[diaza1012]

So today when I got home from picking up my daughter from school, my mother-in-law called. She asked for my husband and then told him to have me an him sit down. She told us that she just found out she is pregnant. She is thirty-eight and has seven kids(all of which are either teenage years or passed teenage years).I am very happy for her but after she told us she told my husband to tell me "haha I beat you at it." That hurt me bacause it has only been two and a half months since I miscarried. I would like to DH about it but he will just say she didn't mean it or something of that nature. I am so glad you ladies are here for I can get it off my chest. I just want to go and cry and DH keeps asking me what is wrong but I can't tell him. Well thanks for listening.

[~Laurie~]

Wow, that's an awful, hurtful thing to say. It sucks, but most men won't see the bad things their mothers do and say. Rant at us, we will be on your side!

[diaza1012]

Wow, that's an awful, hurtful thing to say. It sucks, but most men won't see the bad things their mothers do and say. Rant at us, we will be on your side! [/b]

Thank you for letting me rant at you. I just can't believe how hurtful she can be. She doesn't really talk to me all that much anyways so....

[Enchanted Mumma]

That is so disrespectful and hurtful! I am so sorry she said something like that to you... .
Chin up Sweetie...

[kingdink]

Ouch, that was low! And Laurie is right on, guys never seem to think their moms mean the hurtful things they say "that way." At least mine never does. I would just hope another woman would understand how sensitive of an issue this would be. That is just awful.

[kellyanne]

You're right....I can't believe that! We all complain about friends/sisters/co-workers getting pregnant right after our losses, but MIL takes the cake!

Your DH must be young? I'm trying to do the math on his Mom only being 38....

Anyway, I think you should still tell DH that it hurt your feelings, regardless of whether she meant to or not....the woman has no tact and since she will be pregnant for 9 months I can imagine there might me lots more sensitive situations in the future. Dh should know how you're feeling, so that HE can be the one to step up for you if need be.

[Bakin8th]

Wow!! I am stunned as a MOM ttcing my 9th at 38 yr old..How incredably insensitive I would NEVER do that my kids..I am so sorry((hugs)))

[madmum_sarah]

omg how insensitive and spiteful!
my dds "grandmother" did the same to her daughter in law (im so glad i have nothing to do with any of that family) and much as i hate her, she had not long suffered her loss. she did get pregnant 3 months later but her mother in law still trying to take all the glory after having her 7th and is now trying for number 8 (her youngest is 9 months and she is 42)
i really hope you get your sticky bean soon and that your mother in law gets a some sensitivity too!

xx

[Mommy0305]

What a rotten, mean woman, I'm sorry she's your mil.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

How horrible of her to say that after what you have been through. I would def tell dh how that made you feel. He needs to talk to her. I'm sorry!!

Wow, that was insensitive of her. I hope you are ok and able to talk to your DH about it.

[jenn27]

Wow hun. I'm shocked that a mother could say that to her daughter in law. I can't beleive she was so insensitive to everything that you have gone through. I am sooo very sorry that you had to hear that and you know that you can always come to us. That's what we are all here for. I hope that you are able to talk to DH and I hope that he can understand how you are feeling and how incredibely hurtful that comment was to you.

[Wee3monkeys]

That is an absolutely HORRID thing to say!!!!!! Wow, I don't even know what I would have done; but it may have involved snatching the phone f/ DH and screaming in it. Just, WOW.

hun, that woman sounds awful.

[huckleberry312]

I am so sorry that someone could be so rude and inconsiderate. That was totally uncalled for. You are a better person than I am. I probably would have went off on her. I am so sorry you had to go through that.

[..Jessica..]

That's not cool at all for her to say!

[diaza1012]

Okay so Kellyanne, my DH is a year younger than me. He is twenty-four. He is the oldest of the kids. So here is the update, I told DH last night and of course he said she didn't mean it and all of that stuff. We got into a big old fight and then when I started crying he realized what was happening. He thought I was trying to say that she didn't need another kid but I explained that was not it at all. He apoligized and said that he would talk to her so we will see if that happens. His sister and Amanda are getting married on the 18th so we have to go to some big old party. I don't want to even go cause his whole family will be talking about her being pregnant. What do you guys think I should do?