Putting TTC on hold

Christine-MA · #1 January 4th, 2009, 07:20 PM

LOL So I know I just posted about my initial thought of putting TTC on hold, but then wanting to TTC again immediately...but I really feel this time like I'm putting it on hold until April. I'm pasting in my post from TTC #1, with a few edits............

Soooo as many times as I go back and forth, I have decided (for the second time) to wait until late March or April (depending on when O falls) to TTC again.

There are numerous reasons, the most important being that I want to give my body time to heal. After my D&C at 10 weeks in August, O went from 3 cycles at CD18, CD18, CD17 to CD24, CD21, CD19 for the next 3 cycles....While this one was natural and only at 6 weeks, I still would like to give 3-4 cycles before we try, and who knows how long it will take, but fortunately for me the last 2 have happened on the 3rd month, so hopefully that's a good sign.

Another reason is that if we start in April, that will ensure being due in January (well, assuming I don't go very early), which I'd prefer than being due in Nov/Dec with the holidays. Plus for schooling reasons, I'd prefer a child born at the beginning of the year. (I swear I can convince myself of anything with the right reasons!!)

Another reason is that it will give me 3 months to get in the best shape of my life! Not only will that be good for pregnancy, but I think I'll be able to hide it longer (which I want to do).

Also, I turn 30 in March, and even though it will kill me not to be pregnancy by my first due date, I can have a few drinks! Obviously NOT a real reason, but if I made the decision anyway, this is something to look forward to lol

And lastly (but pretty importantly) for financial reasons......I will be a SAHM once baby comes. DH pay for a lot of the bills now, but he is going to be taking on all of them so we will get used to living on one income. Which means for the next year+ almost all of my income will go into savings. So when I'm not working, I don't have to "ask" DH for money for a haircut, etc! Not that my money is my money and his money is his money, but tit will give me some independence when I don't have money coming in.

I'm totally not leaving the board, I can't stop chatting

Or learning, or offering advice when I can.

klt · #2 January 4th, 2009, 07:28 PM

It looks like you have a plan. Good for you! You seemed to have really have thought everything through. And, I'm really glad that you won't be leaving us!

#3 January 4th, 2009, 08:07 PM

I think it is a great, well thought out plan of action. I know how hard it is to make this decision! I wish you guys the best. Enjoy the next few months and make time for yourself!

Mommy0305 · #4 January 5th, 2009, 04:49 AM

Your plan sounds like a really good one, I wish you good luck!

DoulaMama · #5 January 5th, 2009, 05:33 AM

it seems like a good plan. I hope your break flies by!

kingdink · #6 January 5th, 2009, 06:32 AM

Well, it sounds like you have given it a lot of thought and your plan sounds great. Thanks for sticking around though, we'd miss you.

..Jessica.. · #7 January 5th, 2009, 07:21 AM

Definitely sounds like you have a great plan! I like it!

I'm glad you're sticking around, too!

huckleberry312 · #8 January 5th, 2009, 07:34 AM

Christine it sounds like you have thought it out and are doing what is best for you. I think this will give you and your body a chance to heal. I am glad you are sticking around though.

jenn27 · #9 January 5th, 2009, 11:20 AM

Sounds like you have really thought about it and I think it sounds like you have a wonderful plan. I wish you lots of luck and I pray that when you start TTC again, ya'll get your sticky BFP and have that tiny miracle in your arms in no time. Glad you are sticking around. I'll be thinking about you.

~Lynda~ · #10 January 5th, 2009, 02:31 PM

you seem to have thought this through so i won't try to talk you out of waiting. heck i'll probably still be trying to get a bfp when you start trying again!!!! I'm glad you have come to a decision that seems right for you and your family!!! I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope you don't disappear!!!! i would miss ya!!! pm just to chat hun!!!! HUGS

L-SBB · #11 January 5th, 2009, 03:52 PM

As long as you're staying you can do whatever you want! JUST DON'T LEAVE US!!!

Really though, it seems you've thought it through and if waiting is what is best for you then we will (of course) support you doing it.

.kristen. · #12 January 5th, 2009, 03:58 PM

You have a really good plan! You have thought it through and everything. I hope that the time flies by! You enjoy your birthday too! I'm happy you aren't leaving us!