[heathernoell6]

I see these ttc 6 months and ttc 1 year. I can't do it! We have 'technically' been ttc since Feb or Mar 08. However, until our loss in Oct, we were pretty much ntnp Once we had a loss, we realized how READY we were. So, the last 4 months have been torture. Every time AF comes, I loss it. I cry my heart out. Not just drama, real pain, heartache and lack of understanding. I don't know what to do. Nelson has (great) insurance, and I have none. Since we are not married...he can't help me. Can he get a physical and sperm count or fertility check up...It doesn't hurt to ask...All they can do is say no, right? Sorry for the ramble. Thanks to all that actually finished reading.

[LissaDawn]

I agree that it doesnt hurt for him to ask. But for alot of guys the challenge is getting them to actually ask! I hope he is agreeable.

And I understand your pain when the (AF) comes. I feel the same way. Me and DF were actually preventing when I accidentally got pregnant, and since my loss we would do anything to have a baby.

[madmum_sarah]

i remember how hard it was when we were desperatly trying for our baby as im sure the others do too. but hunny believe me, it will happen for you!
we were ttc for 1yr (1yr exactly to the day i got my bfp. yes i got pregnant in that yr, 3 times, but none were sticky.)
i would try and see if he can do the tests. its not like you are asking for much and like you said, they can only say no, not like they can shoot you for it is it!
anyway, im supposed to be packing so huge to you hunny. and good luck
xxx

[farasha]

Hugs!!! I know how hard it is sweetie. I think it's fine to have him go get those things checked if he can. I hope this month is it for you and you don't have to think about this again.

[MountainMomma]

Well, if I had read this first, I wouldn't have had to ask some of the things I did in the PM I just sent you! lol

If you can get him to go most doctors would be very willing to do the SA. I highly recommend getting that done. If there is an issue on his end it can make it more difficult, but it is very possible. IMO it would be much better to find out now than to wait alot longer and then find out. And it may be like in our case. We were sure he had the problem and were very shocked to find out he was in great shape.

Good luck! I really hope he goes. It took over 2 years to convince Matt to go.

[mlyster]

I have not been ttc for that long but i still feel a sense of disappointment and dread at the first signs of AF. Do not be discouraged! My cousin ttc for over a year, had her first little one and concieved again almost immediately with her second one. In the meantime I would try everything I could to find out as muh as I could about what is going on physically. The other suggestion (and I am sure you have heard it all before) is try not to stress. My cousin got pregnant the month they decided to stop trying (they had an IVF apointment booked for the following month). They stopped trying so hard and ended up pregnant.

I am not sure what kinda of rules govern where you are but I would also look into his insurance a bit more. Here we only had to be living together for 6 months for my boyfriend (now DH) to be covered under my insurance. It surprised me to find that out - especially because we could have had him covered for over a year before someone told me that.

[*SamF*]

I just went over the year mark too, granted I have been pregnant 3 times in that year, but still no baby. It will happen, just got to stay positive. I was really hoping this last cycle was it, especially with the clomid and iui, but maybe I'm suppose to get the BFP for our 1st anniversary.
I feel your pain hun!! And they should request a SA if DF requests it.

[jenn27]

I don't really post here much anymore but I definately check in and read up on everyone quite often. I can definately understand the frustration and the heartbreak as many others can here as well. DH and I started TTC in August 2007, and had a m/c in May 2008. Finally in November 2008, we finally got our BFP and our little girl is due In 4 months. I am only saying this because I know how it feels. I felt the exact same way and I didn't think that it was ever going to happen. We were ttc for almost a year and a half and it was torture for me everytime AF showed. Please don't give up hope. It will happen for you and I pray that it happens soon. Just keep your head up and tell yourself that when the timing is right, it will happen. Lots and lots of to you and I will definately keep you and all the other girls on this bored in my prayers. Good luck hun and I hope all your dreams and wishes come true soon.

[..Penelope..]

Heather, I wouldn't leave, either! Even when I become a grad, I won't want to join a DDC until I'm atleast 13 weeks along (confirmed). I just need to get past that point to feel comfortable starting to get to know people in a DDC...

I agree with the other girls - you might as well get DB checked out to cover all your bases. Also, depending on how long you guys have been living together, you might be common law...

Good luck. And a great big *HUG*

[~Lynda~]

big hugs girl. this is the most frustrating journey i have ever taken!! by far!!! you are amongst people who totally understand your pain and share it!!! HUGS

[tobynscarlett]

Don't you dare think about leaving!!! You stay right here until you get that BFP. I know it must be frustrating and discouraging for you right now. Cry it out and vent to us, your BFP is coming and we will all have a HUGE celebration when it does!! Don't give up, all you can do is keep trying but know that I am praying for you!

[dragonfly2006]

It doesnt hurt to ask..dont leave yu wont find this support anywhere else

[Kary♥RN]

I so agree with everyone! Don 't leave! Stay here. As for having DB checked... It can't hurt, only help. Look into if you could get coverage... I have also heard about long commited relationships that Insurance cover the other significant other!

Good luck and HUGS!!

[Trish36]

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I agree with the others about asking. It took us 9 months to get a bfp again after our loss. I'm praying for you honey!

[KDD]

I know what you mean Heather. We're at the end of our 11th month of TTC after our loss (we were NTNP for 1.5 years for our angel). If you can get DB to the Dr. you're the woman!

[L-SBB]

oh Heather I just wanted to give you HUGS sweetie...i'm sorry this is so frustrating. I haven't been trying as long as you have...and 3 cycles is already driving me crazy. I hope you can convince DH to get tested...can't hurt anything, and knowledge is power. BIG HUGS

[..Jessica..]

I agree that it doesn't hurt to ask! I hope he's up for all of that!!

[klt]

Hang in there! Lot of prayers heading your way... it WILL happen for you! And, don't you dare think of leaving! I'd miss you too much...we all would! Hugs to you. PM me if you need anything!