[Alison81]

Most people I know who have a child my DD's age, almost 5, already have another child close in age. I feel like a freak or something. At DD's daycare, there are 3 moms that have a child her age or younger, and are pregnant or have a baby. And if they don't, they have a child a year or two older. I feel like being a mom of one doesn't happen to other people for more than 2 years, where I have been praying for a baby since she was 2, and now here she is turning 5 and I STILL am not pregnant! Am I the only one who has an older child, and doesn't have a sibling for them close in age?? I'm really feeling bad about it today.....I'm tired of DD saying, "so and so has a new baby sister/brother!" She wants a sibling so badly. She loves taking care of the younger kids at daycare, and I know she'd be a good big sister, but it's not happening.

I think I'm even more emotional because the one year anniversary of losing Marina is on sunday, and I am seriously in shock about it, I really thought I'd be very pregnant by now. I cannot believe I'm not.

[Enchanted Mumma]

I feel like that sometimes too...obviously my DD is younger than yours but it's still the same feeling when everyone around us is either pregnant or already had number 2. It seems like everyone is getting a BFP but me!
I know the guilt your talking about too!

I really hope you get a BFP soon Hun and try and stay positive (I know it get hard).

to you.

I was lucky to have my 2nd close in age with our first.. my first dd is turning 3.. and my 2nd is turning one.. they are almost 2 years apart. I feel bad though at times because our first dd use to always get all of my attention.. now she has to share her mummy.. I think when your a mum your always going to feel bad about something.. Have you been to the doctor if your ttc? at least when you have your next your daughter will be very exited and able to understand more about your pregnancy. help you out with bubs.

[Alison81]

Thanks for the replies. I had basic bloodwork done in April, and all my hormone levels were normal, the cd3 test and the cd21 were both normal. I go back to my obgyn in november for a follow up, and if I'm not pregnant then, which I won't be, she may do further tests. I feel like something must be wrong. I never went more than 3 cycles without getting pregnant when TTC DD, I had a chemical pregnancy, miscarriage, and then got pregnant with DD in only one year. Now nothing for almost a year....I'm so scared.

[kristajoyce]

I'm so sorry. I am sure that your daughter would make a great big sister and I hope that she gets that chance. I hope that your doctor can find a way for you to have a healthy pregnancy.

[~Laurie~]

My son is four (today, actually), and there is no sibling in sight. I feel pretty much the same way you do. I feel lonely for him, strange as that sounds. It doesn't help when the school uses that as an excuse for any issue he has. They have actually said "He's an ONLY child, right?", which makes me want to tell them off.

[BabyBones2Be]

I know it's hard but hang in there. The baby I miscarried would have been born in 2 weeks, and I always thought I'd be pregnant again by the time that came around so I wouldn't feel so bad. But, that's coming up soon. I may be in the same boat as you. All you can do is keep trying, as hard as it is, and we all know that feeling over here. As far as age goes, I have a friend that has a little girl that will be 7 in April and she's just now having her 2nd (due the same time as mine was). I myself, didn't have any siblings until my brother was born when I was about 8.5 years old. Not everybody has their children close in age. You're probably just really sensitive about it due to the circumstances, which is completely normal and understandable. Try not to stress because that does prevent it from happening. Good luck and don't give up!

[Alison81]

Laurie- I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets the, "is she an only child?" questions, when she acts out, or does something. I want to blurt out, not by choice!