[BellaBellski]

I'm soo scared of losing another baby. Does the fear ever go away?? Are you still scared?? Can you be scared but ready to TTC at the same time? ugggggh bad day

[madmum_sarah]

hunny what you are feeling is perfectly normal!
i so want another baby and despite everything we are ttc but i am scared silly that i will lose another baby (especially as they dont know why i lost the last 3)
im sure when i pass the stage i have lost the others (2 days after my bfp) then it will ease a little but i know i will not feel totally relaxed until im holding my baby in my arms.
it is definatly normal so dont feel too bad about it.
just remember we are always here for you to turn to wether you are pregnant or not!
xxx

[~Laurie~]

I am terrified that I will lose another baby. In fact, I honestly don't believe that we will have more children. We are TTC, but I just don't believe that it will happen for us. I'm sure there is a sensible psychological explanation for why I feel that way, but it makes me sad to think that I will never hold another baby. I think the fear is just going to be a part of the experience for us (women that are TTCAL) now, and we need to support one another. I don't know where I would be without this board. You aren't alone, hon.

[Christine-MA]

I'm definitely scared, but no where near to the extent that I wouldn't TTC again, especially since we're TTC#1. I'm sure I'll be nervous in pregnancy too, at least until I hear a HB. I never heard a HB with the first and had the loss at 10 weeks.

[kingdink]

I'm scared, but not enough I won't TTC. We wanted another and I don't want to change our plans because I'm scared. It may or may not happen, but there is nothing I can do to control it and I like to think that the chances of it happening again are smaller than it not. It's really hard, but I'm trying to only think about the future and the positives. If I dwell on the what-ifs, I don't think I'd make it through any pregnancy with my sanity.

[mary30]

I think once you lose a child the pregnancy fear never goes away. It kinda ruins the fun for ever. You are always going to worry ( Well at least I am ) ,but this will not stop me from trying. I will stop ttc until I am holding another baby in my arms.

[KDD]

I used to be terrified of losing another, now I'm terrified that we'll never get pregnant again! I"m sure that once I get a BFP that the fear of loss will come right back to me. I don't think I'll stop being afraid until I have the baby in my arms.

[BellaBellski]

Thanks girls, seriously I don't know where I'd be right now without you ladies! You are all so supportive and wonderful and I'm very grateful that I have all of you to turn to because I know you can all relate (unfortunately ).


Hopefully I will feel more secure next cycle, the thought of getting pregnant this cycle scares the crap outta me though. But next cycle will be #3 and the perinatologist told us to wait 3 so maybe that will be enough to make me feel a *little* more secure. I know I'm going to be a nervous wreck until I give birth though so I'm glad (again) that I have the support of all of you wonderful ladies. Thanks

[Mellza]

that fear is so real... and no it never goes away, i think at moments we're better at rationalizing it, but no it is always there.
I think that living in the present moment helps, but you know as woman, as planners, as ttcers, we cant help but think about the future. For whatever happens, if and when you do get pregnant, enjoy everything about it and give that baby as much mommy love as you can, that is all that you can do. (HUGS)

[kristajoyce]

I think that I am too scared to try again, but the loss is still too new. We'll see in a few months, but I just don't know if I can handle another loss. It is different for us since we already have a boy and a girl. We wanted another baby, but we were already planning on fostering next year and I think that we will just move onto that new type of parenting and stop actively TTC, but not prevent. I don't know if the fear could ever subside now.

[Jessica!]

I won't know how I feel until I'm pregnant again. It's hard to answer a question when you're not currently in that situation. All I know is that I'd be as positive as I could possibly be.

[Enchanted Mumma]

I'm terrified...if/when I do fall pregnant again- when can I enjoy it. What length of time do I wait before I can relax and enjoy the pregnancy. I know the 1st 12 weeks will be filled with a lot of anxiety!! I want to be happy in my pregnancy & enjoy it.
I so want another baby though the it out weighs the fear...but it doesn't mean it's not there.

[Anothertry]

It certainly wont be easy - I am really scared as well - this time I will try my hardest to hide the pregnancy as long as I possibly can- and not tell anybody but my Mom - I found one of the worst parts of the M/C was having to go back and tell ppl I had lost the baby- & It made me cry every time.

[..Jessica..]

Terrified.

[~Lynda~]

yep very very scared. but we can't let it control us!!! gotta move forward. there is no other option but forward!!!! i think i won't rest easy till i hear a h/b - i probably won't even rest easy then, but will feel better. but first i gotta be able to get another bfp!!!! g/l

[AliciaF]

I am terrified. My 3rd pregnancy was so hard on me emotionally and physically that I am absolutely terrified to go through it again. But I am also terrified of not having the baby my heart wants so much.