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I don't post a lot. My husband doesn't like me hanging out on the forums. He doesn't want me to be sad. He thinks it will depress me. I don't think it will but I just need to share, because I don't have anyone to share with, so he's just gonna have to deal. But I think he just doesn't think it's fair that we had to loose our baby 24 weeks in.

Anyhow, so I mentioned it in a reply somewhere that I needed a new doctor (for good reason!). I was actually afraid to go back to my old OB. Not only that, I am convinced that things could have been better if my doctor was a little more on top of things. (a heartbeat check the week before my miscarriage might have picked up on an issue instead of being too busy and just telling me to come back next week). In the mean time I saw my PCP who had me get a kidney U/S, ran a multitude of blood tests just to be sure if there was something she could have helped with. She kept me on the labetalol for my hbp so I am ready for pregnancy. She was very helpful.

I called another "well-respected" doctor in the area and scheduled a consult. I got there, waited 20 minutes in the lobby and then another 55 minutes in the room. I finally said I have to go back to work. Just then the doctor came and told me to go back into the room to decide whether or not I wanted to see her. Can you believe that? She told me to go to my room! Needless to say, I stormed out crying and my husband got them to refund my co-pay. That was in September, 6 months after the delivery.

October was our 1 year anniversary and the month we conceived last time. I was very apprehensive of possibly getting pregnant in October again. I didn't want to be in another July DDC. Not only that I was very apprehensive of getting pregnant without having a good doctor. Then I saw a San Diego Magazine Best Doctor edition at Target. I actually took pictures of the pages that had the OBs in it. My husband was concerned for copyright, I was just concerned of finding a good doctor. I then cross-referenced all the names with who took my insurance, researched which ones looked like could have some experience with hbp during pregnancy, and whatever else that could have been the cause. And called one. This is the website Womens Wellness

I called the office, drilled the receptionist, who didn't rush me, and made an appoint for Halloween. This is like 2 weeks away. Not a forever wait or anything. I got there, waited a short time, and spoke to the nurse who asked me some things, took some stats, and said I could have a pap that day if I wanted, since I was about due. You all know pap exams take forever to get (at least that's my experience) and I wasn't even expecting it. But the nurse said, not to gown up until after meeting the doctor since it was my first time there and I had questions. And then my hubby showed up. He made it! That was a real treat.

We waited just a little bit longer and the doctor came in. She is very nice looking and friendly feeling. You know that vibe? Anyhow she asked me the story and I told her the deal with my last doctor and the terrible question I hope I will someday forget. And she told me what she hoped to do. She wanted me to have a 24 hour urine test, some other blood tests, and I need to schedule a ECG, and then she wanted me to visit with a Perinatalogist. She said this is the doctor that the doctors go to when they have problems during pregnancy. She said that she wants me to have a consult and if all goes well to stay in contact with that dr. while she is treating me for WHEN I get pregnant to keep me watched. She said she will do u/s every month, and every two weeks towards the end and I think twice a week at the last few weeks, just to be sure. She also said that I should never have a horribly long wait because the doctors rotate who is in the office. She didn't do the pap, but said she wanted to see me after seeing the specialist, so she would do it then! Oh and she said we could try (and October was over!)

I had the blood tests and my glucose came back a little elevated, 106 (which will happen if you eat waffles in the morning) . So they called me and asked me to do another blood test, but told them that I didn't know I was supposed to fast. I just did that one this morning. It was a Hgc A1C I think? We'll see how that goes. Also I got a call from the perinatalogist, they wanted to see my old chart before making an appointment. I had that sent over last week and they got it yesterday. Today they called me to make an appointment. I see her on December 3rd at 12pm.

In the meantime, I'm on CD 26. My cycles seem to average about 34 days (though they went like this - 30, 28, 45, 32, 36, 33). I am not sure when I O, but I did get some O-like pain around the full moon (few days before and after the 13th). Anyone experience pain doing the deed during ovulation? It seems to be an issue sometimes for me for going deep. tmi? In any case, there was a lot of BDing, so maybe at that appointment it will be an extra good! We shall see. I don't remember when I started to feel physical symptoms, but I don't feel any yet. I do seem to pee a bit and am hungry a lot, but that isn't saying too much. Any thoughts?

Anyhow that's my story. I'm totally nervous and excited. I do have a question about temping. How do you do that? I know its first thing in the morning, but I have to get up to go pee about 30-60 minutes before I actually get up, but it's too dark to read it before then. How do you get around that?

[Bakin8th]

I am so sorry for your loss

I am so glad you got a new dr!!

Here are 2 great sites to learn how to chart

www.ovusoft.com I also suggest you buy the book Takeing charge of your fertility from the book store or that site.

www.fertilityfriend.com is another plce you can learn to chart.

Good luck!

[Christine-MA]

I'm so glad you found a wonderful Dr! I didn't like my old Dr either, and went to one my mom and aunt recommended. My first appointment, I thought I was having a pap, and the nurse told me to stay dressed too and see what he wanted to do. All we did was talk (for like a half hour!). I've heard too many people say that Dr's rush them, that's when I knew I was happy to switch. Wishing you the best!

Fertility Friend and Taking Charge of your Fertility. They are both very helpful.

Also, you need to take your temp after 3 hours of continuous sleep and before you get up (or even move around much), and you have to try to do it about the same time everyday. The thermometer I have (that I got at Walmart, I also had one from CVS that does the same) will record the temperatures and save them. So if it's too dark to read, you can just shut it off and look at it later. Personally, I set my cell phone alarm to go off at 6:30, and I temp then, and I use the light from the phone to read the temp and write it down next to the bed.

Feel free to ask questions! There is also a charting board if you didn't know, they're very helpful if you have specific charting questions.

Oh, and tell DH we are a wonderful group of ladies who are nothing but supportive

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He is trying to be supportive, but he hates to see me said. I would say honestly the hope is what I need. The Stillbirth board, although great, was just too depressing for me. I always knew there was something wrong, it just never prepared me for what happened.

But thanks for the info on the BBT thermometer guys. I didn't knew it saved the last temp. That is good to know. I don't know if I can buy that book just yet. My step-kids are still hypersensitive about it and I don't even like being on this board when they are up or around. But the thermometer won't hurt, and I imagine if they grab that instead of the regular thermometer they won't really notice the difference. When do you start taking a temp?

[KDD]

Franchesca. I am so very sorry to hear about your loss.

It's good that you didn't settle and found a good Dr. I think that they are few and far between!

I would start temping your next cycle. There's no point in waiting. If you don't want the kids to see TCOYF, Fertility Friend does have an online charting course as well.

Good luck!

[Mellza]

First of all, thank you for sharing your story. I realize that must be tough. I'm a member of the July 07 DDC, my son passed away in Feb. 08, so I completely understand not wanting a July baby. (quite truthfully I don't want to summer baby at all... but sometimes that's out of our hands) . Kudos to you for searching for the right doctor. I have also had to do the same, and finding the right Dr does make all the difference. My DH and I have been thru it with our sons death, he doesn't like to see me sad either, but tough, because its a sad thing. I don't post on the boards when he is around, because he doesn't understand. I've been on these boards since the TTC of my son, back in Aug 06. I also post sometimes in loss of a child, but I usually cry when I go to those boards, so I save that for when I need to tap into that. Sometimes its not convenient to cry, most especially with your step children around. I have found that oftentimes I resort to anger instead of tears, because that is an easier emotion to handle. DH and I haven't started our TTC journey just yet but we hope to get back on the wagon soon. I am glad you posted. ANd once you start temping and doing fertility friend, you'll be hooked!!!! lol! You can analyze your chart and compare it to others... good luck!! (((HUGS)))

[heathernoell6]

Thank you honey, for having the strength to post your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Please find friendship and support on this board. I hope that you get what you want and need very, very soon.

[..Jessica..]

Welcome aboard!!!!

I'm really sorry to hear you lost your baby! I'm so glad you've found such a wonderful doctor, she sounds amazing!!!! Really on point, and WANTS to help you, rather than just take your money!

Good luck with everything, including your appointment on the 3rd!

[Eleysia]

I just wanted to say welcome, and thank you for sharing you story. This group is awsome as far as friendships and support go hope you stick around for a bit (even if DH doesnt know )

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First of all, thank you for sharing your story. I realize that must be tough. I'm a member of the July 07 DDC, my son passed away in Feb. 08, so I completely understand not wanting a July baby. (quite truthfully I don't want to summer baby at all... but sometimes that's out of our hands) . Kudos to you for searching for the right doctor. I have also had to do the same, and finding the right Dr does make all the difference. My DH and I have been thru it with our sons death, he doesn't like to see me sad either, but tough, because its a sad thing. I don't post on the boards when he is around, because he doesn't understand. I've been on these boards since the TTC of my son, back in Aug 06. I also post sometimes in loss of a child, but I usually cry when I go to those boards, so I save that for when I need to tap into that. Sometimes its not convenient to cry, most especially with your step children around. I have found that oftentimes I resort to anger instead of tears, because that is an easier emotion to handle. DH and I haven't started our TTC journey just yet but we hope to get back on the wagon soon. I am glad you posted. ANd once you start temping and doing fertility friend, you'll be hooked!!!! lol! You can analyze your chart and compare it to others... good luck!! (((HUGS)))[/b]

I did create an acct on Fertility Friend. I was using My Monthly Cycles, but it does not have the same functionality. But I do like like it. So now I am keeping track of both, because fertility friend seems complicated for me. In any case I do appreciate your post. I do find that I am much more snappy and get angry easier then I used to. I just don't know always how to explain and I just feel like they are trying to be stupid and thoughtless. But the oldest one is 10 going on 16, so I think that comes with hormonal territory. Luckly it's not so bad all the time.

Thank you honey, for having the strength to post your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Please find friendship and support on this board. I hope that you get what you want and need very, very soon.[/b]

I don't know if it's strength. I'm just clinging to the hope I have. I was hoping to get pregnant quick, so maybe at Thanksgiving I'd have something to be extra Thankful for. However I was spotting this morning. I don't know if that is a good sign or a bad one. I really don't want to start my period in time for Thanksgiving!

[cam & sami's mom]

Hi - I came looking for you after you signed Cameron's guestbook. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your loss. I don't have much to add to what the others advised. I do like fertility friend. I have charted with them off & on since 2001. Good luck.