Next time you pregnant when will you tell people??

I was thinking about this before.. I dont think im going to tell anyone at first im pregnant.. I will tell JM first as soon as i find out of corse... Then ill see the doctor and get the blood test and then ill tell dh.. and then our family at 12 wks.. or until someone guesses and everyone else can just watch me grow until the realise im putting on weight..

[BellaBellski]

The son I just lost was because of Congenital Tetra-Amelia - so until that is ruled out next time by an early u/s around 8 weeks - we wont tell anyone or even be excited about being pregnant.

[kingdink]

Very few people knew I was pregnant with my first two until after the first trimester, same with my m/c so few people know what happened. If I do get pg again, I'm pretty sure I'll wait until people start to wonder, hopefully I'll make it through the first trimester. I have a few reasons though, it's not just because of worries about the baby.

[MountainMomma]

We've waited for this for so long it's going to be torture to not tell! As soon as we have a heartbeat.....(around 8 weeks when my RE does the ultrasound) we'll tell family and close friends. Others can just figure it out whenever.

[Mommy0305]

DH and I won't be telling a soul until after I have my NT scan at 12 and that comes back good. The baby we lost at 13 weeks had chromosomal abnormalities that weren't compatible with life. We still might wait even longer to tell anyone (or as long as I can hide it). I'm a small person so I have a baby bump by 10 weeks.

[LifeToTheMax]

I won't tell until I can't possibly hide it and pass it off as gaining weight any longer.

[mary30]

Well With having my first two miscarriages I waited until around 12 weeks and heard the heart beat. Now having a third miscarrige and this one was at 19 weeks. I will probably not tell anyone until 20 weeks. Unless I really start showing. I know with my kids we will wait as long as we can. My 12 year old daughter was really upset because she wanted a little sister. She has three brothers now.

[madmum_sarah]

i will probably tell mark by bursting into tears with fear of losing it again. i was going to wait for a few days before telling him because i seem to lose after a day or 2 and would feel a "little" safer then but i know i couldnt do that as i have to tell him before ANYONE!
i will be telling you ladies but thats it (well, and my other jm ladies)
i wont be telling anyone until i feel a little more comfortable. maybe after confirmed by doctor, maybe after my first scan. i defo wont be telling my kids til after a scan sees all is ok though.

[~Laurie~]

With both of my previous pregnancies I didn't tell until about 14 weeks, but if my loss taught me anything (at 24 weeks) it's that it is never completely safe. Either way, I won't tell until I have a huge baby bump that I can't hide anymore. I just want to avoid the scrutiny that I think I will have for during any subsequent pregnancies. If I get pregnant soon, I should be able to hide it until 18 weeks or so (I wear sweatshirts all winter), which will make my employers angry, but too bad.

[BabyBones2Be]

I was wondering the same thing. I'll find out in the next few days, which would be awesome because my birthday is Tuesday! The problem is a lot of people know we're trying again, so how do you hide it?? I feel like i'm lying to them if I don't tell I would like to at least tell our parents, but keep it at that until at least after the 1st trimester. A friend of mine, that is scheduled to have her C-section next week, told as soon as the stick turned pink. We actually conceived on the same day, so it's kind of a tough time right now. (I even held it in for 2 weeks, while she was telling everybody) I'm thinking, well we'd have our little boy or girl in about 2 weeks. How is it that's she's ok and I'm not?? Don't get me wrong, of course I want hers to be healthy, just why wasn't mine? Sorry, didn't mean to go off the subject

[HippyMomOf4]

i'm sure i will because i have a big mouth lol

[KDD]

No one knew I was pg until I told them about our loss. I felt that we had been "cheated" out of being able to be happy about the pregnancies with our friends and family by not telling. Next time, I do plan to tell my parents and a couple of friends who know about our loss. At least this way we can be happy and celebrate the joy instead of just mourning the loss. I will wait for at least 14 weeks to tell others though (so I hope I'm not very sick).

First things first, I have to get a

[Gabi]

<span style="font-family:Century Gothic">Possibly only after giving birth. Haha I can see it already, "Hey mom, I got some news for ya. Well, you just became a grandma to a healthy baby!!" Yeah.... or not.
I will definitely wait 12 weeks before telling family, and the rest of the people... well, they can figure it out themselves!

Or that's what I say now. I planned on not telling anyone with Angel Baby either, but I got so excited and happy that I couldn't hold it in... so we'll see. Not before 12 weeks though.</span>

[Christine-MA]

This will be my first, when I was pregnant months ago, although I know lots of people wait 12 weeks, I told family immediately. Some friends/coworkers too. Next time I will most likely wait 12 weeks (or until I get an u/s or hear the hb around that time) to tell most people. (if I can!!)

[Brittanie]

With Cora I told everyone immediately. But...I lost her at 38w, so it was WAY beyond the hiding it idea. With Erin, I waited until we saw a heartbeat at 8 weeks, which for me was an eternity. But I just couldn't handle the idea of telling my mother I was pregnant again, only to miscarry. She took my loss so hard. But after seeing Erin's heartbeat I felt so much better that I couldn't hold it in anymore.

With this one I was so shocked that it came out immediately again. I was meaning to wait, but...

[Jessica!]

I'll tell DH the second I see a BFP. And after that, I'll let my parents know after I see/hear a heartbeat. I'll end up telling my best friend right away. Everyone else in the family will just have to wait. Nobody would ever know anyway. I live in Nevada, they all live in Wisconsin. They will never see my stomach growing.

[Enchanted Mumma]

Only a few very close friends who are already keep track of our progress but apart from that no one until we get our 12 week U/S.

[..Jessica..]

My mother and sister will know right away, probably my dad too. Of course, JM will be the FIRST to know! SO will find out after 12 weeks, because I want to make sure everything is going well. Unless something happens, then he'll find out earlier. As for everyone else, besides my BFFs, everyone else will find out whenever my mom decides to open the can!

[Bakin8th]

No, Not till after 20 weeks

I want to tell people around 8 wks, because I have had 2nd trimester losses and a stillbirth and need that support if another loss happens.