[azura24]

<span style="font-family:Garamond">Well, ttc was not going well so I kinda gave up on that. Then buying a house wasnt really going to well so I postponed that idea. Then we found our dream house and we were going to put the down payment on it asap until.....IRS took EVERYTHING out of DF's account because of some stuff that we thought was already paid for!!! Now we have to scrape EVERYTHING we can together to get whatever we can for the downpayment by october 31st. Then someone broke into DF's truck and tried to steal it, the second time in 2 months, and we have to dish out 400 to get it fixed!!! Then they are putting a garnishment on my wages for a student loan from 2001, which ok I get it, I am already paying 400 a month on student loans, now I am paying an additional 260 a month!!!!! Now they put in an order for childsupport from his second job which they are going to take out half of that!!! Now let me break it down, maybe tmi, but its u girls, DF gets paid 24 dollars an hour (40 hours) from one job, 15 from other (20 hours a week), he is paying 2400 dollars a month in child support for 2 children, he takes them out and buys them whatever they need or ask for. Take home pay from f/t job after childsupport is 300 thats why he has a second job, which take home from 2nd job is 250. now they slapped him with 100 dollars coming out of 2nd job! Now I dont have any problem with him supporting his kids!!! But when the mom isnnt working her husbands isnt working and they have her sister living with them(who has a 2 year old boy) who dont work!!!! Its just greed!!!!! We are trying really hard to do things right but everything is just slapping us in the face!!!! Its like the more right we do the more we get in deep!!!! we are trying really hard to pay all our old debts, mine being student loans from college....his being from a couple past apartments and utility bills that are truly not his fault but because his name was on the lease hes responsible when he didnt even live there!!! Whatever!!!!!!! I am sooo ticked off at the world right now!!!! I know so many women who are abusing the system and my daughters father who is abusing the system and they are PAID!!!! Big money!!!! Making more than I make and they have no jobs or anything, but do we get a break??? When??? I dont care about paying my old debt, and DF doesnt really care about paying for his because its mistakes we made or its life that got hold of us that we couldnt but we are now! But when its truly just the world against you what do you do???? I am soooo angry!! I am stuck and I dont know what to do, its like everything just pounded us in the head!!!!!!!!!!!

well thanks for listening...
Amber</span>

[jenn27]

Amber, I'm so sorry you and DF are going through such a rough time. I know sometimes it does truly seem like the world is out to get us. I don't really know what to say other than I hope that things start turning around for the better for ya'll and we are all here for you. YOu will be in my thoughts and prayers and if there is anything we can help with, please let us know. I'm thinking about you hun. Keep your head up. This is just another one of those obstacles in life that you must overcome and you will be a stronger person because of it. KUP on everything hun.

[KDD]

I'm sorry Amber. Sometimes life throws us a curveball and we have put our plans on hold for a while (or change them). Good luck.

[kingdink]

I'm so sorry and I understand how hard it is not to just give up when everything looks crappy and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, we're still waiting for the clouds to clear here too. But it WILL be ok, don't give up hope and try not to let this get you down or make you miserable. I hope things get better for you soon and that you guys can be more content. Take it one step at a time and you really will be stronger when it's all over.

[azura24]

<span style="color:#9932CC">thanx ladies, it means a lot to me that I can come on here and talk to you ladies. I really cant talk to DF about it right now because I am trying to brush it off and tell him he doesnt have to feel bad about anything. It broke my heart because he looked at me and asked me, after we found everything out, Are you sure you want to marry me? I knew he had "baggage" but honestly, call it naive or just not listening (i dont know), I didnt realize he had this much financial baggage. I do feel however that we will get through this and yes there is a lot that I have to take in order for us to accomplish what some may call "simple" goals but I can honestly tell him, "yes, without a doubt in my heart I want to marry you!" Somewhere it has to get better for the people trying to do right, it cant always be bad right? Well thanx again, I will update you ladies as soon as possible about the house and things. For sure we have it, its just fighting through the finances that is gonna get us!!!

Thanx again~</span>

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I am going through quite a bit myself but your post made me realize that we all have some struggles all the time. I would like to PM you b/c I have some advice for your financial situations. My mom and dad got divorced about 7 years ago and blah blah blah my mom had to file bankruptcy b/c of some stuff my dad did. (leased a car in her name, credit cards, loans, etc). Now my mom owns four, yes four houses, has a good job, has a nice car, and the list goes on. You can get out of this and bankruptcy is not always the answer, but in your situation you need something. You need a lawyer to help you through this.

I will PM you sometime this weekend if you want any advice. Again, I'm so sorry you're going through so much right now. I hope it turns around soon.

[Eleysia]

Amber sweety, im sorry things are crap right now. eventually, youre right, things will get better i dont really have any advice at the moment, sorry

does the state know that his ex has another man, and her sister, and another child living there? that can sometimes determine a difference of child support. just thought id mention it, sorry hun.

[Pitridge]

Your story broke my heart because in way, you are right, the people that are trying the hardest, that work the heardest, the people that are trying to do the right the right away always get short end of the stick. I see it all the time. I'm so sorry you are going through this. My dh also had students loans so I know how hard is to get rid of those, when we sold our condo he paid them off, so thank god we don't have them anymore. I tought if the person getting the child support got married, the other person did not have to pay child support anymore. I would re-evaluate this with his lawyer, how old are the kids? I hope I don't offend anybody but it's pathetic how many people do take advantage of the system, the system is there to help people not to have people abuse it....It seems like you guys have a very strong relationship and it seems that you are a very strong woman, keep your head, things will be better, this is just a bump on the road.

[azura24]

I will PM you sometime this weekend if you want any advice.[/b]

<span style="font-family:Garamond">

yes I would like any advise you have to offer...that anyone has to offer is greatly appreciated! and I thank you in advance!

Well...a small little update. Things just got a little worse and a little better. I just found out another student loan has just started garnishing my wages about 200 along with the other 260 a month and the other 160 a month that I agreed to pay so they wouldnt garnish my wages. I am really upset about it and I started crying at work (partly because I just told my boss if any avail overtime comes about to please let me know, an partly because I worked 16 hours from 3pm yesterday til 7am today and I am back at work at 2:30pm so Im a lil tired)well my boss let me in on this like counseling thing through my job where I can get advise for legal matters and debt solutions and such. Sooo....as upset as I was, something good came of it. I am really trying hard to think positive ladies...its just soo hard to do so when things are just getting worse. Thanks again~

~Amber~</span>