[azura24]

QUICK STORY BEFORE THE RANT....I HAVE A DAUGHTER BY AN EX ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND. HE RECENTLY MOVED WITH A GIRL HE CHEATED ON ME WITH AND WOULDNT GIVE ME THE ADDRESS OF WHERE MY DAUGHTER WOULD BE AT ON THE WEEKENDS (HE GETS HER PARENTING TIME 3 WEEKENDS OUT OF THE MONTH)

OK SO HE GAVE UP HIS ADDRESS RIGHT, WOW YOU WOULD THINK THAT IT IS NICE RIGHT? WELL HE GAVE ME THE ADDRESS AND I GOOGLE IT TO FIND OUT EVERYTHING YOU KNOW, THIS GUY CANT PAY FOR ANY SCHOOL CANT HELP WITH UNIFORMS CANT HELP WITH FOOD CANT BUY HER ANY GIFTS AND HE TELLS HER BECAUSE MAMA TOOK HIM TO THE POLICE AND HE CANT AFFORD IT CUZ HE GIVES ME ALL HIS MONEY! HE GIVES ME 175 DOLLARS A MONTH AND GUESS WHERE HE LIVES? IN A 700 THOUSAND DOLLAR HOUSE!!!!! I AM RENTING A BULLCRAP APARTMENT BECAUSE HE FORCED US OUT OF OUR HOUSE WHEN WE BROKE UP AND SINCE WE WERENT MARRIED I HAD NO LEGAL RIGHTS TO IT, AND HE MOVED OUT OF THERE TO LIVE WITH THE BI*** HE CHEATED ON ME WITH AND THEN THEY GET A 700 THOUSAND DOLLAR HOUSE!!! I AM HAVING MY CHECK GARNISHED 500 DOLLARS A MONTH BECAUSE HE WOULDNT LET ME PAY FOR ANY OF MY SCHOOL LOANS WHEN I WAS SUPPORTING HIM SO NOW I AM GETTING GARNISHED!!! I AM SOO ANGRY AT THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! EVERYONE THAT DOES WRONG GETS EVERYTHING GOOD AND I BUST MY BUTT AND EVERYONE JUST KEEPS TAKING AND TAKING!! ITS HURTS SO BAD! IM SO TIRED OF EVERYTHING GOING WRONG WITH US!I NEVER BEEN INTO DRUGS I NEVER BEEN ABUSIVE TO MY DAUGHTER, I VOLUNTEER ANYWHERE WHEN I CAN, I PRAY EVERYDAY, I TRY TO BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING AND I GET NOTHING. THIS IS THE KINDA OF THINGS THAT MAKE PEOPLE WANT TO GO AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF PEOPLE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SYSTEM. MAYBE I SHOULD QUIT MY JOB AND LIVE OFF WELFARE!!! GOD IM SO ANGRY!!! SORRY GUYS, I DONT WANT TO OFFEND ANYONE IF I HAVE, I JUST AM GIVING UP! IT HURTS TOO BAD TO GET REJECTED FROM LIFE LIKE THIS!

[kristajoyce]

Oh, honey, that sounds horrible! I am so sorry. I will definitely keep you in my thoghts and prayers. Good luck with your situation.

Honey, I'm so sorry. You sound like a Christian and continue that praying. God will see you through. I know sometimes other people's paths look much better but your path has been chosen for you and you never know what may be around the corner hun.

We feel the same way you do that we try to do everything right yet feel that we lose out all the time and the bad people keep getting. My husband just went through a very bad time with his boss and it was horrible, we couldn't believe what he was saying to my husband and the new rules at work. They were bad enough that we sought advice. I always feel that what goes around comes around.

You are so strong and I'm sure your daughter sees that.

On a side thought, have you tried to take your ex back to court? Seeing they can live in a house like that?

Lots of hugs hun

[Enchanted Mumma]

Aww Hunny...that's terrible. Life's just not fair sometimes, I really hope things start to improve for you- BE STRONG. Lots of T&P coming your way.

[missy123]

I am sorry you are going through this. I understand how you feel and your situation. When my ex-husband and I broke up (this was 13 years ago, so I have had time to heal) I had 3 babies under the age of 5. I had an ok job, but after childcare I had $187 a week to live on. I still to this day only get $240.00 a month in child support. We lived on the 3rd floor of a drug house (they sold drugs in the apartments downstairs). I was robbed, had no phone because I couldn't afford it, had the electricity shut off at times, had friends give me clothes to wear, sometimes did laundry in the sink ect....

Even through all of that, we were happy. I had 3 beautiful boys that counted on me. They depended on me being strong to raise them and be there to support them emotionally. For about 6 months it really hurt me the way my ex was living, the time he had to spend with friends, going out and partying, socializing ect... Then I realized that the energy I was putting into being hurt, mad, and jealous was taking away from my goal of getting the boys and myself out of that living arrangement.

I now have a fantastic job, we live in a house in the fanciest part of town. The boys go to the best school, wear the designer clothes ect... Sometimes I reflect back and realize one thing - we are still happy together but inside really no happier than when we were poor. They have the material stuff now but what never faultered was our love for each other and our devotion as a family.

Hang in there, be strong, set goals for yourself and your daughter and you will look back one day and realize he is the unlucky one.

Many hugs,

[Alison81]

If I were you, I would bring in that address, and the house there, and bring him back to court. Microsoft earth is wonderful for that. I was able to prove that my DD's father was living in a $250,000 condo, plus, his wife shared pictures of a cruise they went on on myspace, and yet, missed up to 9 months worth of child support payments. It ended up getting him arrested, and he's looked really bad ever since. Believe me, I know the feeling. My DD's father had me paying the share he agreed to pay for daycare, $140/week, and it set me behind soo far. I also have my paychecks garnished to pay for credit cards and student loans. If I had that extra $140/week, it never would have came to that, but he shyed away from his share of the responsibility, which wasn't fair to me. I get daycare assistance, and would only be paying $20/week, but with him not paying his share, I was paying $160/week for 9 months. If he had just paid his share, I would not have my paychecks garnished, and that has directly effected my DD. The good news is, just wait for him to bring you to court for something, for instance, wait for him to have his child support decreased. Then you can hire a public defender. These cases are SO easy, that all you need is the public defender. I did all the research for the case, so all she had to do was the legal vocab and paper work. We shouldn't have to suffer. ((((HUGS))))