[jspeir1989]

I just had a miscarriage 2 days ago... And I was just wondering when other woman who have had miscarriages decided to ttc again.... Dh has told me we'll try again whenever I'm ready but I just can't see a time when I'll want to try again....

[madmum_sarah]

hey hun. im so sorry you are joining us here but also im glad you have found a very supportive and friendly board.
i know i replied in DDC but i really am so sorry for your loss and i pray you get your sticky bean soon.
a lot of docs say you can try straight away but i always think waiting until you have had a real af is better because it gives your body a chance to build the lining back up.
sending lots of love and hugs your way hun.

xxx

[IAMommy]

I am so sorry for your loss.


When you are ready to TTC again, you will know. Don't put any kind of pressure on yourself to do it before you are ready. You body and mind both need time to heal.

Whenever you do decide you are ready, I hope you get a beautiful BFP right away.

[KDD]

I am so sorry for your loss

Right after our loss I was sure that I would never want to try again. Within a week I had changed my mind. You will know when you're ready. Don't rush it, take some time to grieve for your loss.

[..Jessica..]

Welcome to the board, sweetie.

I'm Jessica, one of the co-hosts on here...although, I feel that everyone on here is a host!

I am so deeply sorry to hear of your loss. Words won't make things right, but hopefully you will feel in your heart that we do understand and are here for you.

Most doctors say wait 1-3 cycles after a miscarriage, that way the lining of your uterus has time to build up. I waited over a year, but that was personal choice. You will be terrified to get pregnant again, and it's completely normal.

I hope you stick around, you'll find answers to every question you ever imagined about TTC after a Loss on here!!!!

[BellaBellski]

I think it's completely natural to feel that way.

I lost my son at 21 weeks and when the perinatologist told me we could start TTC again after 3 cycles I was almost offended, you know? I couldn't imagine trying again so soon. We thought we would wait AT LEAST a year... and here we are 3 cycles later... TTC again

The pain of losing a baby will never go away, but I promise you it gets a little bit easier every single day.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I wish you the very best in the future!

[Frangipani]

Welcome to the board. I'm really sorry you have had a loss I agree with what KDD said though. I thought I wouldn't want to try again for ages then after a few days, all I wanted was to be pregnant again. We did wait, I think one or two cycles, just so my body could heal.

[starrsgirl]

I am so sorry for your loss

Right after our loss I was sure that I would never want to try again. Within a week I had changed my mind. You will know when you're ready. Don't rush it, take some time to grieve for your loss.[/b]

I was just like this too! I was all about TTC immediately after my loss. It's been just over a month now and I'm having reservations again. I think we are going to hold off another few months.

I'm so sorry for your loss. This board has been amazing and has gotten me back on my feet. I hope you can find the same comfort and support here.

[..Red..]

for everyone. Only you know how you will feel as the days tick by. I know that my fear of getting pregnant again was so strong I was afraid of having sex period. But I also know that eventually I wanted to have another baby. I know that my DH's undying support and concern along the way (without pressuring me) and constant reminders that it wasn't my fault (he's still working on getting me to believe it) has definitely helped. I might have never gotten to this point as soon. But I will say that I definitely avoided, prevented, and actively prayed to not get pregnant the month I conceived last time to avoid the same DDC next time.

Good luck. It gets better but just remember it's ok to have random moments of utter sadness, bliss, and apathy, even when you think you "are over it." You will never be, because something will remind you, and that is ok..

I am so so so sorry for your loss. I know it sounds cliche, but just go day by day. At first I thought there's no way I'll ever get pg again b/c I don't want to go through this, then I hit a point where all I could thing about was getting pg again, and here I am a year later and I feel like I'm in a healthy place where I want a baby not to replace the one I lost, but because I want one. It's different for everyone though. I would guess it's an average of about 2 months before you'll want to TTC again.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. THe girls on this board are wonderful. And when you do get pg again, the pregnancy after loss board is fabulous as well. Good luck to you hun.

[heathernoell6]

Everyone has pretty much summed it up. It is so hard and such a personal decision. I was absolutely devistated for a week or so(actually crying multiple times a day and took 6 days off work). Then, as that subsided, I was ready to start to ttc again. Dbf and I do not have the benefit of time on our side (I am 30 he is 42). So, we are currently trying. But, you should wait until you know in your heart that you are ready. You will find so much love and support on this board. I wish you all the luck in the world. {{{{{Hugs}}}}

[Momeejenjen]

Yeah I agree with most of the girls here.. its a day by day process.. I at first couldn't bare the thought of going through it all over again.. then time began to heal my heart, every day got a little easier, but I still get sad.. today I am sad... I want my baby... it's just a day to day process.

Give yourself some time to heal and mourn your loss. You will one day be ready to try again.

[HippyMomOf4]

Just wanted to say welcome to TTCAL, all the ladies are great here! They have pretty much said everything already but my dr told me to wait 1 cycle and we could try again and it was pretty much for dating purposes. That was if i was emotionally ready to try. Good luck!