[kingdink]

I had a feeling this would be a problem and I was right!

The ILs got a hot tub a couple months ago. We avoided going over there the first few weeks because we knew they would want us to use it. I have read it's not a good idea for men to use hot tubs when TTC because it can kill off their sperm and leave them pretty much infertile for up to 3 months because it affects quality and quantity of mature and immature sperm. There is no way I want to risk that and DH understands, but it has been really hard the last few visits for him to avoid going in. The first time he found work to do around the house so that he couldn't and then this last time his mom got a suit out for him and told him he had to go in or his dad's feelings would be hurt. He said no because we didn't want to stay too much longer. Well, now we're going to be over there again this Thursday because his sister will be up from AZ visiting and again next week for Thanksgiving and we'll be staying overnight at least one night. I don't know what to do because I know that both times he will get serious pressure to go in and they are the type of people who will get upset and want to know why if he refuses to use the stupid hot tub. We don't want them to know we're TTC, what are we supposed to do? I would say it's not that big of a deal for him to go in for a little while, but I'm already so worried about the fact that he works outside and is wearing a bunch of layers to keep warm, I'm afraid that's having an effect too.

Any ideas?

[Eleysia]

What a sticky situation Jo, sorry hunny I got nothin lol. I cant imagine if he didnt stay in too long that it would be an issue. Just like kids really shouldnt get in, but if its only for a tiny bit they are ok?? Hopefully someone else has a better suggestion cuz mine sucks lmao.

[Danielley08]

Heya Jo! I found this on Babyhopes.com:

Heat on its own is damaging to the sperm and can hence affect male fertility to a certain extent. This impact is however temporary and does not cause permanent damage. Remember that men’s testes are outside the body for a reason. The reason being they need to be in a cooler environment to produce healthy sperm. Studies have also shown that sperm quality and count vary in men according to the seasons of the year, with the lowest count in summer.

Hot tubs, bicycling and saunas — even wearing tight underwear — are probably okay in moderation, but a man with a marginal sperm count might want to pass on these activities while he’s trying to conceive since the heat generated during these activities can damage sperm.

The quality of sperm is more affected by heat than the quantity of sperm, both of which are linked to fertility and getting pregnant. Men should avoid frequent use of the hot tub when trying to conceive because the testes are very sensitive to heat, which can damage sperm production. The heat can damage developing sperm which may not be fully mature for several months. Sperm count generally returns to normal level within a week of hot tub exposure.

The damage caused to sperm because of heat also depends upon factors like how hot the water is or how long you stay in the hot water or if the man is involved in any other activities that may affect fertility. Jobs which are performed in the heat can also affect the sperm quality. Combining hot tubs, bicycling, and active outdoor jobs and all combine to create lower than average sperm.

So it sounds to me like maybe one or 2 dips in the hot tub shouldnt hurt DH too much...just tell him to get in for a bit to make them happy just not to stay for hours on end...

[Pitridge]

I don't really have many ideas, but maybe he can use the excuse of not feeling too well and with the heat of a hot tub it's makes it worse. Hopefully with his sister there it will be full and them he can say that there are too many people in already and one more will be too much. Is the hot tub inside the house or out? Cuz he can say that he might have a cold and getting wet, plus being cold could make it worse. Or just put your feet in the hot tub and join everybody else. It's a sticky situation because you don't want to hurt their feelings but you also don't want to share that you are TTC either. Maybe he can go in for a couple of minutes and then get out because it's too hot for him to stay.

[..Jessica..]

What Danielle posted is really interesting. I think your DH would be fine if he went in for like 15 mins at the most, over the evening. Not spend 3 hours in there, KWIM? Even if he did that 2 or 3 times during the night, he should be fine.

[heathernoell6]

If you don't mind me being too nosey...why don't you want them to know you are ttc? Maybe if you could even confide in one person, they could help you get out of this situation.

[Christine-MA]

If it was me I'd probably just let him get in the first day for 15-20 mins just to get them off his back (well, and it's relaxing!). And then maybe complain of a headache the next time, and worry heat would intensify it? I don't think short term should have much affect on TTC, then again I am not a Dr

[Momeejenjen]

I can see how this would be quite the sticky situation! I could reccomend maybe having him get in for like 5 minutes and then getting out... just so he can say "I got in, now leave me alone!" LOL

Or maybe he can just sit on the side and put his feet in Good luck with everything!

[taatie10]

I had a feeling this would be a problem and I was right!

The ILs got a hot tub a couple months ago. We avoided going over there the first few weeks because we knew they would want us to use it. I have read it's not a good idea for men to use hot tubs when TTC because it can kill off their sperm and leave them pretty much infertile for up to 3 months because it affects quality and quantity of mature and immature sperm. There is no way I want to risk that and DH understands, but it has been really hard the last few visits for him to avoid going in. The first time he found work to do around the house so that he couldn't and then this last time his mom got a suit out for him and told him he had to go in or his dad's feelings would be hurt. He said no because we didn't want to stay too much longer. Well, now we're going to be over there again this Thursday because his sister will be up from AZ visiting and again next week for Thanksgiving and we'll be staying overnight at least one night. I don't know what to do because I know that both times he will get serious pressure to go in and they are the type of people who will get upset and want to know why if he refuses to use the stupid hot tub. We don't want them to know we're TTC, what are we supposed to do? I would say it's not that big of a deal for him to go in for a little while, but I'm already so worried about the fact that he works outside and is wearing a bunch of layers to keep warm, I'm afraid that's having an effect too.

Any ideas?[/b]

The only thing I have heard regarding hot tubs is that possiblity of sterliziation applies to young boys not grown men.
I guess I just have the idea that what happens is going to happen when it happens so what can I do.

I hope it works out for you