Wanting but having to wait stinks

Soape · #1 February 17th, 2009, 04:54 PM

I'm what.....12 days past my D&C and all I can think about is the baby we lost and trying for again for a baby already. I'm still devestated that we lost our baby but I can't quit dreaming and wanting to start trying again. I feel like the only way to put my heart somewhat back together again is to be pregnant again. DH and I DTD last night for the 2nd time since the surgery and I was just hoping that he would not want to use protection. I know I know...We should wait atleast for one cycle but It's sooooo hard right now. Especially when you read all the stories of women that get pregnant right after having a D&C...like 2 weeks after!!! So you will all have to talk me down from the ledge and tell me to wait. THis is normal to be this consumed by the idea of getting back on the band wagon right?

Christine-MA · #2 February 17th, 2009, 05:08 PM

Completely normal!

But yes, I recommend waiting a full cycle. I'm sorry, did your Dr give you the okay once AF came? I know it seems like forever, but we're used to living 2 weeks at a time, right?

All I want is to be pregnant again too....so I know how you're feeling. It'll happen, I know it.

Sue46 · #3 February 17th, 2009, 05:25 PM

I feel the exact same way. EXACT same. Its not helping that I am having some serious EWCM soo it seems like right now would be good timing. Ughh, Dr said we should wait 2 more weeks before actively trying again since I was so far along and had to be dialated for the D&E, but I don't want to. I've started even having anxiety. I want to get past this so bad.

jmhick · #4 February 17th, 2009, 05:39 PM

It is VERY hard to wait! But check remember waiting is probably the best thing to do you your body and the baby you WILL have!!!

tobynscarlett · #5 February 17th, 2009, 06:25 PM

Yep, what you are feeling is completely normal. I was still in the hospital waiting for the induction to work and already asking when we could try again. Thankfully, my midwives are very understanding (one has 7 kids herself after losing a tube to an ectopic) and ver supportive. It is so hard to wait, but if you can it would probably be better to wait until after AF comes for the first time.

KDD · #6 February 17th, 2009, 06:26 PM

The waiting is hard, but hang in there. AF will show her face soon and then you can start to TTC!

Halloween81 · #7 February 17th, 2009, 07:51 PM

I feel the same too. All I want is to be pregnant agian but we have to realize that our bodies need to heal before its a good idea to try again.

farasha · #8 February 18th, 2009, 03:37 AM

I second/third/fourth/gagillion these replies... I wanted to try again right away too, but I kept reminding myself that if I miscarried again, I'd probably never be able to forgive myself for not giving my body a chance to heal. It's a personal choice, but that's what I had to tell myself to get through that wait!