[sarahp]

We lost our little boy in September last year 2 weeks before my scheduled c section date.

We're getting ready to try again, but have to wait until after I get minor surgery in a little over a week. So we can start trying from November.

Problem is that if that doesn't work, and I get pregnant in December, using the due date calculators, I would be delivering (high risk, so either induced or c section at 38-39 weeks) right around the time we lost our Joshua. I'm feeling relatively fine with going through another pregnancy, but if the baby ends up being due at the same I lost Joshua, I have no idea how I'd handle it.

[Enchanted Mumma]

Aww Hunny...firstly I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you have been through.

To be honest I'm lost for words to say. I know nothing that I write can make it any easier or less scary for you but if you are ready to TTC then I suppose you have to try and be as positive as you can be (I know easier said then done ).

I truly wish you all the best and said positive T&P your way.

[taatie10]

We lost our little boy in September last year 2 weeks before my scheduled c section date.

We're getting ready to try again, but have to wait until after I get minor surgery in a little over a week. So we can start trying from November.

Problem is that if that doesn't work, and I get pregnant in December, using the due date calculators, I would be delivering (high risk, so either induced or c section at 38-39 weeks) right around the time we lost our Joshua. I'm feeling relatively fine with going through another pregnancy, but if the baby ends up being due at the same I lost Joshua, I have no idea how I'd handle it.[/b]

I'm so sorry, I dont know how you handled losing one that close to delivery.

I dont know what to say, I dont know how I would handle being any thing close to your situation.
I wish you the best on you TTC and the best for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

[mary30]

I can understand . September is a really bad month for me too. I have had three miscarriages in this month. With my last one being last month at a little over 19 weeks. So I am really hoping I get pregnant this month or next. I do not even want to be pregnant in that month. A much as I want another baby, if I do not get pregnant soon I might hold off until next year. I am still not sure what I am going to do. That is a long time not to get pregnant.

I am so sorry about your loss. I know It would be really scarey,but sometimes I think I want a baby more than I am scare that It will happen again. I think You are going to have to sit down and think what you want .

I wish you the best.

[kingdink]

I am so, so sorry for your loss and what you went through. That is absolutely heartbreaking. If you TTC in Nov, you don't have to in Dec. If it is something that would really bother you and stress you out, worrying if the dates will be too close, skipping one month may be something to consider. Then you could go at it again in January full force. On the other hand if you'll be eager to keep trying in Dec, get a BFP and your dates do end up being close, it may bring a lot of joy to a sad time. You just need to do what feels right for you. We'll all be there for you no matter what. Congrats on trying again and I hope your surgery goes well!

[KDD]

I'm so sorry for your loss. If you do get pg in December, you can always tell your child that s/he's extra special for having b'day so close to Joshua's.

Good luck with your surgery.

[sarahp]

On the other hand if you'll be eager to keep trying in Dec, get a BFP and your dates do end up being close, it may bring a lot of joy to a sad time. You just need to do what feels right for you. We'll all be there for you no matter what. Congrats on trying again and I hope your surgery goes well![/b]

You know I was thinking that earlier today. It would be freaky to have a baby due around then, but I would be getting really close monitoring, and if it did happen around the same time, it would be pretty special - and I would be so excited to be pregnant, that hopefully that would overshadow anything else.

Good luck with your surgery. [/b]

Thanks It's just minor plastic surgery to fix a scar from open heart surgery earlier this year that's keloiding (getting bigger and really ugly). Hopefully once this is done, THAT chapter of my life can be closed as well!