[ablake06]

i really need you ladies right now to tell me everything is going to be just fine as im typing this in tears!
ok here is my story


I got off the pill in March of 07 it took a good few months well until Oct of 07 to figure out my cycle and ovulation that is when i started to chart! we got pregnant in Nov. 07 - everything went GREAT - no morning sickness nothing - went for our ultrasound at 10 weeks seen the little bean swimming around - waving at us but had a high heartbeat, they didn't seem worried at all! but it was just a relief to see that little bean inside of me - we told our family at christmas the exciting news, everyone was sooo happy for us!!! around that 10 weeks i start to think back i did have some cramps - kind of like sharp pains but thought they were just constipation cramps so i walked it off and had no bleeding at all! than comes around last week! i felt fine, just a bit more tired, on wednesday i had some CM but didn't think anything of it as no blood was there - that night i wiped and had a small streak of old blood in my TP - i called my mom who i a nurse and said its ok, not to worry, i slept fine that night and woke up feeling ok, went to the bathroom a few times and didn't feel anything - just felt skinnier that day - as the morning was getting closer to work, i felit like i was getting the stomach flu, i went to the bathroom and felt my worst nightmare happening - my dh rushed me o the hospital and that is where i learned what i feared had actually happened!!! i had a d&C eventhough my cervix was closed by the doctor wanted to make sure no infections would be there! on that day i was 13 weeks or 14 weeks!

i really thought after you see the heartbeat and it move on the us that the chances go down sooo much, what happend? did i do something? my LP is past 14 days - i wouldn't think it would be hormone, do you think it was chromosomes? they said my uterus and ovaries are just fine and in perfect condition!

i know its in Gods hands and he has plan for each one of us! it just hurts!!!!

well my DH has been AMAZING!!!! he conforts me everytime i cry and get sad! our family has also been extremely amazing!!!
we want to try again and wnat to try as soon as we can!!

i know the doctor said to wait a month or 2 but i have these symptoms - sorry TMI but im extremely horny and been having some really good CM that you should have to get pregnant! i know its just about a week after this has happened is this too soon to see this? today im getting cramps and feeling like im having a period - i heard that it takes about 4-6 weeks!

thank you again ladies for all your support and we are hoping for a BFP in a few months as it is in gods hands!

[*SamF*]

I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m Sam and DH is Jim- we are ttc our 1st with three losses along the way.
This board is a great supportive place.
First- You did nothing wrong! Unfortunately these things happen, as many of us can tell you. Most Doctors tell you to wait after a m/c and especially a dnc. Unless they told you it was because of needing to let your uterus go back to normal or another physical reason, usually in my opinion (for what it’s worth) it’s more of a mental healing time.
Now I have heard of your body thinking a dnc is your period and a cycle starting from that point. It is possible to O after one. Or your body could still be just adjusting to all that has happened. But don’t get discouraged.
Hope it all straightens out for you soon, I know it can be frustrating!

[dragonfly2006]

i really need you ladies right now to tell me everything is going to be just fine as im typing this in tears!
ok here is my story


I got off the pill in March of 07 it took a good few months well until Oct of 07 to figure out my cycle and ovulation that is when i started to chart! we got pregnant in Nov. 07 - everything went GREAT - no morning sickness nothing - went for our ultrasound at 10 weeks seen the little bean swimming around - waving at us but had a high heartbeat, they didn't seem worried at all! but it was just a relief to see that little bean inside of me - we told our family at christmas the exciting news, everyone was sooo happy for us!!! around that 10 weeks i start to think back i did have some cramps - kind of like sharp pains but thought they were just constipation cramps so i walked it off and had no bleeding at all! than comes around last week! i felt fine, just a bit more tired, on wednesday i had some CM but didn't think anything of it as no blood was there - that night i wiped and had a small streak of old blood in my TP - i called my mom who i a nurse and said its ok, not to worry, i slept fine that night and woke up feeling ok, went to the bathroom a few times and didn't feel anything - just felt skinnier that day - as the morning was getting closer to work, i felit like i was getting the stomach flu, i went to the bathroom and felt my worst nightmare happening - my dh rushed me o the hospital and that is where i learned what i feared had actually happened!!! i had a d&C eventhough my cervix was closed by the doctor wanted to make sure no infections would be there! on that day i was 13 weeks or 14 weeks!

i really thought after you see the heartbeat and it move on the us that the chances go down sooo much, what happend? did i do something? my LP is past 14 days - i wouldn't think it would be hormone, do you think it was chromosomes? they said my uterus and ovaries are just fine and in perfect condition!

i know its in Gods hands and he has plan for each one of us! it just hurts!!!!

well my DH has been AMAZING!!!! he conforts me everytime i cry and get sad! our family has also been extremely amazing!!!
we want to try again and wnat to try as soon as we can!!

i know the doctor said to wait a month or 2 but i have these symptoms - sorry TMI but im extremely horny and been having some really good CM that you should have to get pregnant! i know its just about a week after this has happened is this too soon to see this? today im getting cramps and feeling like im having a period - i heard that it takes about 4-6 weeks!

thank you again ladies for all your support and we are hoping for a BFP in a few months as it is in gods hands![/b]

I am so sorry. we are all here for you sweetie and you know what my Dr. told me? when im ready i can try again. if you are ready go for it! sometimes we get a little feeling that we could be lucky..dont let that pass you by. listen to yourself and do it. hope this helps

[ablake06]

I am so sorry. we are all here for you sweetie and you know what my Dr. told me? when im ready i can try again. if you are ready go for it! sometimes we get a little feeling that we could be lucky..dont let that pass you by. listen to yourself and do it. hope this helps
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thank you ladies - you are just what i needed!!!!! my sister-in-law told me yesterday that she had one and has told nobody and she had hers around 10 weeks or 2.5 months along so close to mine, and got pregant right away with her daughter! she said it hurts but time heals itself! we were just soo excited for an August Baby - we thought it was meant to be having it so close to my grandpa's birthday and also to the date we started going out! we thought it was meant to be it! but i think the next one will be meant to be, it just soo hard to realize and face the facts - im soo empty inside and getting skinnier - its depressing looking in the mirror and not seeing the belly, i just bought a pair of jeans b/c mine didn't fit anymore and now they fit - i cried so hard when they fit - its not everyday you cry when your jeans fit again!!

ive read so much, and i pry shouldn't read so much into things, but i did read that having a DNC you could expect your period 4-6 weeks after and ovulate 2 weeks after that1 but maybe they will be able to see that next week at my doctor's visit!

can you ladies, please stalk my chart to make sure im doing it right again and if see you im ovulating that i should be BDing again

thanks again!! you guys are soo my strength right now - as well as my amazing husband who has been by myside this whole time!!!

[..Red..]

It is true, people come out of the woodwork to share their experiences. People don't seem to want to talk about it with people who are having no problems. I'm sorry you had to go through all this too. It isn't something anyone wishes on anyone.

[KDD]

I am so sorry for your loss.

My theory is that unless you have a medical reason to wait, you can TTC when you are mentally ready to do so. My Dr. told us to wait until after AF arrived (I had a natural m/c at 10 weeks).

Good luck!

[Sue46]

Its hard, I know. We lost our baby almost 3 weeks ago and I was 17 weeks, I had to have a D&E. I go back for a follow up to my D&E this Friday and plan to ask when we can start TTC again. We want to start after my period. Hopefully we'll be able to. I question myself some as to why this happened but I also feel like I can't allow it to consume me and bring me farther down. I have my days that suck, but for the most part we are ready to move on.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for your loss!

I'm Kary I had a D/E on friday I was about 7 weeks, My loss is still so new. I understand your feelings as well as all the other fantastic ladies on this board. I also saw my heatbeat and a week later it was gone.

We, DH and I hope to start trying again soon. I hope to be ready by May... and start TTC around then. I figure 4-6 weeks for AF to arrive that should be March-April time frame. One month to count days and see what day I am O'ing and than try to catch that eggy in May-June.

Good luck and KUP!

[ablake06]

I am so sorry for your loss!

I'm Kary I had a D/E on friday I was about 7 weeks, My loss is still so new. I understand your feelings as well as all the other fantastic ladies on this board. I also saw my heatbeat and a week later it was gone.

We, DH and I hope to start trying again soon. I hope to be ready by May... and start TTC around then. I figure 4-6 weeks for AF to arrive that should be March-April time frame. One month to count days and see what day I am O'ing and than try to catch that eggy in May-June.

Good luck and KUP![/b]

WOW, thank you ladies soo much!!! yah mine is still fresh in our lives as well!!! i still can't believe it happened! but there was a reason and God has his plans for each of us! im hoping to get good news next Wednesday that everything looks healthy and we can start trying as soon as i get my period!

i have been having some weird symptoms that feel like a period! i don't have any bleeding - never really did after the D & C - my body feels like im ovulating - sorry tmi but i feel like my dh and i should be bding!!

its hard to see the little picture that is still on our fridge but im getting a scrapbook together with it and all the cards that family have sent us!

i have read that you can get pregnant right after you miscarry but have alreayd read that it can take awhile!

im starting to chart again, and im kind of confused on how to do that? do you ladies have any ideas?

thanks again and i will be on here everyday and even after i get that miracle BFP!!!!

[..Jessica..]

Welcome to the board sweetie! I'm so deeply sorry to hear of your loss!!!!

I too believe that if there is no medical reason to wait, don't. However, I do believe in waiting until you are emotionally ready for pregnancy. We've all bounced back quickly, but nothing will take the pain away from losing your child. When you feel deep down that you're ready, go for it. Don't let anyone stop you.

That being said, most doctors will tell you to wait for dating purposes. Which is a valid reason, however to a woman who wants nothing more than to hold her baby, it's not good enough (IMO).

I wish you luck!!!! You might not be ovulating right now, as you just lost your baby, but give it a week or so and you just might.

[ablake06]

Welcome to the board sweetie! I'm so deeply sorry to hear of your loss!!!!

I too believe that if there is no medical reason to wait, don't. However, I do believe in waiting until you are emotionally ready for pregnancy. We've all bounced back quickly, but nothing will take the pain away from losing your child. When you feel deep down that you're ready, go for it. Don't let anyone stop you.

That being said, most doctors will tell you to wait for dating purposes. Which is a valid reason, however to a woman who wants nothing more than to hold her baby, it's not good enough (IMO).

I wish you luck!!!! You might not be ovulating right now, as you just lost your baby, but give it a week or so and you just might.

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thanks, i tihnk after our doctor's appointment we will be ready - heck, my DH is ready now! i still have episodes of crying and in shock but we are very strong and we know God has plan and we have such supporting family!!! i just worry that if we do get pregnant right away, will anything happen will there be a chance of it happening again?

thank you so much for welcoming me - you guys have been soo awesome today!


i agree im not ovulating right now, but i am marking it on my calendar some dates to watch for and to start BD!

if we do BD and i don't have AF yet will that cuase issues with my AF coming?

[klt]

First, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to finally feel like everything is going well, and BAM!, you get hit with the awful news that the heartbeat is no longer there! Although I wish I had the perfect words to say...I don't. Just know that you've found a wonderful group of women here. Ones who understand. And, they are awesome listeners!!! i could never have made it through the past few months without my TTCAL ladies! So, I'm glad you found this group. You won't regret it! It sounds like you have a fantastic DH who is being wonderful and supportive. That's awesome!
I had a natural m/c, so I don't know about TTC after a D&C... but, I hope your get your little miracle soon! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers! Take care of yourself. And, welcome! And, from a temping perspective...I used the BBT method and I also used OPKs...they were very helpful in figuring out my cycle after the m/c. KUP!

[ablake06]

First, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to finally feel like everything is going well, and BAM!, you get hit with the awful news that the heartbeat is no longer there! Although I wish I had the perfect words to say...I don't. Just know that you've found a wonderful group of women here. Ones who understand. And, they are awesome listeners!!! i could never have made it through the past few months without my TTCAL ladies! So, I'm glad you found this group. You won't regret it! It sounds like you have a fantastic DH who is being wonderful and supportive. That's awesome!
I had a natural m/c, so I don't know about TTC after a D&C... but, I hope your get your little miracle soon! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers! Take care of yourself. And, welcome! And, from a temping perspective...I used the BBT method and I also used OPKs...they were very helpful in figuring out my cycle after the m/c. KUP![/b]

thank you and i am sooo blessed to have found this group! i knew right away when i was feeling down to turn to here!!!

my husband is AMAZING!! every single time i get a just a single tear, he rushes over to me, holds me and says, lets talk it out!!! he is always telling me, that HE knows for a fact that we will get pregnant! and he tells me that no matter what i make him proud!!! it just brings tears to my eyes thinking of him today!!!

since you had a natural m/c did your AF return normal? well im pretty sure i had a complete m/c as it happened all at once and my cervix was closed they just did a D&C to make sure everything was out and i didn't have any infections! as of right now, i just have some brown spotting, some red here and there but not much - pretty much wasting pads right now but want to be safe!!!! i know we will never know when it comes back, but should i plan on my AF showing up in about 4 weeks after the D&C? we are going to try after the first cycle - just going to have fun that month and hope for that little miracle !

as for charting - my temps are been the same for the last 3 days? is that normal?


thanks again ladies and im soo glad i found you!

[klt]

After my natural m/c my cycle returned to "normal" really quick, actually faster than they thought it would. AF was here 25 days after my m/c. And, my cycle became shorter than before the m/c. I usually had a 26/27 day cycle. After the m/c I had a 25 day cycle, a 23 day cycle, and another 25 day cycle.

Your temps staying the same is fine. It's more important that you look at the entire chart than a few days at a time. Have you had your beta hcg checked since your m/c? Typically your cycle won't go back to normal until it drops below at least 5. When I had my hcg checked after my m/c, it was still over 1200...and it decreased like it went up. It goes down by half, about every two to three days. A little over a week later, it was almost 0.

I hope this helps. Each one of us has a different "story"...Yours will be different, too. I hope you're doing OK. And, I hope your body gets back to "normal" quickly. You're in my thoughts and prayers. We all know how rough this can be!!! take care

[ablake06]

After my natural m/c my cycle returned to "normal" really quick, actually faster than they thought it would. AF was here 25 days after my m/c. And, my cycle became shorter than before the m/c. I usually had a 26/27 day cycle. After the m/c I had a 25 day cycle, a 23 day cycle, and another 25 day cycle.

Your temps staying the same is fine. It's more important that you look at the entire chart than a few days at a time. Have you had your beta hcg checked since your m/c? Typically your cycle won't go back to normal until it drops below at least 5. When I had my hcg checked after my m/c, it was still over 1200...and it decreased like it went up. It goes down by half, about every two to three days. A little over a week later, it was almost 0.

I hope this helps. Each one of us has a different "story"...Yours will be different, too. I hope you're doing OK. And, I hope your body gets back to "normal" quickly. You're in my thoughts and prayers. We all know how rough this can be!!! take care[/b]

i have not had any tests done as i have a 2 week check-up on next wednesday - which will be hard b/c it was supposed to be my 15 week check up to hear the hb!

today is really hard for me as I have not told anyone at work and a lady just came up to me and said Congrats and when is the due date! My DH and I just wanted to tell family members we didn't want anyone else to know! im just lost for words right now!!!

im a worry wart! im scared that its not going to show up! im hoping to hear great news on Wednesday that we can start to try again soon!!!

thanks again for your support and words - they truly are helpful!

[klt]

When you tell everyone about the m/c you will be surprised how many people will tell you that they have gone through a loss! It was amazing to me how many people were so wonderful and so understanding. It was also amazing to me that many of my friends have had m/cs and I had no idea! People seem to be more comfortable sharing their "loss stories" when they know you've been through it.

And, yes, even though the vast majority of people were totally awesome and supportive, prepare yourself for the one or two people that just don't get it. They may say things that shock you or hurt you. Don't let it bug you. Or, post it here and we'll let you know exactly what we think about them...

I'm sorry you're having a rough day! Some days will be OK and some will be awful! I hope it gets better! We'll be here for you!

[ablake06]

When you tell everyone about the m/c you will be surprised how many people will tell you that they have gone through a loss! It was amazing to me how many people were so wonderful and so understanding. It was also amazing to me that many of my friends have had m/cs and I had no idea! People seem to be more comfortable sharing their "loss stories" when they know you've been through it.

And, yes, even though the vast majority of people were totally awesome and supportive, prepare yourself for the one or two people that just don't get it. They may say things that shock you or hurt you. Don't let it bug you. Or, post it here and we'll let you know exactly what we think about them...

I'm sorry you're having a rough day! Some days will be OK and some will be awful! I hope it gets better! We'll be here for you![/b]

is it ok not to tell anyone yet? we just don't want alot of people to know about it as many people didn't know yet that we were expecting!!
i keep trying to think of positive and the future on how we will be!!! i keep thinking that maybe just maybe we can start to have fun again bding!!! i know my DH would like to start right now but told him we need to wait until after the 2 week period!!

i just praying each day that we will be blessed with another miracle!!!

thanks again for everything!

[klt]

IMO it's fine to keep your loss to yourself, except for the people who already knew you were PG. It's a personal decision. I ended up telling people that I wasn't planning to tell because I ended up in bed for over two weeks and my kids kind of "blabbed"...but, they also kind of got it all wrong (pretty cute) so I ended up having to explain to some people. In the end, I'm glad I told people. They have been wonderful. Of course, no one knows that we are expecting again...except DH and my OB. I'm too scared to tell anyone. Crazy...I know. I'm trying to figure out when a "safe" time to tell people will be...I'm stumped

I hope tomorrow brings an even better day, and that slowly you start feeling better. I can't wait to hear what your doc says at your appt!!!

Take care!

[~~~Sara~~~]

I'm so sorry! It's so hard and each of us deal with it differently. We also miscarried our Sept baby, we are very disappointed, but please know you did not do a thing wrong, these things happen and often we will never know why.

I just want to remind you that it will take awhile for your hormones to return to "normal". I noticed that I still am experiencing the same hormonal changes as I had when I was pregnant with our son, but I had a D&C two weeks ago. Just a little reminder, your hormones will be ranging for awhile, hang in there!

[ablake06]

I'm so sorry! It's so hard and each of us deal with it differently. We also miscarried our Sept baby, we are very disappointed, but please know you did not do a thing wrong, these things happen and often we will never know why.

I just want to remind you that it will take awhile for your hormones to return to "normal". I noticed that I still am experiencing the same hormonal changes as I had when I was pregnant with our son, but I had a D&C two weeks ago. Just a little reminder, your hormones will be ranging for awhile, hang in there![/b]

thank you ladies soo much!!! i was having a pretty rough morning and my husband knew it as i emailed him and he called me and surprised me a a bouquet of flowers when i picked him up for work - it truly made my night and day!!! he is AMAZING!!! he has really got me through this!

i know and i do realize that i did nothing wrong, but it just seems like its kind of my fault b/c im the one who is caring the baby and im the one who lost the baby! but i do realize that it happens and that God has a plan for each of us and we do accept this love unconditionally and know what is right for us!

im really not noticing any hormone changes - i do not feel pregnant at all anymore! my bleeding has stopped completely - i do notice a little CM but that is about it! i do cry but i cry when i think about it or when we receive a card in the mail or a phone call from family - b/c it reminds me of what happened!

im just so excited to go back to the doctor on Wednesday to hope to hear some good news! i would love to hear the news that we are just fine and that we can start to try again!!! my husband is more wanting to try again than i do - its really cute!

today is kind of rough b/c i keep on thinking that just a week ago, at this time i learned the most frightening news in my life!! but we will get through it with you guys and prayer!

thank you sooo much for everything!!!