[cam & sami's mom]

how soon do you feel it is appropriate for me to ttc? I am so conflicted. AF is just around the corner (spot is here already). I know I'll never replace Cameron, but in my heart, I long for another baby. I have for years, but have delayed ttc due to his illness. I'm not sure what I'm most concerned about, other than another loss. I feel guilty that I am thinking of moving on too soon. I'm afraid that others will view ttc/pg withiin the near future as a lack of respect by me for Cameron. Maybe after the first of the year would be better. Thoughts?

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I truly believe that only you can know when you are ready Lori. We all know that's it would never replace Cameron. You wanted a baby before all this happened though, right? I think Cameron would want you to do what makes you happy. You are a wonderful mother and another child would be lucky to have you. I wish you all the best and know that we are always here for you.

Can I just say it's so nice to see you here. I know that you have been trying for a long time for another baby, I know that desire never went away. I would never think you would try to replace Cameron. I can understand the guilt though and that is something that will follow you even through your pregnancy only because of your love for Cameron.

Like Chelle said, only you can decide and it sounds as though you are ready hun. Don't worry about what others may think. I bet Cameron would love to see you have another baby and Samantha would make a great big sister.

You're never far from my thoughts hun, God bless.

[~Lynda~]

ok i'm gonna stick my two cents in here...

i personally think your desire to ttc this next cycle, is Cameron telling you that it's ok!!!!! He wants you to be happy!!!! you can't worry about what anyone else thinks. they won't be there when you lay in bed feeling lonely at night, they won't be there when you see another woman with a baby and you feel sad. you must do what is right for you!!! you know you love your little man beyond infinity, there is simply no replacing him, and to even think it, is proposterous. and to want to add an additional member to your family is awesome!!! Cameron would truly want it that way!!!! He is up there telling you it's ok!!!!

HUGS, you are my hero!!!

Lynda

[Mommy0305]

I agree with Lynda....

[Christine-MA]

I agree with the others in that you are not trying to replace Cameron, and I would hope no one would think you were. I also think only you can know when you will be completely ready, and even if you do wait the year, you will probably always have some thoughts of whether or not it's the right time.

[..Jessica..]

I agree 100% with the other ladies.

Only you can tell when you're ready, and if you're ready now, I say you go for it. Like you mentioned, you'll never replace Cam, nor will anyone (who truly loves you) will think you're trying to do.

I wish you and Eric the best, and I'm glad you see you back on here Lori, I really am.

Good luck this cycle!!! I'm sure Cameron and your mom are looking down on you, waiting to give you their blessing in a little brother or sister for Samantha.

and TONS of

[KDD]

Lori I would be concerned if you hadn't wanted to TTC a long time ago. I am sure that Cameron would not want you to put your life on hold because of him.

[mom2njia]

I agree with everyone else... Your desire to have another baby is nothing new. Of course you are not trying to replace him, he will always be your son. I think both he and his grandma would love to see you with a baby!

[MountainMomma]

Lori, I really think whenever you are ready. You put this on hold to take care of Cameron, but I don't think he'd want you to continue to live with your life on hold. And if you do get pregnant right away and someone doesn't like it, tell them where to stick it! One thing life has taught me over the past to or three years is to worry about what is best for me and my family and screw what others think!

Good luck hun! And know that your family is never far from my thoughts,and always in my prayers.

[ftnjn]

It doesn't matter what others think, only what you think. I think your son would want you to have another baby and knows that you aren't trying to replace him.

[Mellza]

I agree with everyone else. Its a tough decision, but if you are mentally and psychically ready then it is entirely up to you. I remember on the drive home from the Children's Hospital when my Logan passed I said to dh, "I just can't imagine going through life and never being pregnant again" It was on my mind, and I agree that keeping in mind, what would Cameron want? He would want what's best for you, and whatever that is, is exactly what you should do. When something big happens (divorce, illness, or the biggest of them all death) people seem to have unwarranted opinions (or at least in my case, I had/have people being disrespectful to my privacy and personal decisions) so I think no matter what, you can't make everyone happy, but if your making yourself happy then that is where you true battle lies. Whatever your decision is, it will be the right one for YOU. ((HUGS))