Super Bad Day

Dinah · #1 March 5th, 2009, 03:45 PM

Seriously. Everyone is pregnant at my work (well at least the female ones of child bearing age). My boss is pregnant as well as another person and two others annouced their pregnancy today. I have been crying all day. I am really upset, and I really thought I was over the crying part of this, as it has been 4 weeks since my miscarriage. This is just so hard. Why do I get so excited by all the new pregnancies here, but at work it upsets me so much? I should be happy and supportive of these girls. They are good people. How am I ever going to make it at work?

L-SBB · #2 March 5th, 2009, 04:03 PM

ohh Dinah i'm sorry it was such a tough day! BIG HUGS

Everyone still has those days that just get to them and bring the loss back full force, and being around a ton of pregnant women definitely can't be making it any easier for you. It's totally normal to feel angry/resentful because of your loss - and I have more than once asked myself "am i the most horrible person in the world??" for feeling jealous of other pregnant women I run into...we just have to try to stay focused on the positive and the future - one day that will be us enjoying our pregnancy

Jennifer8080 · #3 March 5th, 2009, 04:10 PM

I'm sorry you had a rough day. It's definitely hard when you're around everyone that is pregnant. I had a very hard time after my loss. I agree that it is totally different than when ladies on the boards get their BFPs. You will get your chance and soon! ((((HUGS))))

..Penelope.. · #4 March 5th, 2009, 04:26 PM

I'm sorry you had a rough day

I can't add much to what the other ladies have already said. I just wanted to send you a big hug. You're not alone. I still cry at completely unexpected times (like today, at the words to a song), and it's really hard for me to be around pregnant people. I'm not sure why it feels ok here on the forum, but it does.

..Penelope.. · #5 March 5th, 2009, 04:26 PM

I'm sorry you had a rough day

I can't add much to what the other ladies have already said. I just wanted to send you a big hug. You're not alone. I still cry at completely unexpected times (like today, at the words to a song), and it's really hard for me to be around pregnant people. I'm not sure why it feels ok here on the forum, but it does.

LissaDawn · #6 March 5th, 2009, 04:46 PM

I am sorry and agree that it can be hard to be around pregnant people. Just know that it is normal to feel that way and you are not alone. I sometimes get sad when I see cute little babies and I too hate that I cant react like a normal person would. It sucks.

tobynscarlett · #7 March 5th, 2009, 06:17 PM

Yeah, I have felt that way too. What's weird is that I don't mind pregnant women when I know that they have had a loss, it's the ones that have never known what it's like to lose one that drive me crazy. Don't get me wrong- I would NEVER wish a loss on anyone, but for some reason it doesn't hit me as hard if I know they have lost one before. It doesn't make me happy, it just makes it a little more tolerable. ( I probably win the "Worst Person In the World" award for this thought) It's just the truth.

jmhick · #8 March 5th, 2009, 06:46 PM

I"m so sorry Dinah. I know how you are feeling and it's just something that will take some time. Hang in there.

klt · #9 March 5th, 2009, 07:26 PM

I'm so sorry you had such a rough day. It's understandable that you're angry. And, it's hard being surrounded by people who are PG when you feel like it should be YOU! Just know that we're all here for you. You'll be walking around with your baby bump soon. And, you're in my thoughts and prayers. Take care... big hugs

Soape · #10 March 5th, 2009, 08:15 PM

I'm sorry that you had a rough day. I know that everyone else here has already said that it is normal to feel that way. I have been going through the exact same thing at work. I just keep praying that we all will one day have a baby that will bring us happiness.

..Red.. · #11 March 5th, 2009, 09:16 PM

You know it's just because we aren't "in your face" like they are. Not they are trying to but it's more personal becaus eyou see them EVERY day. Plus like Heather says, it's almost an affront when people can go on and have babies and never know the pain you know. We don't want them to know it, but it's harder for us to face knowing they had it "easy." At least seemingly so. It's understandable. Don't worry. In time it will be easier. Cry as much as you need. I had tissues and excused myself to the bathroom periodically and took walks to relax.

~~~Sara~~~ · #12 March 5th, 2009, 10:38 PM

I'm so sorry, it's harder in real life for some reason. Hugs!

Dinah · #13 March 6th, 2009, 03:53 AM

Thanks Ladies for all your support. I am really thankful for all of you and this board.

*SamF* · #14 March 6th, 2009, 06:38 AM

don't have anything to add other than exactly what the other ladies have said.

heathernoell6 · #15 March 6th, 2009, 08:30 AM

Hugs honey. I know it is sooooo hard. I found out that df's neice is pregnant now and I lost it. I was at her house during our mc. She had just decided to start ttc. I guess she got pregnant the next in the following week or so. I am going to visit her today, and I am not sure how to handle it. It is so painful. I am happy for her, but it hurts so bad. Take care. I am praying it will get easier for all of us.

Dinah · #16 March 6th, 2009, 05:28 PM

Oh my god I went to work today and we just hired a new Occupational Therapist and she is pregnant too! Oh dear lord. This is borderline riduculous as 5/9 staff members in my therapy department are pregnant. Maybe all the hormones around me will help me to conceive. This is madness.