[AndyLovesLife]

I have 2 beautiful children! I love them with all of my heart. We have been trying to have another since our son turned 1, which was 2 years ago! Since then we have had 3 miscarriages. I am so unhappy about all of this, my first 2 pregnancies were perfect! The first was twin pregnancy and it was completely uncomplicated! So for this to happen is shocking for me. But now after 2 years and 3 miscarriages I am just SO SAD! My Brother-in-law and his wife just announced today that they are pregnant. I am so happy for them, this will be their first kid, and they have been trying for about 4 years.

Is it wrong for me to be sad about this? I already have 2 wonderful children! Do I have any right to be upset?

[tobynscarlett]

No sweetie, it is a sad thing. I also have two children (and two totally uncomplicated pregnancies) and lost my third. We are TTC now and I still feel like something is missing even though I have two wonderful babies.

YOu absolutely have the right to be upset. Sometimes it helps me just to hold my babies and cry when I need to. They are too young to understand what is happening, if they were a little older I probably wouldn't let them see me get upset as much.

[Kary♥RN]

I second what Heather said.. it is normal to be sad.. my SIL is two weeks ahead of were I should be... and it hurts.. and I am sad. It will be my brothers and SIL first baby... and it hurts to even ask how they are. Because I am sad about my loss. I am happy for them and hope my niece or nephew will be healthy.. But being sad is normal!

[BakingMommy]

Yes, I think it is normal to be sad, even if you already have children. Especially when someone close in your life is expecting, because it is then "closer" to you, you will hear about it more often, etc. Be strong!