[HippyMomOf4]

When you get your BFP do you plan on telling everyone right away or waiting till you feel safe?



I couldn't wait lol i told pretty much everyone

[L-SBB]

I'm definitely waiting...probably until 12 weeks at least (possibly longer for notifying work)...after the last loss, I don't think even hearing a hb on 1st u/s will make me feel confident

[starrsgirl]

Waiting for sure! I will try and wait as long as I can...def into the 2nd trimester. I should be able to hide it ok. For me, seeing the ultrasound with a heartbeat isn't enough either. I think I'll have to have at least 2 before I even feel a little "safe".

[Christine-MA]

I'll definitely wait. I actually didn't find it as hard to wait with my 2nd m/c. The first one I told everyone immediately, the second I said I'd wait 12 weeks. I only got to 6 weeks (so knew for 2), but it wasn't bad. Since the losses though, we will be getting early u/s, so hopefully I can see the HB at least once and get to 12 weeks, and then I'll tell friends/family. I probably won't tell work until I'm much further along though (and pretty much can't hide it). Unless of course I'm sick a lot, then I will tell them why. They know about the 2 m/c, so it won't come as a shock I'm sure.

[KatiInCT]

I'm definitely waiting...probably until 12 weeks at least (possibly longer for notifying work)...after the last loss, I don't think even hearing a hb on 1st u/s will make me feel confident [/b]

This past pregnancy I was waiting until 12 weeks to tell work but we told family and friends right away. But I suppose we shall see.

One of the reasons I had to tell my mom right away is she is my dental hygienist and I was due for xrays the week that I found out. I postponed the xrays until May, we shall see if I am pregnant again by then.

[Eleysia]

DH and my sister will know right away. Then im going to tell my son (he is only 3) because I need to get him to stop being so rough.. like kicking my tummy and boobs when i change his diaper!! But my parents will not know for a while... a long while hahaha.

[.kristen.]

Other than immediate family, husband and parents (because they watch the boys while I'm at the drs) we are waiting until 16-20 weeks. It will be a long wait, but anything to not have to tell everyone I lost another baby.

[KDD]

I'll probably wait until after the u/s - then I'll only tell those who know that we are TTC and/or who knew about our loss. Otherwise, I plan to wait as long as possible to announce the news.

[DoulaMama]

I don't know... I work at a birth center- so everyone will know soon, once I have my first appt, around 8 weeks.

We won't tell other friends/family till probably 11 weeks.

[..Red..]

I will tell my boss next Monday after my Friday ultrasound. I'll be about 6 weeks then. If everything is good, then I'll tell her because she is often not very supportive of my doctor's visits anyhow. This way she will understand some. I didn't tell them last time until a few weeks before the m/c. I know I was very stressed out a bit about the whole thing and I know that stress will not help my BP, so best to just let it out. I am very confident however of a positive outcome. I did tell one of my co-workers though because her daughter and I are about the same age and will both be due about a week or two apart.

[..Jessica..]

I'm with Kim, I'll be waiting as long as I possibly can to hold off and tell people.

I'll wait as long as I can this time. We told our family right away both pregnancies so far. I think maybe I"ll try and wait until after my first appt at least. That's usually 9 weeks or so.

[ESMERALDAAZ]

I'm waiting to be 12 weeks, or at least until I see a hearthbeat.

[klt]

We'll be waiting this time. Seeing what it did to my DS (the middle one) when we told him and then had to tell him we lost the baby... It was awful! I don't ever, EVER, want to do that again. I thought we were safe after seeing the heartbeat! We will wait as long as we can. I will let a few people know. My three sisters...I'll need their prayers I get scared just thinking about it!

Oh, wait, I have to edit... I'll let ALL of you know!!! I'll need your thoughts, prayers, sticky dust, etc... and I know that you will all know how I will feel. Scared. Exited. Thrilled. Terrified. I can't wait until I get to share my BFP news with you all. I also can't wait to hear about yours!

[huckleberry312]

We are waiting to announce it this time. My close family knows, but Dh's family doesn't and neither do our friends. Even though we have seen the heartbeat I still don't feel safe with this pregnancy. The fear of losing another baby haunts me more than once day.

[kingdink]

I have only really told the people who knew about my loss last time, you guys, my DH, a couple close friends and my sister. I'll be waiting to tell everyone else until I have no idea when. I was thinking until after I heard the HB with a doppler, but I may wait until after the big u/s. I know there is no "safe" time, but I will feel better if I wait a few weeks into the second trimester. I don't know how long I'll be able to hide it from the IL's though, so it may be whenever they can guess, they just see me more frequently. MI can think of at least one person who won't be too happy about me being pg, so I'd rather hold off anyway.

[*SamF*]

I had to really think about this one. I would really like to wait to tell anyone (except DH- he will know as soon as I know) but so many people know that I am ttc, and that I am even having the surgery next week. Luckily I work with some great women who are very supportive. They have been really sweet and helpful with my loses- although only 1 knows about the last one. So even if I decided not to tell them, they will be watching me like a bunch of hawks for the first sign.
As far as family goes, I think it comes to sharing both the joys and sorrows. I will try to wait till we can hear the heartbeat, but I think my mother is more aware of my cycles that I am sometimes, and she lives 5 hours away! (She’s a little anxious for a new grandbaby).

So I’m thinking IF I can keep people from guessing, around 8 to 10 weeks I will start letting some people know. As far as officially announcing it I want to wait till I am well into the second trimester.

[Jenn218]

I don't know what we'll do. It was hard to hide it last time because I have fibroids that grew rather large and when I was 6wks I looked more like I was 15 wks. So we'll see.

[PixieQueen]

I think we will wait, but part of it depends on my gut feeling. I knew something wasn't right with my loss. I just had a really weird feeling, couldn't seem to get excited, couldn't plan. Then I started bleeding. Feeling went away. But with Tanith we told a lot of people right away. So I guess it will depend. Probably wait. We mostly did this time and it made it easier, to only have to tell a few people.