[Mellza]

It seems like a lot of us plan to keep pregnancy a secret once its achieved.
I personally, plan to tell NO ONE until I absolutely have to.

[..Jessica..]

The only people that will know will be my BF, my parents, my sister and my 2 BFFs. Everyone else will find out when they find out.

[madmum_sarah]

i will tell mark simply because if i tell ANYONE before i tell him then i will be a single parent (thats no joke!) and i will be telling my lovely girls here and on general spirituality cos i know they are routing for me and will be there to support me through it no matter what happens.
i wont be telling anyone else until i have my scan to make sure all is ok.

[going4it]

It's so hard to say. When I had my miscarriage, I was so upset EVERYONE knew I miscarried, even those that didn't know that I was even pregnant. So, I'd like to say, I'll tell them at 12 or 13 wks, but I know I can't keep it under my hat for that long.

[BellaBellski]

I will of course tell DF right away, then you lovely ladies, and then No One else until we've had a scan to rule out another case of tetra-amelia. So it will probably stay a 'secret' until 10-12 weeks.

[Christine-MA]

DH and I will know at the same time, I will tell JM, and I will tell my best friend (who is also trying). Everyone else I will wait 12 weeks (or until I have a u/s or hear the hb around 12 weeks). I know it will kill me though!

[Eleysia]

I was just talking to Will about this Sat night. We agreed that with his family they wont know until they can physically tell, or they ask. With my family all being out of state Ill tell them once we have at least 1 good u/s with a HB. I figure youre never "safe" so at some point you need to tell people. I didnt want to call my mom and dad and say oh by the way we found out today we are having a boy/girl. Its just rude.

Jm will know, Will is gonna know, and my sis. Thats it off the bat. Oh and my "work spouse"

[AliciaF]

I don't have a problem telling people, even if we were to lose the baby again. I figure I want their support and they can't give me that if they don't know.

But, because I don't want my kids to know about the baby until we can be pretty sure I won't miscarry we are going to wait as long as we can to tell most people.

I will tell all of you, my mom and a couple of friends but that's it.

[Danielley08]

DH of course will be the first to know...Then next in line is of course my JM family Then I'll have to tell my supervisor and commander here at work...being pregnant affects alot of the things we can do military-wise so they HAVE to know...

From there we won't be telling anyone until we have a confirmation u/s...and I'm totally with E...there really is no "safe" point...once we see the h/b we'll tell our families...for everyone else once they can tell I'm prego than that'll be that...(or once I post it on MySpace... )

[kristajoyce]

We didn't tell anyone this time and I am glad about that. We just told our parents that we miscarried, but they didn't know we were pregnant. I just didn't want to go through the same thing I went through earlier this year when everyone knew. I don't know if we will ever get pregnant again, but we won't tell anyone until we know the gender and everything looks positive around 20 weeks.

Of course, I would shout it from the rooftop on here right after I told my DH.

[Mommy0305]

I will try to wait until after my 12 week NT scan next time. Or longer, who knows. This last pregnancy I had perfect blood work, perfect heartbeat at 7 weeks and another perfect HB at 10 weeks - so I will not be content with just a heartbeat in the first trimester. I need a lot more reasurance than that. It wasn't until I went in for my 14 week check up we discovered the baby died at 13 weeks.

[~Laurie~]

We won't be telling anyone until it is impossible to hide. I know that it's never safe, and I did appreciate the support that we got after we lost our daughter, but I don't want the scrutiny that I think we will have during our next pregnancy. I am a very private person so I keep things close to my chest whenever possible. That being said, I will be telling all of my JM girls and maybe my best friend. That will be it until I am the size of a house.

[KDD]

Part of my m/c sorrow was that we hadn't shared the good news and only shared the bad news. No one got the opportunity to celebrate the pregnancy. That being said... I'll tell DH (obviously), you (my JM family - there are no secrets here). I'll wait until after my Dr appt then I will probably tell my parents and a couple of friends who know we're trying. I was thinking today of not telling anyone else though until we have to. I guess we'll wait and see.

[kingdink]

DH will most likely be first to know, my sister and my closest friends and of course the ladies here. Everyone else will have to wait a long while. Ideally, I'd like to be able to wait until after the 20 week u/s, but I'm afraid I'll be showing way too much by then to be able to hide it. Hopefully I'll get pg soon so I can hide my belly under sweaters and big jackets.

[MountainMomma]

I'll tell DH and of course the JM ladies (who will most likely know before DH does!) and then no one else until we have a heartbeat, probably around 8 weeks when my RE does a peace of mind ultrasound. lol All my losses have been before 6 weeks though, so I really think that if I can just get to that point were I see the heartbeat.....I think then I'll feel safer. I doubt I'll ever feel safe, but I'll feel safer.

[Jessica!]

LOL!!

I have a big mouth. I posted a blog for friends only on MySpace about it. All my friends are very supportive and know what Heath & I have already been through. I also told my mom who has probably told my dad already. I would have told him but he's a truck driver and I'm not really sure of his schedule half the time.

But for now, that's all that knows. I'll probably announce our news to the rest of the family after 14 weeks or so.

[heathernoell6]

Well, the last time, we (ok I) told a lot of people...work friends, life friends, his mom, his sister, my daughters and so on. Next time(praying there is one), it will be between the two of us until we get to twelve weeks. It has been so hard telling everyone. Of course I will tell everyone here too