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March 29th, 2009, 03:25 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jun 2008
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I am a member over at cafemom as well. There is a lady over there that pointed out that I don't belong on cafemom because I am not actually mom! I joined when I found out I was pregnant the first time. It's not my fault that I had a miscarriage. I shouldn't have to leave until I get pregnant again. Am I wrong to be offended by this?
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March 29th, 2009, 03:28 PM
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Hi-Tech Hippie
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Location: Richland, WA
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Just because your babies are an angels doesn't mean you aren't a mommy. So if someone had a baby, and the kid made it to 5, but then died in a car accident or something, is she no longer a mommy because she doesn't have a child in a physical body? That's just rude, thoughtless, and insensitive.
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March 29th, 2009, 03:49 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2009
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You became a mom the day you found out you were pregnant 
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March 29th, 2009, 04:04 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: PA
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You are a mommy.. You are a mom to an angle. She obviously has never had a loss. Iggnorance. I know it's no excuse. I am so sorry you had to deal with the likes of her.
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March 29th, 2009, 04:08 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: central fla
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wow thats some nerve! You are a mommy.
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March 29th, 2009, 04:21 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Canada
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Um yeah, tell her to bite you! You're a mommy!!!
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March 29th, 2009, 04:36 PM
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Tristan's Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: TN
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What a moron! You are a mommy and always will be.
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March 29th, 2009, 04:44 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Bossier City, LA
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omg that is rude. . .I cant believe a mother could e so insensative
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March 29th, 2009, 04:59 PM
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Mom of 4
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
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OMG some people can be so rude and insensitive! You are a mommy as soon as you find out you are pregnant. I'm sorry someone has made you feel like you don't belong! HUGS!!!
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March 29th, 2009, 05:08 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Guysville, Ohio
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OMG I can't believe someone said that to you!
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March 29th, 2009, 05:40 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Alberta, Canada
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That's careless, rude, insensitive, and crass! I'd like to go over there and give her a piece of my mind. Does she think that she can toss aside anyone who's lost their baby?
I hope that you have never been treated like this on JM.
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March 29th, 2009, 06:30 PM
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TTCAL Co-Host
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You know, it's comments like that that really get me into *** kicking mode!!! Who is SHE??? What makes her think that SHE should decide who is a mother and who isn't?? Maybe you should point out the it's called Cafemom NOT Cafebiotch!!! SHE is the one who should find another site!!!
Sorry, I am really annoyed at a different situation right now.
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March 29th, 2009, 08:59 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: So. California
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That is not very nice, what is wrong with people! You are welcome here and you have every right to be annoyed by someone treating you like that.
I hope you get your BFP just as soon as you want it!
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March 30th, 2009, 06:17 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Wisconsin
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that is so totally rude!!!!! you have to ask yourself, do you want to surround yourself with people like that anyway??? i wouldn't. HUGS
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March 30th, 2009, 06:26 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Sep 2008
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OK...I understand that some people accidentally speak without thinking. But, to actually take the time to type her sentiments, and push send??? Stupid people. Did you let the moderators know? I would! You are a mom. And your beautiful little one is watching over you from heaven. I'm sorry you had to deal with that... did anyone else express their feelings about what she said? I can't imagine that people were very tolerant of her.
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March 30th, 2009, 06:43 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2008
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omg - what a rude woman!
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March 30th, 2009, 07:23 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by KaryRN
You are a mommy.. You are a mom to an angle. She obviously has never had a loss. Iggnorance. I know it's no excuse. I am so sorry you had to deal with the likes of her.
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March 30th, 2009, 07:25 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2008
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What a ******!!!!! Some people just don't have a clue sometimes!!
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