well we arent having a june baby anymore

babyd28734 · #1 November 3rd, 2008, 12:41 PM

Friday when we went to the doc for the 3rd time last week to see if they could see a sack or a heart beat or something it was discovered(as they suscipted dont know how to spell right now) that we had an ectopic pregnancy. My levels last monday were 2080,wed 2800 and friday 3100 so with the fact that my levels werent doubling like they were suppose to and the fact that they should have been able to see something at 1500 hcg level they gave me methotraxate to break up the ectopic tissue. My doc said that I would have increased pain but no bleeding like i had with my miscarriage back in June. what she failed to mentioned was that the increased cramps would be labor pain increased. when I had asked her what I could take for pain she said tylenol well when I started having those pains on Sat morning and ened up in the er cuz the on call OB doc thought that my pain was my tube rupturing I came home with percocet.
MY doc said that we can try again after one cycle but i dont know if I want to.
She suggested that we dont do infertility drugs again because thats what probably caused the ectopic in the first place I was like well you gave it too me and told me all the side effects but that one umm I probably wouldnt have taking it if I knew that. I mean hey we got pregnanct 3 times on our own granted yes we did loss the last one but at least I know that I can get pregnant.
We are just trying to put all of this behide us and think ok now we have 2 angels in heaven to watch over us and maybe 3rd time will a charm. But I think I will wait a little while. Im not saying we wont try Im just not going to prevent it either. if we get pregnanct then we do I mean it took us 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with the one we miscarried so it might take that long again.

Two of my friends have offered to me a suggort for me but we dont want to do that just yet.
But we have decided that if we havent conceived in a year then we are going to adopt.

If you ladies have any advise to give on how to get through an ectopic I would appreciate it
sorry all this being long and I hope that it all makes sense as you read it cause Im all confused riught now and nothing makes sense to me right now.

Hugs

diaza1012 · #2 November 3rd, 2008, 12:50 PM

I am sorry to hear about your loss! I have never had an etopic pregnancy so I am not much help there. Again I am sorry!

Eleysia · #3 November 3rd, 2008, 12:53 PM

Oh Dana, i wish i had some words of wisdom for you, or tht i could reach out and hug you right now

. You sound so full of hurt.

i have no experiences with eptopic pregnancies, but i do know that any type of loss hurts. If you need anything please know im here for you hunny. I hope one of the other ladies can give you some more help.

~Lynda~ · #4 November 3rd, 2008, 12:58 PM

i'm so sorry!!! it is so difficult. for me, it was just talking to people who understood how i felt and what i was going through. time helps you heal too!!!! HUGS

Bakin8th · #5 November 3rd, 2008, 01:00 PM

I am so sorry this has happened to you.

mom2njia · #6 November 3rd, 2008, 01:19 PM

I am so sorry for your loss... I understand the pain you are feeling. We are all here if you need to vent!

Pitridge · #7 November 3rd, 2008, 01:30 PM

Oh Dana, I'm so sorry........We are here for you.

katiegirl · #8 November 3rd, 2008, 02:34 PM

Dana I have never personally experienced an ectopic pregnancy
but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.

#9 November 3rd, 2008, 02:42 PM

Oh Dana, I am so sorry

I wish I could be of help, I know there a few girls on here who have suffered ectopics. I hope you get some answers and heal quickly. Again, I am so sorry.

~Laurie~ · #10 November 3rd, 2008, 02:47 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

madmum_sarah · #11 November 3rd, 2008, 02:51 PM

oh dana im so sorry sweetheart

xx

Christine-MA · #12 November 3rd, 2008, 03:42 PM

My loss was not ectopic, but I wanted to say I'm so sorry

..Jessica.. · #13 November 3rd, 2008, 04:17 PM

Oh Dana, I'm so so sorry!!!! I hope some of the girls that have had ectopics can help. I'll be thinking of you!!!

LifeToTheMax · #14 November 3rd, 2008, 04:25 PM

I'm so sorry

KDD · #15 November 3rd, 2008, 08:27 PM

Dana I am so sorry about your loss.

.x~KAT~x. · #16 November 4th, 2008, 03:42 AM

oh sweetie, im so so sorry!
I have had 3 ectopic pregnancies this year! The last one just 4 weeks ago cost me my left tube. And it just downright sucks! It will get easier though sweetheart, im walking proof! After my ectopics my AF didnt come back for 6 weeks and il be honest with you (it did really hurt when i got it) The doctors do advise that you wait 3 months/ 12 weeks before trying again after methatrexate, because it depletes the bodies folic acid and so increase the chances of concieving with spina bifida and cleft lip (SP) it also increases the chance of miscarriage, as i found out in August!

Just take each day as it comes hun, and dont over do it, methatrexate really made me tired and drained. If you need any advise just ask ok...pm if you like xxxx

Wee3monkeys · #17 November 4th, 2008, 09:42 AM

I'm so sorry Dana!!

Enchanted Mumma · #18 November 4th, 2008, 07:51 PM

Oh Hun...I am so sorry for your loss. I have had an ectopic which ended with a ruptured tube. It was so hard to deal with at first...especially when I had approached a Doc the morning before the rupture and asked him if I had an ectopic and was told I was too early!!

As Katt said just take one day at a time...the pain will ease. The one thing that helped me was buying something in memory of Bub. I brought a charm to go on my necklace that was in remembrance of our angel. My DD now wears this on an identical necklace to mine. You could also plant a tree or scatter some flowers in a special place, allow yourself to say goodbye.