Frustrated!!!!!

twoboys · #1 March 25th, 2009, 04:11 AM

OK, So I am peak ovulating right now, and the last 2 times we have done the BD, DH has not been able to perform.. well he can perform but not finish, its causing us both to argue and just turn this ttc into a nightmare.. I just feel like crying.. I am so frustrated right now... this is the first time I have ever "tried" tc... and I just dont know what to think.. I am so upset right now, we tried last night and he was "tired" then again this morning.. "his back hurt".. he claims he wants another, but then when he cant perform, he gets frustrated and so do I.... its not doing either one of us any good and now I feel like this ovulation sycle is just lost and over and done!!!!!!!!!! and I am upset about it..

farasha · #2 March 25th, 2009, 04:52 AM

Oh hunny. I'm so sorry. HUGS!!!!! It does get so stressful to actually ttc rather than just have fun with your DH. I've found DH and I arguing over it too and its a horrible feeling. I've had the same thing happen. In the end though, we usually fight and "make up" or just wait till the next day (which is so frustrating). Although, I've found that both times I've conceived (knowing which BD did it), it's been when we were just having fun (if I only told you the ways I conceived it would be TMI!). So point is, as hard as this sounds, I hope you both will be more relaxed tonight and can find something fun to do that will turn into an enjoyable ttc where you are no longer thinking about it being BDing!

HUGS!!!!!! It'll happen!

dragonfly2006 · #3 March 25th, 2009, 08:34 AM

sweetie im so sorry..thats the thing when you are ttc it always ends up being work and that is what makes us get those BFNs because we are not relaxed...easier said then done right !!

Kary♥RN · #4 March 25th, 2009, 10:39 AM

I am so sorry,

~~~Sara~~~ · #5 March 25th, 2009, 10:50 AM

I am so sorry! My OB (a man) always told me not to tell my hubby when it's that time, it's too much pressure for them!

Just put on your sexy attitude and go get him! Next time that is. Hang in there!

amandakay29 · #6 March 25th, 2009, 10:56 AM

I agree with Sara....I'm sorry it's causing you guys to fight.

~Angela~ · #7 March 25th, 2009, 11:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~~~Sara~~~

I am so sorry! My OB (a man) always told me not to tell my hubby when it's that time, it's too much pressure for them!

Just put on your sexy attitude and go get him! Next time that is. Hang in there!

tobynscarlett · #8 March 25th, 2009, 11:25 AM

I agree with not telling hime exactly when you are O'ing!! My DH felt tons of pressure when he knew, so I didn't tell. He said it was too much like work after the 3rd or 4th day in a row! I know this is frustrating, but you will get it worked out

Momeejenjen · #9 March 25th, 2009, 11:30 AM

aww hun I am so sorry that you are having to go through this... My DH has this issue last month and we missed 2 of my most fertile days b/c he was sick and couldn't perform. It's hard. Try your best to give DH the benefit of the doubt, lots of pressure on both of you ((HUGS))

Trish36 · #10 March 25th, 2009, 01:39 PM

He's obviously stressing out and that's why he can't finish the job. Happened to DH las time we were ttc. He wasn't really 100% sure if he wanted another baby and I was pushing him. Next time don't tell him it's O time, just have fun!

.x~KAT~x. · #11 March 25th, 2009, 01:58 PM

dh was always letting e down when he knew i was Oing, so in the end i began keeping it from him, id plan a meal, or some special for just us and then sedjuce him LOL its the only way!