[..Penelope..]

I just got back from my appointment.

As you might have already gotten from my previous post, this doctor did the D&C, so she also does the followup appointment. She's an OB GYN, as well as an infertility specialist. One of the ladies from work recommended her pretty highly, and said that her sister and mom go to her, as well.

I didn't see it. She was abrupt, she didn't make me feel comfortable at all...I honestly don't think she even used lube on the speculum! I had never had a physical exam that was so painful. She laughed when I asked if I could be tested for mercury poisoning (which is completely reasonable, since I used to eat a serving of fish or seafood almost every day).

Then...from what little (and incomplete) information she had, she told me that she was certain that I have PCOS. I have to wait until the end of the month to get any tests done, and then after that, I have to wait for the results.

At that point, I was in tears. She told me that I will have an increased risk of miscarriage, infrequent ovulation, difficulty getting pregnant.

Apparently, in Canada they don't do genetic testing. However, the pathology test on baby came back normal.

Knowing what I do now, I feel like I could have - should have - prevented PJ's death. Because I never went to a doctor about my irregular periods, and baby was a surprise. If I had been prepared to get pregnant, I would have known about the PCOS and I would have been on medication to deal with it.

I don't ever want to go back to this doctor, but now I feel like I should - because what if I need her, as an infertility specialist, down the road? I know that it's hard to get an appointment with a specialist.

All this, and I don't even know if I really do have PCOS! I'm just so upset

[~~~Sara~~~]

I am so sorry, I hope you can get things figured out and if you really do have PCOS.

I so want to say that you can not blame yourself for PJ's loss. These things happen, even to those of us that are deemed perfectly healthy.

Big hugs to you.

[Sue46]

Definitly try to get a second opinion, can you get a second opinion without leaving her care?

Oh and please please don't blame yourself for this. A loss like that is in no way your fault.

[farasha]

Penelope! The visit sounds awful. You deserve someone who will take the time to explain to you why they think what! There must be another fertility doctor/obgyn you can see.... I would definitely look into seeing somewhere else.

And don't blame yourself! Many of us will never know why we miscarried, especially if it's our first. I think it's normal to think this way, and I think the same thing sometimes (I have irregular periods too) but it will drive you crazy. In reality, you didn't do anything! We can't possibly predict and understand everything our bodies do; especially since we're not Drs. And the best thing you CAN do now is find someone who will help you and make you feel comfortable!

Good luck and hugs sweetie!!!!

[jmhick]

I'm so sorry you are gong through this. Maybe you should get a 2nd opinion. Big

[*SamF*]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry! I would try to make an appointment with someone else to get a second opinion.
Or you can give it a few days, then call and ask for them to schedule some time for her to call you and explain exactly why she came to the conclusion you have PCOS.

And it is not your fault!

[Dinah]

I think your doctor is acting a little premature in your diagnosis without even completeing the necessary tests. I totally inderstand your frustration, but do not blame yourself for your loss. This was out of your hands. Maybe you could look for another doctor, and if you can't get an appointment sooner than you like just keep your old appointments with this doctor. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Stay strong and I am sending you lots of hugs.

[amandakay29]

Originally Posted by Dinah

I think your doctor is acting a little premature in your diagnosis without even completeing the necessary tests. I totally inderstand your frustration, but do not blame yourself for your loss. This was out of your hands. Maybe you could look for another doctor, and if you can't get an appointment sooner than you like just keep your old appointments with this doctor. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Stay strong and I am sending you lots of hugs.

[..Jessica..]

OMG Penelope!!!! I can't believe how bad your visit was!!!

I'm so sorry she said what she said! I hope she is wrong!!!!

[..Penelope..]

Thank you, girls. Being able to post here took a huge load off, and your support means so much to me.

As soon as I got home, I started collecting information on PCOS. While I was on Google, I found this site for rating doctors. I was so horrified by the ratings on the doctor that my appointment was with today, I just had to post a link to them:

http://www.ratemds.com/social/?q=node/28873&did=62725

Here's a summary of the two worst that I found...

She refused one of her patients an emergency c-section and her baby was born clinically dead! Another patient's family doctor asked her to sew the patient's cervix shut to prevent a second trimester miscarriage - she refused, and the patient miscarried at 15 weeks.

I'm going back to get my test results, but that's it. I already have the name of an RE who I'm hopeful about, as well as the names of several OB GYNs who specialize in either PCOS or both PCOS and high risk patients.

Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. <3

[LissaDawn]

I will keep you in my T & P. Hang in there and dont ever be afraid to go elsewhere!

[tobynscarlett]

Oh HELL NO she didn't do that to you!!!! You call her right now and tell her I will be with you when you get your test results and I WILL NOT be leaving with both shoes on my feet!!! One will be firmly lodged in a place she doesn't want to think about!!

Don't you dare let a DR like that make you feel bad!!! She doesn't even know what is going on- how dare she tell you something like that. You should make another appt with a *GOOD* Dr ASAP!!! There is no way she could know any of that without the appropriate tests!!! My pathology reports on Zachary came back perfectly normal and I know I don't have PCOS because I have seen the inside of my uterus personally. A normal fetus doesn't always mean an abnormal mother. Besides, there is an entire board here devoted to TTC with PCOS- it is possible to get pregnant and have a healthy baby with that diagnosis. You should swing by and see what those ladies have to say.

Screw her and the donkey she rode in on!!! This makes me furious- I HATE Dr's that have such crappy bedside manner. They shouldn't be Dr's- they should be telephone collection agents!!!

I am so sorry she made you think that you caused your baby's death- that is just not true!! I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

[..Penelope..]

Lissa - Thanks, hon <3

Heather - OMG! You just made my day! I can't stop laughing. Thank you!!!

[~Lynda~]

HUGS girl!!! i'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you get some answers soon!!! HUGS

[..Penelope..]

I just called the RE's office, and I need a referral from a GP. I'm currently looking for a GP, and I have an appointment with one April 7. However, I'm too impatient to wait that long, so I'm just going to go to the medicentre by my house this weekend.

While I'm there, I'm also going to ask the GP if I can get an ultrasound of my uterus, because I keep having weird pains, and I want to make sure that Dr. T Rex didn't do a butcher job on me and/or possibly leave something behind

[*SamF*]

I can't believe those comments and her rating!
Good ridence!!
Hope you find a great doc soon!

[BellaBellski]

Def. find a new doctor! I can't believe she treated you like that - firstly, and second - I'm Canadian, too. & we had genetic testing done on my son. I had to have an amnio for it, but it was done. That dr sounds awful!!!

[..Penelope..]

Sam - I hope so, too!

Tanya - I hope I'm not being insensitive by asking, but did they do the genetic testing while you were pregnant with your son?

[KDD]

Penelope I'm so sorry that this happened to you. :hugs: No one deserves treatment like that. Please register a complaint against the Dr. with the Alberta College of Physician's and Surgeons.

Where in Alberta are you? I have a great GP and I'll be glad to recommend her. Send me a PM.

[..Penelope..]

Thanks, Kimberly <3 I'm messaging you...