[Sue46]

So I got a BFN today and I know AF will be here tomorrow, I'm already cramping and feeling yucky. It doesn't help that I am SUPER hormonal right now. I'm sad, frustrated, annoyed that it wasn't our cycle and I'm just really upset by what my DH just said. He asked me to not get so emotional (it bothers him to see me hurting) and asked me to think about our people's issue because it could be worse. Yeah, yeah I know but why does that make OUR issues any less? Why do our problems not count? Why doesn't losing our first baby and not being pregnant again count? Why aren't I allowed to be sad, so that you don't feel sad?

[Seizetheday]

I understand....my DH often tells me to get a grip(he is alot nicer than that sounds).. i think they just deal a different way..i dont think me realize this is almost all we think about....

[tobynscarlett]

Dh just doesn't uderstand, sometimes when they are trying to help it just makes things worse. You did a good thing by coming here to rant. That is what we are here for! Maybe a good cry will help

[mlyster]

I agree... sometimes you just need a good cry. You are not that far removed from your m/c and the grief counselor I saw said to expect hormones to take when anything even remotely sad or unexpected happens. But that it is important to let yourself feel it whenever you feel safe to do so (ie you will probably not want to let it out while driving, or while in the grocery store, etc). It is important to not let these feelings bottle up. Take the night to relax and let yourself feel whatever you need to feel.

[ThankingGOD4my2girls]

[..Penelope..]

I'm sorry that it wasn't your cycle, hon.

It's difficult when our SO's are experiencing the loss differently then we are. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings. You're right, it doesn't make your issues any less, and your problems DO count. And you are allowed to be sad.

My DB and I have talked a lot about this. I explained that when I get sad about PJ, I don't want him to try to solve it. I need to feel my emotions, and all I can do is work through them. He has said things that have hurt, but I know that he didn't mean it that way. Now when I start crying at a song or get choked up talking about PJ, he knows that just giving me a hug means so much more then words.

*HUGS*

[farasha]

Lots of HUGS sweetie.... men just don't understand/say the right thing a lot/often/ever. You're perfectly normal for feeling this way, and please feel free to vent as much as you want! You are definitely allowed to feel sad and to cry and be angry. It's good to be honest about your feelings!

I'm really really really hoping for next month to be it for you.

kristin

[Elijah'sMommy]

[Cmommy]

I know how you feel. Since my m/c all I can think about is having another baby. And each BFN makes me so sad. Then my DH thnks I'm getting too worked up and without saying it, implies maybe it's because I'm streesing is why I haven't gottne pregnant yet

[~Angela~]

Does your temp normally drop before you get AF or during?

[*SamF*]

First- Men can really suck sometimes! Your feelings and issues are just as important as anyones elses.

Originally Posted by ~Angela~

Does your temp normally drop before you get AF or during?

Second- I was thinking the same thing. Your chart still looks good. I did not get a BFP on my first two until AF was late. A lot depends on when implantation occurs.

[Trish36]

I just wanted to say I'm sorry you are feeling sad right now and you have every right to feel that way! Remember - it's not over until AF shows up.

[klt]

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way...I wish I had the right thing to say. I think that's what happens with the one's we love that are going through this with us. They don't know what to say. They want to "make it all better", but, unfortunately that is easier said than done. And, what is said is not necessarily what you need or want to hear. I think the hardest thing for people to understand (that have not been in your shoes) is that we walk around almost every moment of every day thinking about this stuff...Am I PG? Will I be able to carry the baby to term? Is there something wrong with me? Did I do something wrong? It's unbelievably overwhelming! Explain how you feel and why, and then ask for understanding.

And, don't give up yet...Wait until AF shows before you "throw in the towel" and then, if AF shows, get ready for next cycle. (I know, once again, easier said than done.) I know that your BFP will come. Sending you thoughts and prayers.

[stargatemommy]

Men can be so insensitive. I have learned to not be sad in front of DH, because his lack of caring just makes it worse.

[Patriciamomofboys]

I'm sorry you're having a hard time btw, your issues are NOT any less than anyone elses.

[Sue46]

Crying helped, I just needed to let it out you know. DH was trying to help me be positive but I sure as heck didn't want to be positive yesterday. What I needed was just a hug and some love.

Anyway, I'm not sure, last time I temp'ed I got AF 14dpo and my temp had dropped that day. I just took it now to see if its going down for AF but its still in the 98's. No sign of her yet. If she doesn't show by Sunday I'll test again. We'll see. I don't really have hope though, just letting it go.

[Kary♥RN]

Sue I am so sorry you are going through this! Can you tell dh how you feel, again? Sometimes it takes more than once for them to get it! I had these feelings last week.. and finaly told dh, I didn't care if he didn't like seeing me upset. When I get upset all I need from him is to be held, and let me cry. Thier is NOTHING he can say or do to change my feelings, or make it better. ( my dh always wants to fix it).

And I agree... until AF shows... you never know....