[tobynscarlett]

I know many of you will see this in another post on this board, but I wanted to repost it so everyone is clear where I stand on the siggy issue. I have not had a chance to speak with Jessica about this, so I am only stating my personal opinion. I do feel this needs to be addressed quickly so that there is no animosity on this board.

Here is the post:

Ladies, if you are pregnant after a loss please do whatever YOU feel comfortable with in your siggies. Yes, it may be hard for some to see your progress, but this is a place of comfort and support for all women in their TTC after loss journey. ALL stages of this journey are welcome, but I want to encourage you to not let the few who are offended control what the majority will do!! You should be proud of your success and we should be supportive too!!!

To those that are upset by these tickers and progress reports, there is a way for YOU to turn off all siggies so that you and only you cannot see them. If you are interested in this option please send me a message and I will get the instructions on how to do this to you.

Otherwise, this will be an OPEN forum with freedom to update on our progress and create the siggies that we feel best represent us. CASE CLOSED. PM me if you have a problem with this and we will resolve it outside of the open forum.

ThankYou,
Heather
TTCAL Co-host

[~~~Sara~~~]

Thank you Heather. I don't feel comfortable enough with my pregnancy to even put a ticker in my siggy yet, but when I do I am glad that it's supported and I am glad there is a way for people to turn off siggy's, there are mentions of pregnancy all over JM, it's pretty hard to avoid in a mommy board.

[KDD]

Thanks Heather! I hope we all get to add tickers to our charts soon!

[dragonfly2006]

I agree

[tobynscarlett]

Ladies, here was my reply to the other post. It appears that several ladies are worried about posting in our form because they do not want to offend anyone. This is vey dissapointing because this should be a sanctuary for all women on their TTC journey!!

Reply Post:

I am so dissappointed to see that ladies are not posting on this board when they want to- all because they are afraid of offending one or two others. Ladies, please feel welcome to post on this board!!! As you can see there many who find pregnancy after loss to be a comforting reminder that they too can go on to have a healthy pregnancy. You are helping others tremendously. If you are worried you can always add "Pregnancy Mentioned" to your topic.

Once Again, I would like to remind everyone that there is a way to change your options so that YOU will not see the siggies. It is not fair to expect someone to turn off their siggies everytime they post 'just in case' someone may not like it!!! The siggies are designed to be a reflection of who we are- Some of us happen to be women that are pregnant after loss and for that we should be proud. Let's not Forget that this is the TTC after loss board, chances are there will be many moe BFP's here because of the simple fact that we are TTC. There are other boards devoted to pregnancy loss, stillbirth and loss of a child if you are not comfortable here. We want everyone to feel welcome, but cannot expect the many to bow to the rules of the few.


P.S. I want you to know that I am reposting on this thread because I want everyone to have the opportunity to see the replies I have given on this subject. Not to cause any problems, but to be sure that most members have the opportunity to reply in a neutral environment. I truly hope that this does not become a source of friction on this board.

[Ryleeroo]

I agree Heather. This is a TTC board, therefore we are all trying to get pregnant. Which means the ultimate goal is to have one of those baby tickers. I support all of you and your pregnancies.. you all give me hope!

[heathernoell6]

I am also 100% in sinc with you all. We are all trying to become pregnant. Those siggies and tickers are an inspiration. Keep them coming...maybe we will all become dual members of ttcal and pal.

[..Jessica..]

My opinion is as follows,

I agree with Heather. But, this should not and will not turn into a debate.

If you are pregnant and want to post something regarding your pregnancy, you MUST put "Pregnancy Mentioned" in your title. If you aren't posting regarding your pregnancy, but just a regular reply, you don't have to turn off your siggy. However!!!! If you feel, that if the shoe were on the other foot (because it has) and you don't want to upset anyone, I think you should turn off your siggy.

This has been a debate before on this board and has usually turned into women leaving. Which is NOT something that I want.

I'm sorry if I've offended anyone by posting this, but, it has to be stated.

I love all my girls dearly and don't want them hurt in any way.

[LissaDawn]

Sounds like an agreeable and do-able solution Jessica! The best thing about our pregnant friends coming back to check in on us is that they are usually just coming to spread some hope.

But of course there are definitely days I prefer to be warned before opening a thread that might remind me too much of the fact that I am not as blessed yet! Like today when AF made her way here...

[Kary♥RN]

Just my thoughts, While lossing our pregnancy and our babies has been a hard journey, and that is why JM have the boards they do to support us on issues of loss... once you come on to this board.. you are ready to take your next step.. not that anyone of us have forgotten why we are the ttcal board, we all have a loss this is the common link we share.. and now a second link, ttc..... We also have to remember anyone of us would want the support of the ladies we have grown so close to when we get our BFP and it comes our turn to boast our good news. When I need support on the loss I had I post on the pregnancy loss board.. When I need supprt with a ttc issue I come here. And with that being said... TTC we hope it will equal a BFP! So I would hope to give these wounderful ladies who can support me through ttc... I can give them the support they need through thier BFP and baby bumps to come!

[wildflower_142]

sara i'm not comfortable getting a ticker yet either. Maybe once i hear or see the heartbeat than i'll get one.