I'm so confused!! Any help, please?

oicyur · #1 February 5th, 2009, 04:10 PM

Hi ladies. First off, I'm so sorry to any of you that are reading this because it means you've experienced a miscarriage!

My name is Betsy and I had a miscarriage before conceiving my first child. It was horrible, especially because we had TTC unsuccessfully for 8 months only to miscarry. I was 8 wks along and I had horrible cramps with the bleeding, so bad that I went to the ER because I was having labor like breathing. After I passed everything my uterus was sore for a few days afterwards.

Fast forward to now. I have 2 kids and we've started TTC our 3rd. A few days ago I found out I'm 5 & 1/2 weeks pregnant, but then yesterday I started cramping and bleeding and knew I was having a miscarriage. Or so I thought. I bled and cramped for about 3 hours, filling up 1 & 1/2 tampons, but then I haven't bled since! I've cramped a little bit, but there hasn't been any blood since yesterday afternoon. It was bright red blood, and more then spotting, so I was sure I was MCing! Now... well, now I'm just all sorts of confused. I've come to accept that I'm MC but shouldn't there be more blood and cramping right now? Am I in the "eye of the storm" so to speak and there is more to come? If so, when?? Or is it possible that I had a "period" so to speak?? I've heard of people having what they thought were periods when they were pregnant that were just lighter then a normal period. I'm just so confused! I'd like to know one way or another so I can accept it and move on, ya know? This lingo is.. frustrating. I don't feel like I had a miscarriage, but the cramping and bleeding are pretty strong indicators. I feel great today, as if nothing even happened yesterday.

ANY ADVICE?!?!?

AliciaF · #2 February 5th, 2009, 04:19 PM

I definitely wouldn't assume it's a miscarriage just based on bleeding. You need to go to the doc and have blood drawn on at least 2 different days to confirm that your numbers are falling.

Bleeding during the first tri can be very normal, even heavy, bright red bleeding.

And in the future you shouldn't use tampons, even if you are miscarrying!

klt · #3 February 5th, 2009, 04:20 PM

Betsy, I'm sorry you're going through this...it must be frustrating and really scary! I can honestly tell you that the only way you're going to know the viability of your pregnancy is by seeing your doc. Women can bleed heavily during PG and still carry to term and have healthy babies... it happened to two of my sisters. And, if you had some bleeding, it can be an indication that you may be headed toward a m/c (no help, I know) I think you should probably have a beta hcg done and then repeated to see if it's decreasing. Decreasing hcg is a sign that you are going to m/c. If not, and it's doubling at an acceptable rate, everything might be fine! Like I said, many women bleed during PG and everything turns out great! I hope that they find out that everything is fine with your little one! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted and let us know what happens. Lots of hugs heading your way! Good Luck!

vancouvermommy · #4 February 6th, 2009, 03:09 PM

yes, you need hcg done twice. i had falling numbers, but no bleeding or spotting, and i miscarried a week later.
god luck, hugs

..Jessica.. · #5 February 6th, 2009, 06:25 PM

Welcome to the board.

I'm very sorry for your loss!!!!

oicyur · #6 February 6th, 2009, 07:03 PM

Well, thank you all for your input! I went to the Dr today and found out that I am indeed still pregnant!!! I had an US done and a pregnancy test and it came up positive and I was able to see the baby and the sac in the US. My Dr said everything looks healthy and as it should at 5 wks, and that my bleeding was due to implant bleeding. Very odd, because I though implant bleeding was like spotting, but the bleeding that occurred was enough to fill up 1 & 1/2 tampons. But all seems to be well, so I'm VERY thankful today yet still nervous for what the future brings with this baby. I'm just so thankful I was able to see it and know that I didn't actually miscarry!