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Jennifer8080 · #1 January 11th, 2009, 06:08 PM

Hi Ladies -

I'm new to this board, and just had a miscarriage on Dec. 27 at 7 weeks. I had a follow up appointment on Friday and got the okay to start TTC again. I just don't know if I'm ready. There are still a lot of times that I just feel lost. But part of me feels like I may never feel totally ready. I'm scared to death of another loss. We considered NTNP for a few months, but then part of me just doesn't feel right not TTC. Anyway, several ladies on JM suggested I come over to this board. I look forward to getting to know all of you.

..Red.. · #2 January 11th, 2009, 06:14 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. I think most all can understand how you feel. I know it took almost 9 months before I was completely ready TTC, but I also didn't want to wait that long.

In the other end, I see you have 9 months till your wedding. Maybe waiting a month or more might be a good idea. That way you don't have to worry about being due right about when your baby is due. You might not get to say "I do" if the baby decide right at that "right" moment. Good luck whatever you decide but know that everyone will be supportive.

*SamF* · #3 January 11th, 2009, 06:17 PM

Hi Jennifer!
The ladies on this board are great.They have been a great help to me.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and completely understand the fear and desire to ttc.
I'm Sam, DH is Jim, we are ttc our first with three losses in the past year.

huckleberry312 · #4 January 11th, 2009, 06:21 PM

Hi Jennifer. I am sorry for your loss. Big

. What you're feeling is completely normal. Once you have had a loss the fear of another never goes away. It really sucks. The ladies on this board are wonderful and helpful. Without them I probably wouldn't have made it to where I am. I hope you find as much comfort and friendship as I have.

L-SBB · #5 January 11th, 2009, 07:19 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss Jennifer, and you're most welcome to join us here. Your loss is so recent, it's understandable that you're not ready to think about TTC again. I wasn't ready to brave coming to this board for more than a month after my loss...and I am only just now TTC again.

I hope you find the same wonderful support here that I have.

MountainMomma · #6 January 11th, 2009, 07:34 PM

I'm sorry you had to join us here, but glad that you have. The ladies here are amazing, and will give you all the support you need. Each person and each loss is so very different. Just take your time and follow your heart. If you ever need someone to talk to, send me a PM.

~Lynda~ · #7 January 11th, 2009, 07:48 PM

Hi there, i'm so very sorry for your loss!! it is so emotionally difficult. i had a loss last august and i know how you feel about being afraid to lose another one. you must put your faith in God and remember that he will never give you more than you can handle!!!

i also agree with maybe waiting a month so you aren't due when you're saying "i do"...

G/L sweetie, I hope you can come to a decision that is right for you!!!

PixieQueen · #8 January 11th, 2009, 09:46 PM

You made it! You are going to love it here!

crybaby1220 · #9 January 11th, 2009, 09:56 PM

Glad to see you found us!! Sorry for your loss. I hope you get your BFP soon, or in a month or two, LOL! Whenever is right for you!

DoulaMama · #10 January 12th, 2009, 05:34 AM

I'm glad you came over here.... it's nice to know others understand.

Bakin8th · #11 January 12th, 2009, 01:04 PM

I am so sorry for your loss

I am glad you found us. They ladies here are wonderful!!

I hope you get a sticky BFP when you do decide to ttc again!

Jennifer8080 · #12 January 12th, 2009, 02:17 PM

Thank you so much. I can already tell that you guys are wonderful and I look forward to getting to know you.

Christine-MA · #13 January 12th, 2009, 03:45 PM

Glad you found us!

Mommy0305 · #14 January 12th, 2009, 03:52 PM

I'm sorry for your loss

Mrs.Shirley · #15 January 12th, 2009, 09:08 PM

Just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss and gl with ttc.

KirstenM · #16 January 13th, 2009, 12:16 AM

Although I'm also new here I'd like to welcome you. The ladies seem really nice and understanding.

I'm Kirsten and we lost our son in January 2007. He was born 10 weeks prem and lived for 6 days. We were advised by our docs to wait for 3-4 months to be on an even keel emotionally, but basically it's fine to start ttc as soon as you want to. Your body will let you know when it's ready.

As some of the other ladies have mentioned, it might be worth considering waiting a month or so before seriously trying so that you can really enjoy your wedding and not have to worry about going into labour.

Good luck and I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you.

Hugs
Kirsten

klt · #17 January 13th, 2009, 06:08 AM

Hi and welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find the friendship and support on this board that I have found. This is the place that I can obsess about TTC and everyone understands! IRL my friends would think I'm nuts! This is my 1st cycle TTC since our loss in October. I'm really afraid of another loss, too! Jump right in and get to know all of us. I look forward to getting to know you!