[Soape]

Hi I'm Amanda. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks (baby stopped developing at 8 week). I had to have a D&C. I was wondering how long everyone waited to start TTC again after a loss?
Thank you for letting me stop by to ask a question. I hope to join you when the time to start trying again comes.

[..Michelle..]

Hi Amanda thanks for stopping by (but hope you stay!) at TTCAL!
My name is Michelle, DH is Brad. We are TTC again after losing our 1st child, Roman, who passed away a week after being born. He passed away 7 months ago and we decided to start TTC again about 2 months ago.
Just remember that everyone is different and we all have different situations. Some women here lost their bean early and some, like me, lost a child at (or shortly after) birth, or even an older child. But they are all our babies and TTC again is different for everyone due to medical or emotional reasons.
I see a grief counselor and it helps me to talk about my son and it's nice being on this board talking to all the women here on our new TTCAL journey.
's to you on whenever you decide to TTC again, hope you get your sticky BFP soon!

[Danielley08]

So sorry about your loss

My 2nd loss was also discovered at my 12w apt...I should have been 11w5d but baby only measured a little over 8w...we had a chromosome screen done and she had a form of Mosaic Turner's Syndrome and would have had alot of physical/mental growth restrictions...

This was discovered on 30 Jul and on 5 Aug I had a D&C...it took a few months for my body to get back to a normal cycle...I Oed a little later than I did before the loss until my November cycle and that is the cycle I got this BFP...it was our 2nd cycle back to trying...

I would say just for your body's sake maybe wait 2-3 cycles...did you chart before your loss? That is what really helped me figure out when my body was back to normal...

Good luck in your TTC journey and I hope to see you in the Pregnancy After Loss forum soon...

[klt]

Hi Amanda. I'm Kelty. I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a natural m/c, so my wait time was probably different than if I had gone through a d&c. I want to welcome you and tell you to stay while you're waiting to get the OK from your doc to TTC. May of us here spent time getting support here while we waited to start TTC. I look forward to getting to know you. And, I hope you're doing OK.

[PixieQueen]

DH and I started trying again immediately. I had a natural m/c at 10 1/2 wks, and my cycles pretty much went back to normal right away. I even Oed a couple of weeks after the bleeding stopped, and had AF a couple weeks later like a regular cycle. So I figured my body was fine and I was okay emotionally so we went for it. This is my first official cycle after the loss, and testing starts tomorrow! :lol; Although if I am pg this cycle I probably won't see anything for a few more days!

[jmhick]

Hi Amanda....Glad you are here, but very sorry about your loss. I had my m/c 6 weeks and 2 days ago, but I was 7 wks, 2 days (measureing 5 wks, 2 days). My Dr. told me to wait 2 cycles and TTC again. He did say it's ok if I got pregnant after the 1st cycle. I have still yet to have my 1st cycle...so I'm patiently waiting. I will probably TTC next month.

Best of luck!

[L-SBB]

Amanda...i'm very sorry for your loss and you're welcome to join us whenever you're ready. I joined here while I was still in the wait period recommended by my OB, so don't think you can't come post unless you're actively TTC...and feel free to ask any questions you may have - with all the women in here, we've got someone who has probably experienced/lived it already!

My loss was at just over 9 weeks (growth stopped at 9 weeks) when we lost the hb on our 2nd u/s, and I ultimately had a d&c. My OB recommended I wait 3 cycles...I waited 2 (I had a very long wait for my first cycle after the d&c, so it ended up being almost 3 months anyway) and I'm now on my 2nd cycle of TTC again. You'll get a wide range of answers on when you can TTC again - I think often it's less a physical issue than an emotional one...so listen to your heart, it'll tell you when you're ready to start again.

[KDD]

Hi Amanda. Once again, I am so sorry for your loss.

My answer to your question is: as long as you have no physical reasons to wait, then I suggest TTC again as soon as you are mentally prepared. For some it is right away, for others it is longer. I had a m/c at 10 weeks and I O'ed shortly after. AF showed 23 days after the m/c. We started TTC right after that.

You are welcome to stay with us even if you aren't officially TTC'ing yet.

[Soape]

Thank you all so much for the information. I go back in 1 week for my follow up appointment and I plan on asking him. I feel like I've healed fairly fast from the D&C. I know that I can never replace the baby that we lost but we do want to start TTC as soon as physically possible. I feel like I'm still missing the one thing that we have been trying for over a year and 3 months to have....a baby. We went to counseling tonight and I was glad to hear our counselor tell us today that it's ok to want to start trying as soon as possible. They have an amazing support in our community to help women who have infertility, miscarriages, and loss of young infants. They also have a support group for women who are pregnant and scared after having had a miscarriage or loss. I would love to join this forum. Thank you for being so welcoming.

[ablake06]

Thank you all so much for the information. I go back in 1 week for my follow up appointment and I plan on asking him. I feel like I've healed fairly fast from the D&C. I know that I can never replace the baby that we lost but we do want to start TTC as soon as physically possible. I feel like I'm still missing the one thing that we have been trying for over a year and 3 months to have....a baby. We went to counseling tonight and I was glad to hear our counselor tell us today that it's ok to want to start trying as soon as possible. They have an amazing support in our community to help women who have infertility, miscarriages, and loss of young infants. They also have a support group for women who are pregnant and scared after having had a miscarriage or loss. I would love to join this forum. Thank you for being so welcoming.[/b]

Amanda you sound just like me!!! we just had a miscarriage last thursday i was aruond 13 weeks and had an ultrasound at 10 weeks and baby was fine, but had some cramps after that! my m/c came all of a sudden and i had no complications and no pain at all and im healing very well - i have actually stopped bleeding and have the symptoms of a period soon to arrive or ovulation - which im praying it does!!! i go back next wednesday for our 2 week check up, which is kind of hard to face b/c it was supposed to be our 15 week check up to hear the heart beat again! i agree we can never replace the baby we lost and we want to start to TTC again here soon! my dh and i both agree that it was in gods hands and we have to trust in his faith to lead us the right way, if my body is ready we will get pregnant again! the mornings are hard for me! i look at myself in the mirror and im skinny i don't have the cute little baby bump, but i can make it through the days, its just the mornings b/c i have to start all over with a new day facing that fact that i am missing that one thing that we had been trying for, but we have the faith and i know you do as well!!

that is awesome about the counseling and support system you have!!! my husband and family and this group as been my support system!!!! they are amazing!!! if you ever need to talk, just let me know!!!! i hope we get our BFP at the same time!!!!

[Soape]

Amanda you sound just like me!!! we just had a miscarriage last thursday i was aruond 13 weeks and had an ultrasound at 10 weeks and baby was fine, but had some cramps after that! my m/c came all of a sudden and i had no complications and no pain at all and im healing very well - i have actually stopped bleeding and have the symptoms of a period soon to arrive or ovulation - which im praying it does!!! i go back next wednesday for our 2 week check up, which is kind of hard to face b/c it was supposed to be our 15 week check up to hear the heart beat again! i agree we can never replace the baby we lost and we want to start to TTC again here soon! my dh and i both agree that it was in gods hands and we have to trust in his faith to lead us the right way, if my body is ready we will get pregnant again! the mornings are hard for me! i look at myself in the mirror and im skinny i don't have the cute little baby bump, but i can make it through the days, its just the mornings b/c i have to start all over with a new day facing that fact that i am missing that one thing that we had been trying for, but we have the faith and i know you do as well!!

that is awesome about the counseling and support system you have!!! my husband and family and this group as been my support system!!!! they are amazing!!! if you ever need to talk, just let me know!!!! i hope we get our BFP at the same time!!!!


I'm sorry for your loss!!!! I understand going back to the Dr when it was supposed to be for another reason. The nights are the hardest for me. If I wake up in the the middle of the night I start thinking about what might have been. I lost it the other day when I tried to go back to work too soon. I cried for two hours straight. I work in a neonatal intensive care unit so it's nothing but babies around me. I'm going to try to go back on Saturday and I'm hoping to stay busy enough that I can make it through the day. I'm glad that you have a strong support system as well. I wish that we both will get our BFP's soon. I'm here if you ever need to talk as well.
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[ablake06]

you wil be in my thougths and prayers and i really hope you get back to work here soon!!! i understand its hard!!!! i went back to work on monday following my m/c! it was hard - i cried pretty much the whole morning b/c of the fact that the week before i had the m/c i just told all my coworkers i was expecting - thinking that the 12 week mark was fine and i was showing so they would find out sooner than later and than to come back and not have that feeling anymore and to lose the baby bump was hard! i haven't faced my work yet on telling any of them, i told a few ladies who have been super supportive as well!!!

i have had a few breakdowns again, especially when some people come up to me and ask me when im due and say congrats! but we have such strong faith that we know its going to work out!!!! i miss my baby soo much, its sometimes hard for me to wake up and and id be holding my belly or my husband will be restng his hand there and than i realize its gone!!! its a very tough process but we can get through this together!! im here for you 1000% night and day, im here!!!!

i have this necklace that my DH gave me in college - its a small tear drop with a diamond in it!!! i now realize that tear drop is now a symbol when i get sad, i squeeze it and pray to God that i trust him and love him unconditionally and that i believe it will work out!!!!

if your down, as my DH taught me, talk it out, cry it out!!!!!!!

again this place has been AWESOME! i haven't been here long, but for the time i have been here, i feel alot better!!!!! it will happen for you! i have faith!!!!
we will get our BFP together and soon!!!

again, don't know if i told you, but im Abbey and my DH is Blake!!