[Jason'sMommy]

Hi Everyone,

After lurking on this board for a little while, I decided to jump in because everyone seems so supportive and kind. My name is Sarah and I recently suffered my second loss. Both were early losses, the first in August at 6 1/2 weeks, the second one last week at 5 weeks. I have an amazing almost 2 year old son who we are so thankful for. We really want to give him a sibling. I'm having a really tough time at work now. I am a teacher, and out of 35 teachers in my school, 8 of them are pregnant. Three are due when I would have first been in April. My co-teacher is one of the preg., due in May. Her and I would have been 3 weeks apart, had my last preg. stuck. I am miserable there now- I feel like I'm being stabbed in the heart everytime I see one of them, which given the large number of preggers, happens often. I am happy for them, but heartbroken for me. I am with my co-teacher all day, so it will be so hard to watch as she gets bigger and bigger. She knows about my losses and has been very supportive.
Anyway, I am looking for any and all advice for how to cope w/ this. I know my husband and I are lucky we seem to get pregnant easily, had early losses, and can try again soon, but I feel myself getting more and more bitter and I don't like that.

Thanks for listening!

[..Jessica..]

Welcome aboard, Sarah!!!

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses!!!

I personally don't have any pregnant co-workers, so I can't comment on how hard it must be. I do have a feeling it's not the easiest thing to deal with. I'm glad to hear that your co-teacher is supportive during this time! That's very important!!!

I wish you and DH nothing but the best when you decide to try again!

[KDD]

Sarah, I am so sorry to hear about your losses. Thankfully, I don't have any pg co-workers to see everyday. However a few pg friends and I ALWAYS see pg women around town. The only ones that really get under my skin, are those who look like they are as far along as I should be right now. I just don't see how life is fair sometimes. However, with time, it seems to get easier. I'm sorry I don't really have many words of wisdom for you. Please stick around as everyone here is so supportive and we would love to get to know you!

[Wee3monkeys]

Hi Sarah! I'm so sorry to hear about your losses! Welcome to TTCAL!

I can commisserate with how you are feeling to some extent. The building where I work has a ton of people in it, I don't know the exact number but I'd say upwards of 2,500 people. When I was going through my losses it seemed that there were pg people everywhere. All I wanted to do was run in the other direction from them, but I also would find myself staring at their bellies. It sucked, but I made it through it. I don't have any real words of wisdom on how to deal w/ it though, it always hurt, but I just went about my own business and would tell myself that soon that will be me. Chin up, hun; soon that will be you!! Doesn't make it hurt any less now, but it's the only thing I found I could do for myself.

[Jason'sMommy]

Thanks for the encouragement ladies! Today was a teeny bit easier. I avoided a celebration breakfast this AM because I knew the talk would be about the latest preg. woman. Then at the end of the day I went to make copies and found 3 pregnant women in there, 1 of whom being the one due close to mine in April. I almost left, but made myself stick it out and just become numb. Still fought back tears once I left, but I did better than I had the day before. Baby steps, right? I need to learn to not let it get to me or I know that the stress could affect our future TTC missions.

Thanks again!

Oh Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. Working with a ton of pg women has got to be rough. Since my boyfriend is a little older than me, all of his friends are married and there was a baby boom this spring when I was supposed to be due. It still kills me to see all these ppl with their cute little babies and all I can think is that I'm supposed to be one of them holding my baby and talking about baby stuff. It's so hard, it has, with time, gotten easier though, I don't know how.

Also, the day after my D&C, I was to start a nanny job for my neighbors and their 10 week old baby girl. I started a couple days later obviously, I was in pain, but it hurt so much to hear the baby's mom talk about how she didn't get to sleep the night before and all her stupid little complaints. I wanted to smack her and say don't you understand how lucky you are???? Oh jeez, that was tough.

I hope it gets easier for you hun. You're definitely on the right board. I look forward to getting to know you better!