[xREGRETxNOTHiiNG]

Hey ladies!

My name is Meagan (20) and I am engaged to Nathan (23) we have been TTC for a while now..we had 2 losses March 10, 2006 and January 28, 2007. I am going to the doctor on Jan 21, 2009, but am kind of afraid to mention TTC because people think at my age I shouldn't be. I have my own personal reasons as to why..but I am just curious as to how i should approach it with the doctor. She is a new doctor and this appointment is my first with her. My regular doctor wants me to go to the OB because I mentioned to him I get really sick when I get my period and he wants it all checked out. Personally, I am dreeding the answers I may get. Anyways, put aside the jibber jabber I just wondering how I should approach my doctor with my TTC questions.
Thanks in advance!

[Momeejenjen]

They will not judge you and if they do, you need a new doctor. you need to tell them you are TTC so they can make sure that whatever it is that you are facing will not affect your ability to carry a healthy pregnancy to term. I wish you the best and i hope you get some answers

[..Jessica..]

Welcome to the board, Meagan!

I'm Jessica and I'm one of the co-hosts on here! I'm 21, and honestly...TTC age shouldn't matter to anyone. As long as you and Chris love eachother, and know what's going on, then that's all that matters!

I'm very sorry to hear of your two losses! You've definitely found the right place for support, advice, and lots of hugs when you need them!

[Christine-MA]

They will not judge you and if they do, you need a new doctor. you need to tell them you are TTC so they can make sure that whatever it is that you are facing will not affect your ability to carry a healthy pregnancy to term. I wish you the best and i hope you get some answers[/b]

Your Dr shouldn't pass judgement because you are young and not yet married. And if she did, I would switch Dr's too. But it is important that she know you are TTC to go over those specifics with you.

I am sorry for your losses. Good luck at the appointment.

[Augie]

I agree with the others. Definitely mention it to the doctor.

[.kristen.]

Everyone is right. There is no age requirement. My sister in law actually found out very early she would have a hard time to get pregnant and she was talking to the drs when she was 18 when they decided down the road they wanted children. So, there is no age I would just be blunt about it.

Good luck on your appt!

[L-SBB]

Hi Meagan, and welcome!

I'm Lara (36) married to DH Matt (36) and we're TTC #1...this board is full of wonderful ladies who have given me a lot of support after my loss, and you're very welcome to join us as you begin to TTC again. I'm very sorry for your earlier losses, and I hope your TTC journey is a short one!

It's important that you have a good relationship with your OB, so if you feel uncomfortable or that you're being judged after you have the initial appt, then keep doctor shopping until you find one that puts you at ease! Just some ideas of questions you may want to ask the OB about, beyond any reason for the past losses and why you're getting so sick during AF:

* When is the first appt typically scheduled once you get your BFP on hpt? (some OBs, like mine, won't see you until 8-10 weeks along...so hence the next question)
* Given the prior losses, when you become pregnant can you get an earlier appt to check on levels and/or u/s?

For a pre-pregnancy health consult, your OB should also do all routine annual tests (PAP, etc.) just to make sure there's no issues before you start TTC.

Good Luck and KUP!

[klt]

Meagan, Welcome! I'm so sorry about your losses. I hope you get the answers you are looking for at your appointment. Don't worry about the age thing...heck, I'm 41 and DH is 43! I can't imagine your doctor would say anything about your age. I agree with everyone...If she does, you need to keep shopping for an OB that makes you feel comfortable. Good luck with the appointment. Keep us posted!

[HOPINGFOR#4]

Welcome and lots of luck in your ttc journey, mno one has any right to pass judgement on what you and your fiance want, you are both adults and what you do is your decision. Plkease KUP on your doc appt.

[KDD]

Meagan. I'm Kimberley and DH is Jason.

Definitely discuss your TTC plans with your doctor. That is what she is there for. Good luck.

[xREGRETxNOTHiiNG]

You ladies were very helpful! Thank you so much!! I will def keep everyone updated on what happens

I am also very sorry for everyones losses and wish you all the best of luck on your road TTC!

[heathernoell6]

I am sorry to post so late. I am just home from the holidays. Be VERY honest with your doctor. If he/she passes judgement due to your age or any other factor...look for a new doc. you, and only you know what is right in your circumstances. I wish you luck...and you found a FABULOUS BOARD!!!