a baby even more now than before I got pregnant.
I personally dont know how I will handle my EDD. I really want to be pregnant again when it rolls around so that way it doesnt hit me as hard I'm hoping.

If you dont mind me asking, how far along were you? what was your EDD? How long ago did this happen? DId your docotr recommend 3 months for waiting to TTC.

[BellaBellski]

My EDD was going to be 4/24/09. I was 8 weeks when I lost the baby and had a D&C. It was 2 weeks ago that this happened. My Dr told me I should wait 3-4 months before TTC. Which would still be 3 or 4 months shy of my EDD. My husband wants to wait 6 months before trying. I am in the same boat with you I have baby fever very much. I want to have a baby even more now than before I got pregnant.
I personally dont know how I will handle my EDD. I really want to be pregnant again when it rolls around so that way it doesnt hit me as hard I'm hoping.

If you dont mind me asking, how far along were you? what was your EDD? How long ago did this happen? DId your docotr recommend 3 months for waiting to TTC.[/b]

I don't mind

I was 21 weeks and I was due Christmas Day We went in for my ultrasound at 19.1 weeks (you only get one here!) and we discovered that the baby had really bad birth defects. He didn't have any limbs, at all. Not even stubs. Not even enough to ever be able to use prosthetics. Just a head on a torso all of the doctors told me they could not medically advise me to continue the pregnancy because the defects were so severe. Me and DF knew they were right, his quality of life would have been zip. It was and continues to be the hardest thing I've been through in my life. I was sent to a specialist in Edmonton and after another u/s and an amniocentesis I was induced at 21 weeks and he was born still on August 13th. The perinatologist told me to wait 3 cycles - my family doctor said I could start trying as soon as AF showed up again. When it happened I didn't think I would ever want to try again, and if I did it wouldn't be for at least a year... but now I'm having a hard time even waiting three cycles. I know in my heart that he will never be replaced. He will always be my son and I will always mourn for him on the 13th of August, and Christmas time will never be quite as happy as it used to be. But I also know that my hubby and I want more babies. Soon. I don't want to start TTC after three cycles because that would put my due date around the same time as my loss and I don't really want that. I've had one AF so I know I'm ovulating, and I'm thinking if she shows up on time again next month we may just not prevent and if it happens, it happens if not - we'll skip a month and try again in late December

[Christine-MA]

I definitely hope I'm pregnant by my EDD (Which was March 17th, my birthday). I won't feel bad about it.

[Mommy0305]

I really hope to be pregnant again by my EDD which was February 28th. I think I'll feel much worse if my due date rolls around and I'm not pregnant again.

[kingdink]

We're going to try as soon as we can. I am sad, but I know that I don't want to wait months and months and months. I don't think it will help me and I don't think I'm dishonoring the memory of the child that I wanted and lost. I feel like I have to make the most of every day I have and I really don't want to waste them dwelling on the sadness and wanting a baby when I could be trying again. So that's what we're going to do.

[going4it]

I won't be able to wait. I'm trying after the first month, just wait on AF to get here IF I'm not already pg.

[KDD]

I really hope to be pregnant again by my EDD which was February 28th. I think I'll feel much worse if my due date rolls around and I'm not pregnant again.[/b]

for me. My EDD is coming up fast - November 8

[taatie10]

I really hope to be pregnant again by my EDD which was February 28th. I think I'll feel much worse if my due date rolls around and I'm not pregnant again.[/b]

I totally agree. I really hope I will be pregnant by April 24th (my EDD). I think it will be a feeling of loss and this whole in my heart even more if I have dont have another baby to look forward to. Instead I will just be focused on what I dont have and wont ever get back.

[Buttercups]

I really hope to be pregnant again by my EDD which was February 28th. I think I'll feel much worse if my due date rolls around and I'm not pregnant again.[/b]

I agree. Mine rolled around last month and it was difficult. Particularly since two other women in my social circle who conceived at the same time delivered their babies.

I say go for it! Being pregnant will probably ease the pain.

[mdredmon1]

I know exactly how you feel. Baby fever is killing me. I lost my little girl at 27 weeks due to placenta issues. Of course I had a c-section so my doctor wants me to wait at least 6 months. In Oct. it will be 6 months. I would like to start trying now but my hubby is not ready. I would definitely like to start trying in Jan. I don't think your feelings are going to be any different when your EDD comes around. My EDD was July 14th so when it came all I did was cry all day. I wanted her back not just a baby...I wanted her. You really need to make sure you are emotionally ok. I am sure that is why the docs have us wait so long.

[BellaBellski]

I know exactly how you feel. Baby fever is killing me. I lost my little girl at 27 weeks due to placenta issues. Of course I had a c-section so my doctor wants me to wait at least 6 months. In Oct. it will be 6 months. I would like to start trying now but my hubby is not ready. I would definitely like to start trying in Jan. I don't think your feelings are going to be any different when your EDD comes around. My EDD was July 14th so when it came all I did was cry all day. I wanted her back not just a baby...I wanted her. You really need to make sure you are emotionally ok. I am sure that is why the docs have us wait so long.[/b]

Don't get me wrong, I am going to feel that way too - I want Damian back, but I know that that isn't going to happen. I believe that he is around me and he is happy and one day I will see him again. But that doesn't mean I don't want another baby. The next baby will always be considered my third baby to me, I will always love and miss Damian but I need to move on at the same time. Like a PP said you have live your life and be grateful for every day you have - take advantage of the time we're here and not just stew over something you can't change. It doesn't mean I don't love my angel son, I do, so much, but nothing will ever bring him back. My husband and I want more kids, losing Damian solidified that for us. It made me realize how precious life really is and that I should never take advantage of the gift of pregnancy again. I don't think that a 'new baby' is going to 'heal' me or anything like that. There is just something missing in our lives, our DD needs a sibling, we've felt that way for a long time. I want to finally fill that gap. Ykwim?


eta... I think 6 months is the standard wait for after a c-section, no? like, Physically I mean. Doctors have no right to tell us when we are mentally ready - only we know that.

second eta (lol) thanks everyone for the help, I think I know how I feel about it now. I think through all of you - I understand me Thanks.

[BellaBellski]

I definitely hope I'm pregnant by my EDD (Which was March 17th, my birthday). I won't feel bad about it.[/b]

I'm sorry your EDD is on your birthday, that's tough I hope you get a very sticky bean before then, hun

My EDD was at the end of April this year and it's 5 months later and I'm still not pregnant. Now I am coming up on the anniversary of my loss and I cannot believe I am still not pregnant almost a year later. I had no idea it would take this long and if I had gotten pg a couple months ago, I would have been happy. I don't think I would've felt guilty being pg again on my EDD. I just hope I get pg again someday!

[taatie10]

My EDD was at the end of April this year and it's 5 months later and I'm still not pregnant. Now I am coming up on the anniversary of my loss and I cannot believe I am still not pregnant almost a year later. I had no idea it would take this long and if I had gotten pg a couple months ago, I would have been happy. I don't think I would've felt guilty being pg again on my EDD. I just hope I get pg again someday![/b]

I'm very sorry to hear that. Keep thinking positive. It will happen again when the timing is just perfect. Which will make it hopefully be a good one.