This Maybe Be My New Home For A While

amychristian · #1 November 30th, 2008, 08:23 PM

I'm not really new to JMB, but I was posting in 'Am I Pregnant' and then the 'August 2009 DDC.' Here's what happened:

My last AF was on October 31. We were TTC our first month, and fertilization definitely occurred, and I got two BFPs on Monday, November 24. Then on Saturday the 29th I got a BFN, and then AF showed today. Not spotting or anything. An actual period. So I guess I had a chemical pregnancy or blighted ovum. Not sure which. I think I m/c on Friday when I was experiencing extreme back pain and my symptoms disappeared.

This was our first month TTC, and so my question is, how long do I have to wait until we can try again and be successful? Some people say the very next month. Should I get checked out so that they can find any abnormalities? I don't even know what caused it, but I really don't want to go through this ever again. Is there anything I can do to ensure my baby's survival the next time? How and why did this happen to us so early? I really hope nothing is wrong with me

God, I have so many questions. I was hoping to find some encouragement and support in this forum. Has anyone else dealt with this? I wish this had been perfect, and now I really miss being pregnant and the feeling that we have to start all over again. It was an exhausting and LONG month.

azura24 · #2 November 30th, 2008, 09:56 PM

im sorry, i wish I had some kind of answers but unfortunately I dont. Im sure someone on this board does though, so keep your head up. Welcome to the board and Im sorry for your loss.

Momeejenjen · #3 December 1st, 2008, 05:35 AM

First, just know it was not your fault. I can't provider any answers to what exactly you experienced, I am sure some one here can! Keep your head up and just know all the girls here do understand how you feel, and will offer support!

mary30 · #4 December 1st, 2008, 05:48 AM

Amy I remember you from ttc board I float from here to there.. Or maybe it was AmI Pregnant . Heck I do not know !!

I am sorry that you are having to go through this. When you have a natural miscarriage you can start trying right away unless your doctor says different.. I had a D&C and I had to wait once whole cycle before trying again..

I really depends with my first miscarriage I got pregnant right away . Now after having the D&C in September I am on 3rd month of trying.... I am normally pregnant right away ..

I wish you the best of luck

AliciaF · #5 December 1st, 2008, 06:45 AM

I've had 2 chemical pregnancies in my last 4 cycles. The general thought is that you can try right away after a chemical without waiting for a normal AF in between.

Normally a chemical pregnancy is a fluke thing and you will have a normal pregnancy next time.

Mommy0305 · #6 December 1st, 2008, 07:28 AM

You can try right away after a very early loss, I'm sorry that happened to you.

..Jessica.. · #7 December 1st, 2008, 12:01 PM

Welcome to the board, hun.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss!!!!

Based on what you've said, I think you had a chemical pregnancy. You shouldn't have to wait long before TTC again, just wait for your next AF and then you're ready to go. You can try this cycle, but some say to wait just 1 more AF. You can take vitamins to help longate your LP, but there isn't anything medically you can do to prevent another miscarriage. If there was a way, I'm sure we'd all be taking it.

It happens because there's something wrong with the baby, or it implanted too late, and your body was already assuming it wasn't pregnant. It's not your fault, and don't ever think that.

Good luck to you, and I hope you stick around!!!

ftnjn · #8 December 1st, 2008, 03:03 PM

After a chemical you can try the same cycle.

I'm so sorry!!!!

heathernoell6 · #9 December 1st, 2008, 08:07 PM

Hi Amy. Welcome to the board. Like the others have said, very early m/c or chemical pregnancies, you can begin ttc right away. Some say to wait for the first AF for dating reasons or emotional reasons. If you feel like you are ready, go for it. Also, there is no way it was your fault. These things unfurtunately happen a lot and most of us will never know why, and will go on to have a happy healthy pregnancy after. Good luck, but just a warning, these ladies rock and you are never going to want to leave, even when you do get your BFP!!!

amychristian · #10 December 2nd, 2008, 09:16 AM

Thank you all so much! I can't tell you how much this board has made a difference throughout this entire experience. All the JMB ladies have been incredibly considerate and supportive and I can't thank you all enough.

This current AF seems very normal and should be nearing its end tomorrow night (mine typically only last 4 days). After that I'm going to start charting and using OPKs. I just hope I never have to go through this again, and next time I'm going to wait until I miss a period before testing! That would have saved us a lot of grief but I was so excited to test.

DH and I agreed that we're going to start TTC immediately. He said, "There's nothing wrong with trying as much as possible! It's not like we're doing something we don't enjoy!" That's DH for ya!

I will be sure to keep all of my forums updated on any new developments in December.

Thanks again!

HippyMomOf4 · #11 December 2nd, 2008, 10:37 AM

Just wanted to say good luck. There is no way to prevent it again sometimes it just happens and their isn't a defended cause. Most dr's won't look into a m/c unless you've had 3 in a row. I've had 2 in a row, but they consider me a special case because i already have two children and they know i can carry babies. Anyway im rambling on now lol GOOD LUCK!

ccwantsbfp · #12 December 2nd, 2008, 10:52 AM

Quote:

I'm not really new to JMB, but I was posting in 'Am I Pregnant' and then the 'August 2009 DDC.' Here's what happened:

My last AF was on October 31. We were TTC our first month, and fertilization definitely occurred, and I got two BFPs on Monday, November 24. Then on Saturday the 29th I got a BFN, and then AF showed today. Not spotting or anything. An actual period. So I guess I had a chemical pregnancy or blighted ovum. Not sure which. I think I m/c on Friday when I was experiencing extreme back pain and my symptoms disappeared.

This was our first month TTC, and so my question is, how long do I have to wait until we can try again and be successful? Some people say the very next month. Should I get checked out so that they can find any abnormalities? I don't even know what caused it, but I really don't want to go through this ever again. Is there anything I can do to ensure my baby's survival the next time? How and why did this happen to us so early? I really hope nothing is wrong with me

God, I have so many questions. I was hoping to find some encouragement and support in this forum. Has anyone else dealt with this? I wish this had been perfect, and now I really miss being pregnant and the feeling that we have to start all over again. It was an exhausting and LONG month.[/b]

I'm stalking you from your previous post of BFN after BFP...I am keeping you in my prayers and hopefully we can both be int he September/December DDC's. I mostly post in TTC 1year+, but feel free to contact me if there's anything you need.

ccwantsbfp · #13 December 2nd, 2008, 11:10 AM

Quote:

I'm not really new to JMB, but I was posting in 'Am I Pregnant' and then the 'August 2009 DDC.' Here's what happened:

My last AF was on October 31. We were TTC our first month, and fertilization definitely occurred, and I got two BFPs on Monday, November 24. Then on Saturday the 29th I got a BFN, and then AF showed today. Not spotting or anything. An actual period. So I guess I had a chemical pregnancy or blighted ovum. Not sure which. I think I m/c on Friday when I was experiencing extreme back pain and my symptoms disappeared.

This was our first month TTC, and so my question is, how long do I have to wait until we can try again and be successful? Some people say the very next month. Should I get checked out so that they can find any abnormalities? I don't even know what caused it, but I really don't want to go through this ever again. Is there anything I can do to ensure my baby's survival the next time? How and why did this happen to us so early? I really hope nothing is wrong with me

God, I have so many questions. I was hoping to find some encouragement and support in this forum. Has anyone else dealt with this? I wish this had been perfect, and now I really miss being pregnant and the feeling that we have to start all over again. It was an exhausting and LONG month.[/b]

I'm stalking you from your previous post of BFN after BFP...I am keeping you in my prayers and hopefully we can both be int he September/December DDC's. I mostly post in TTC 1year+, but feel free to contact me if there's anything you need.