Ready to try agian

lmunoz8517 · #1 February 24th, 2009, 06:55 AM

So I have decided I am ready to try again. Its only a little over a week since my loss but I am ready. I had a d&c 6 days ago, does the spotting from that count as a period or do I need to wait until I have a period? When should I expect my cycle to show?

Kary♥RN · #2 February 24th, 2009, 07:03 AM

I can't help with your question, But I wanted to say I'm so glad your ready. I know how you feel. I hope for a fast BFP!

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KatiInCT · #3 February 24th, 2009, 07:04 AM

So sorry to hear about your loss. I know how tempting it is to rush right back into the TTC game. I know I wanted to. My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles after my D&C in December (although doctors seem to tell people anything from no wait needed to 4 months wait).

My two cycles after my D&C were rather long (40 days from start of m/c to first period, and then a 35 day cycle). My cycles were normally around 30-32 days. I purposefully avoided until I got my first period and then I didn't try but didn't prevent for a cycle. I am not back in the TTC game officially.

Good luck with your decision!

*SamF* · #4 February 24th, 2009, 07:14 AM

My surgery was very close to a D&C- actually D&C was listed on the orders. In my case the surgery took the place of my period. I o�d on day 14 ( I think) after, and AF showed exactly 24 days later I didn�t catch that one, but I did have positive OPK�s.
If your doctor didn�t recommend waiting for physical reasons you should be good to go!

Sue46 · #5 February 24th, 2009, 11:52 AM

I'm ready too, I was ready right away. I'm waiting for my first period then going back at it.

vancouvermommy · #6 February 24th, 2009, 01:38 PM

I conceived 9 days after my mc (no d/c though). I miscarried at 6 weeks, and bled for 5 days. Was a total surprise to be pregnant again. I never had an af.

What did your doctor say? Some say wait, others say try as soon as you feel ready. Good luck, and I hope you get a bfp soon!

lmunoz8517 · #7 February 24th, 2009, 01:50 PM

he didnt, the only thing he said was if i wanted to try again to stay on my prenatals. The np said we could try right away

Christine-MA · #8 February 24th, 2009, 02:59 PM

I think most Drs recommend waiting until AF comes (and then some recommend waiting 1/2/3 cycles as well), especially after a D&C. They are scraping away the lining of the uterus, and the bleeding isn't really considered AF (nor can it be used to date the pregnancy). Personally I think it's a good idea to wait for AF to come (which gives your uterus time to rebuild and shed the lining naturally), although I know there are plenty of women who got pregnant the cycle OF the loss and went on to have perfectly healthy children.

Good luck to you when you do start trying again!

..Jessica.. · #9 February 24th, 2009, 05:50 PM

I'm glad to hear you're ready to try again, Lauren!

We're here for you girl!!! Good luck!!!

Jennifer8080 · #10 February 24th, 2009, 06:06 PM

We waited until AF came before we started TTC again, and I had a natural m/c. Good luck! I hope you get your sticky bean soon.

..Penelope.. · #11 February 24th, 2009, 07:40 PM

Hey, Lauren!

I think it's wonderful that you feel ready to try again. I wish you all the best on your journey to a BFP and a sticky bean

When I had my D&C, the doctor told me to wait 2 cycles. I didn't ask why, so I don't really know. I have a F/U with her in 3 weeks, so I'm going to ask. From what I've read, I don't really see a problem with TTC after one cycle... However, DBF and I had a heart to heart about it last night, and he asked for 2 months. I've since decided to wait until June (3 months) to give my body more time to heal and my head to clear.

Do you have a F/U appointment? Could you maybe talk to your doctor about TTC? IMO, as much insight as possible on your body can never be a bad thing.

I don't think the spotting from the D&C counts as your period. I finally stopped spotting 4 days ago and I'm really hoping that AF shows around the first of next month, as usual (ish).

lmunoz8517 · #12 February 24th, 2009, 08:34 PM

I didnt get scraped in my d&c he only had to suction. I think I am in a hurry cause my sil is due 4 days before I should of been and I think it will be easier when her baby comes if I am pregnant. I know that sounds so selfish but I cant imagine her having her baby and me sitting their having it in my face I should be due right now too. We got our BFP's on the same day, New Years day to be exact. Thanks for the thoughts everyone. My follow up is Friday, I will update everyone then.

Kary♥RN · #13 February 24th, 2009, 08:58 PM

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I didnt get scraped in my d&c he only had to suction. I think I am in a hurry cause my sil is due 4 days before I should of been and I think it will be easier when her baby comes if I am pregnant. I know that sounds so selfish but I cant imagine her having her baby and me sitting their having it in my face I should be due right now too. We got our BFP's on the same day, New Years day to be exact. Thanks for the thoughts everyone. My follow up is Friday, I will update everyone then.[/b]

Oh Lauren.... I am so in that boat! My sil was 2-3 weeks a head of me. They told the family the week of Christmas they were only 4 1/2 weeks and I got BFP on Jan 2nd. My husbands best friends wife is also expecting, she told us they were expecting 2 days after my chemical pregnancy in Nov. I so have the same feelings. I can't imagine what this summer will be like if I am not expecting! July for our friend end of Aug for my sil, than I was supposed to be in Sept. I am still so bitter they are pregnant. I don't wish anything on them. I am still so hurt I lost my baby. I just can't think of going to baby showers.. I even got a call on my way to my D/E about putting a baby shower together for our friend (the girl didn't know I was pregnant or lost the baby) but all I thought was I can't do that, If I'm not pregnant! SO I don't think it is selfish I think it is normal feelings.

lmunoz8517 · #14 February 25th, 2009, 06:58 AM

Im not bitter I am happy for her. I think the hard part is she wasnt trying and isnt married. We tried for 3 months before we got our BFP. I am hoping we have an easy time this go around.

wildflower_142 · #15 February 25th, 2009, 07:10 AM

The spotting does not count as your period. On average you should expect AF within 4-6wks. Sometimes it shows up sooner (mine showed up 3 1/2wks after D&C) and sometimes it takes a bit longer. Good luck with TTC I hope you get your BFP in no time.

..Red.. · #16 February 25th, 2009, 08:09 AM

Lauren, I am sorry you had to leave our DDC (not that you have to leave, but I know when I had my loss I couldn't stay except periodically check in). I say that if your dr is ok with it, go right ahead. I know for me there was waiting for the cervix to fully close and then I just wasn't ready. I tried to think I was ready and attempted to TTC but I just wasn't. I was a wreck. I also know that it took 8 months for me to be fully ready emotionally. I could have done it sooner and would have been happy to be pregnant, but I know it would have been difficult. IF you are fine with it and have a good support system, have lots of unprotected sex! Yay! But do it because you want your baby, not because you are worried how weird it will be when there is a baby around. You will be able to deal with that in time, whether or not you you are pregnant or not. Besides your hormones pregnant might make it harder. Good luck and I hope to see you in a DDC soon.

Kary♥RN · #17 February 25th, 2009, 08:55 AM

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Im not bitter I am happy for her. I think the hard part is she wasnt trying and isnt married. We tried for 3 months before we got our BFP. I am hoping we have an easy time this go around.[/b]

I hope you didn't think I thought you are bitter, I said I am bitter.

I just wanted to say I also think it would be easier if I was expecting. I wanted to valiadte your feelings.