[..Jessica..]

...feel cheated?

Like...I've seen so many members go from not being sure if they'll try this cycle to being 10 days from their due date in what seems to be a blink of an eye.

I'm jealous...and it's starting to get to me.

Yet...I can't stop thinking about baby names...and have my future girl's name set in stone.

[ftnjn]

It gets to me but in a different way, I get jealous of people who get pregnant so easy and can carry to term with no problems(the ones who don't even want a baby).
It took me almost 9 years to have a baby and after he was born I almost died, and then we were blessed with #2 and now I'm going through the same thing I did before I had #1, it sucks. I know I can carry a baby, but I can't seem to get pregnant with a sticky bean again.

I have decided to start back to school, I can't wait to see if I'll have #3 so I'm going back to school while ttc #3. My cardiologist doesn't want me to try after 34 so I only have 7 more month to try.

I even set up another FF chart to see if they would give me the same O day and they haven't one says I'm 8 DPO and the other 3 DPO. I'm so ready to just give up.

[Momeejenjen]

Its really hard for me to see people IRL who "accidently" got pregnant and they could be labeled as a horrible parent.. yet they will continue to carry their baby.. not me

[Christine-MA]

I get jealous, definitely! But I try not to think about it and try to focus on ME. Try being the keyword because obviously it's not that easy!

I don't know if I believe the whole "everything happens for a reason" and I hate when people say that to me! What reason does God (or whatever higher power) have that he wanted me to miscarry twice?? Why not just have me not get pregnant, it would have the same outcome. So you're telling me the plan is for me to be 30 and not be pregnant or have kids, but my sister could have a baby at 16? That's a stupid plan if you ask me!

[.kristen.]

I find it funny how after you have a loss everyone you know get pregnant. I just found out my brother in law's live in girlfriend was due in March (nice way to throw a punch in a gut). He has 1 child he barely sees and he is 36 and he is horrible. You don't want to get me started on him. It is frustrating because he is a horrible person and father and he can have a baby and I can't even carry one close to term.

Is it always hard when you find out someone else is pregnant and you aren't?

[~Lynda~]

it's really really hard! it's not natural to enjoy seeing something you want so badly, given to someone else or many others I might add. It's gotten to me!! But I just keep telling myself that there are others out there in worst situations. I have a friend who had such severe endo that they had to do a full hysterectomy. she was crushed!!! they are looking into adoption, but it totally crushed her to know she would never ever carry a life inside her. i felt so bad for her when she found it out.

so i try to stay positive and believe. I saw a little saying on an Angel figurine over the holidays and it said...
Faith is not wondering if God can, but trusting that he will. So i'm on board with that!! I am handing my faith over to God and hoping that he hears me!

G/L girls. I've seen so many ladies come and go to ddc's, and here I still sit. It will happen for us!!!
HUGS

[L-SBB]

Totally normal to feel envious when you want something so badly Jess!

I also agree with Lynda...I have so many friends who have been through really serious fertility issues (and a couple who couldn't have children at all) that it helps balance my frustration, because I (hopefully) just need to be patient and eventually I'll have the baby I'm longing for.

I agree with a lot of the above posts. It is frustrating at times. Then again I see miracles happening for my friends and family and feel so thankful for those. My SIL is due in February with #1 after 2 miscarriages and my good friend is due with #1 in March (we had the same due dates) after trying since 2000 to get pregnant! I am so thrilled for them, but then I think how I was so excited to be having a baby at the same time as them, and now I'm not.

I did say that I wanted an October baby, which would mean next cycle we should try LOL. My problem is, DH and I keep going back and forth on whether we should try. I'm terrified of going through another mc, but I would love Linz to have a sibling. We always change our minds like every other month. Like we started TTC #2 in January 2008, then skipped Feb, then tried in March then skipped April and tried in June. I don't know why we aren't decisive. I think we're just nervous about going through it all again and I wasn't one of those women who loved being pregnant and my labor with DD was very hard, so that stuff scares me too. Since this month we decided not to try again, ever (yea that was the plan), I gave my SIL all Linz's baby toys and some other things I had around the house (pack and play, monitor, etc. I have NO baby things left.) I think that made me feel like we were serious about not trying again, but then I have days like today where I change my mind. I guess time will tell what we'll do.

[.H.e.a.t.h.e.r.]

I get pregnant no problem but I am scared I wont stay pregnant next time.

[..Red..]

I totally understand. I get the same way. Especially since I live in "East County." Which generally translates to: you will see young women with several kids at the walmart at 10 pm at night.... all under 5 and of questionable paternal linkage. Which of course drives me crazy. Especially since I purposefully avoided pregnancy until I married my DH because no matter how difficult life might be, he'd be the only person on earth who could be the father of my children.

[*SamF*]

I feel very cheated and jealous, wrong as it may be. Since my first m/c I have heard of five ‘accidental’ pregnancies at work- most aren’t employees here, but cousins, daughters ect.. But actually not for those here, or for others I know that have been trying as hard. Every time someone who has been having problems finally gets to the end it’s a reminder that I can too.


Sam

[KDD]

I don't want to say that I'm "jealous" - but I probably am. I just wish my uber-fertile friends would remember that the rest of the world might not get pg as easily. I am truly happy for them, but I swear a small part of me dies each time a pregnancy is announced.

My rule is: If they've been married for 5 years or more and don't have kids - either they don't want any (yet or ever), or they have issues!