[eli1110]

Hi Ladies,

So I came here to talk with people who have been in the same situation. I've had 2 miscarriages, both at 6 wks. The 2nd miscarriage was 2 months ago. DH and I were devasted when we lost the baby. Well we have decided to start TTC again. Here is the thing, I'm a little afraid. What I'm afraid of is that I'll miscarry again. The fact that I've miscarried twice and I'm only 25 makes me wonder if I'll be able to have kids. I know it sounds crazy. We just want a baby so bad. I know things happen for a reason and that I will be blessed with a baby someday. When I do get pregnant again, my doc wants to monitor me every week. He'll have me come in weekly to get my levels and everything checked. But how do you get over the fear of miscarriage? Its almost like when I do get pregnant I almost don't want to get excited for the possiblity of a miscarriage. Since I've had 2 miscarriages does that increase my chances of miscarriage. Thank you for everything in advance!!

[cherryblossom88]

first off im sorry about your losses. but congratulations on ttcal again!!
of course your going to be nervous. i think thats just natural. i was and still am nervous. but you just have to stay hopeful that everything will work out! i hope you find the help and support you need here

[Christine-MA]

Believe me, your fears are not crazy! I just had my second m/c in December at 6 weeks. My first was in August at 10 weeks. I don't have any kids, and my biggest worry is that I never will be able to. I guess you "get over it" by knowing your desire to have a baby overcomes your fear of losing another one?

I'm glad your Dr is going to be proactive though. I wish you the best!

[Augie]

Your fears are perfectly normal. I have had three losses and I have the same fears.

As far as, does having two losses increase your chances at another loss, not exactly. It really depends on the cause for your losses. Has you doctor done any testing yet?

Also, I want to invite you over to Recurrent Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss. Many women there are also ttc or have had successful pregnancies after recurrent loss. I am the host there, so if you have any questions or concerns, you can PM me. I am on JM every single day.

[.kristen.]

the feelings are normal. If your dr so concerned I would be happy, because they are willing to work with you. I wish I had a dr so caring and in touch with me. I hope your ttc'ing is short and I'm sorry for your losses. We are all here for you! Good luck!

[Bakin8th]

I am so sorry for your loss's

I am afraid to try again but I wont let that stop me its natural. I have lost 8 babies in 7 m/c. 5 in first tri and 2 at 17w including twins..I am again ttcing after a early loss in Nov.

Good luck!

[KDD]

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I think that your fears are normal. I can't say that I've gotten over my fear of another m/c, but I've put it on the backburner while TTC'ing. I know that this time when I get my BFP, I'll be asking my Dr. a lot more questions.

[..Red..]

I only had one loss. But you worry. How can you not? I think that it would be odd if you didn't worry. Have they given a reason for your losses? Have you gone through all the testing? I know it makes me feel happier knowing that they are at least testing me for everything, just to be on top of things. Perhaps focusing on knowing you will be seeing your doctor every so much will help strengthen you when you become pregnant.

[Mrs.Shirley]

I am so sorry for your loss's. It is perfectly normal to worry. Gl to you in your ttc journey.

[klt]

I am so sorry for your losses. You've been through a lot. It's great that your doc will be monitoring you so closely! You'll get answers along the way. I really hope your next bean is a really sticky one! Welcome to TTCAL. I hope you find the support and friendship that is so wonderful here. GL and KUP!!!

[eli1110]

Thank you everyone for your advice!