[heathernoell6]

This was the routine visit to make sure that the pregnancy hormones were gone. I was on the bus with my dbf and was fine until he got off (90 seconds before me). Then I started crying. I stopped before I entered the doctors office. Then, when the receptionist asked me what kind of appointment I was there for, I lost it. I started to cry, so she just asked me for my date of birth, and sent me down to outpatient labs with a paper saying "missed abortion". I was devistated. When the phlebotomist only took vial of blood, I (semijokingly) said "that's all", "only one". She proceded to say that she would take more on a happier occasion. I left the hospital and arrived home in tears. My poor dbf asked me what happened. I told him...exactly what we expected...no more pg hormone...to which he responded" Then, why, my love are you still crying...we can try again." Do any of you ladies understand???? I had only known of this little one for one week. But, I had given up caffiiene, cigarettes, beer, etc. and dbf says....we can start trying again. I don't want you to misunderstand. He is sad, but I feel like I am bearing the brunt.

[Enchanted Mumma]

I know exactly how you feel- and I'm sure the other women on here do too. I was heartbroken when I m/c and I was only 5 weeks along and had only known for about one week also..but within that week I had already fallen in love and wanted my baby more than anything. I had thought out plans and future dreams...and I lost that along with bub. A loss no matter how far along you are is still heartbreaking and you have a right to grieve.

My DH is the same...he was upset by the losses yes but he didn't experience the instant connection that I did with bub...he didn't have the dreams like I did, so we grieved in completely different ways and on completely different levels.

I am sorry for your loss Hun.

[ftnjn]

We understand, men try to help but they end up saying the wrong thing.
((((HUGS))))
I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby.

[Mommy0305]

[..Jessica..]

I'm so sorry Heather!!!! We all know how you're feeling, because we've all been there. I'm sorry you're going through this!!!!

[starrsgirl]

I started crying the other day because I took a test and the preg hormones were still there! I'm sure I would have cried too if they were gone too. These are just sad, sad days. I'm completely sympathize that the boys don't "get it" in the same way. That's why I'm on this board...so I can find some people that do "get it". I'm so sorry for your loss...hang in there!

[Sweetie Karen]

I am so, so sorry your going through this and yes, like the others I understand.

Its hard for men, they feel at a loss, they are upset but in a different way I think - thats certainly how it always seems to be.

The tears are natural and although it doesn't make it any easier to bear right now things will look brighter in time. I am crying for you now because I know that feeling all too well but the ladies here are fantastic and I hope that you will get some comfort from knowing that we all understand