like everyone around them is pregnant!!?!??

I am truly happy for the girls on this board who are pg. We've all been through so much heartache and waiting and every single lady on here deserves that bfp. Not to say ppl IRL don't deserve it, but I'm really sick of hearing "Yeah, the first try, we got pg, we didn't even need to read all those TTC books we bought..."

My mom just called last night and said my cousin is pg and due Dec. 6. I am so so so happy for her, she has a 2 year old that is just adorable. But what gets me is that it's always on the first try for everyone!

Two girls I went to highschool with announced on facebook that they're pg and a couple in our group of friends is pg and due in Sept. and of course got pg on the first try.

I am happy for everyone but I am just jealous that it's so easy for everyone else. And no one has suffered a m/c so they all get to have that happy go lucky pregnancy.

Ok, rant over.

btw, when I was home for Easter yesterday, my Mom asked if I was pregnant. (she doesn't know we're trying) and I said, um, nope. Weird.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i sooo get what your saying and feeling! I am right there with you! we have been TTC this is the 5 cycle for #3 and its horrible! we try and try and everyone else gets their BFp sooo easy! it makes me very angry and bit resentuful sometimes.... you are not alone!

[*SamF*]

I'm right there with you!! Luckily I just keep being told about people who are pregnant- most by freaking accident! I’m so happy for all the ladies here, I know they have been trying and longing for it as much as me (us).

[Cmommy]

Yup I feel the same way I'm happy for the soon to be mommys but I'm sad for me.

[twoboys]

I know exactly how you feel.. It is so hard and you have to be happy for everyone, but sometimes it doesnt seem fair, infact it plainly isnt fair. I am the only one in my family that has had a m/c and its so hard to explain the emotional factors that come with it. My sister has had 3 back to back pregnancies and had no problems, which is awesome and I am overjoyed for her. It just makes it harder to understand why I m/c when no one else in the family has.

[szczepanski]

Well Matt and I got pregnant without trying. It was an accident, on Valentine's Day, not even a month into our marriage. And then we m/c. So I am one of those people that can just get pregnant at the drop of a hat (happened before with just a one time thing).

It is frustrating to be around so many other pregnant people and babies though.

[amandakay29]

Our miscarriage was an accident. And Wyatt was a first try. Now my body has forgotten what to do I think. I know the dr. thinks we had another miscarriage I just don't feel like it was. I feel like something else is wrong. We'll see though. And I'm excited for all the ladies here. But frustrated with my body.

[Trish36]

I'm sorry!! I always feel like the 'bad' one who gets pregnant pretty much right away and everyone else around me has struggled for so long. My SIL has tried for 10 years, while we had our 3 kids and she finally did IVF and now has a set of twins. My sister also has tried for a few months before she got pregnant with her first (we were due 2 months apart, but it only took me 2 tries) and now she's been trying for over 6 months for her second and I did get pregnant again (unfortunately had a m/c that time). So I truly feel blessed that it has always worked for me so quick and without any issues...my SIL calls me fertile myrtle. LOL. Please don't hate me!

[Eleysia]

*cough* test *cough

Oh goodness, I didn't want anyone to have to apologize for getting pg easily! lol I am happy for those that can, and especially the girls on this board who have had m/c, we all deserve to be blessed with that sticky little bean!

But IRL listening to ppl and seeing them pg and holding babies makes me so much more jealous than reading about the girls on this board. I hate to be jealous, but I am. I am happy for everyone but jealous. It just sucks.

And Trish, I can understand where you're coming from. The woman I used to work for (I was her baby's nanny) got pg on her first try with her baby girl and now got pg with her second on the first try. Meanwhile her sister has all these fertility problems and has been trying for almost 10 years. She felt guilty about getting pg so easily, but you can't feel guilty or sorry that you (any of you on here!) get pg right away. Ok I'll stop rambling. Did this make sense?

[LizaJean75]

I know exactly what you mean. It seems that when you are trying you are more focused around you on what you so desperately want and that others seem to have. When we lost our son I was 26 weeks into the pregnancy and had to deliver. Being in L&D and having to walk past the nursery was very hard. All we would hear was "joy" around us and there we were with nothing but a box of "things" to help us remember. I left the hospital holding a box and had to wait for my DH to bring the car around and there waiting next to me was a new mom with her baby and I couldn't help but wonder what I did wrong that I couldn't have the same happy outcome as she did. I tried to go back to work, as an ultrasound tech, but I couldn't stand having to scan people who just didn't seem to appreciate the miracle that they had. I scanned a girl who was 15 and she said before we started, 'if it's not a boy I don't even want it!" I would also have to scan those who had lost their babies and (as you all know) not being able to say anything was heartbreaking for me. I just wanted to cry with them but I couldn't. I would never wish what we have all gone through on anyone in the world but it's frustrating to always have to wonder...when am I going to get that BFP??? I am so very happy for those who do get that BFP and wish them nothing but a healthy and happy 9 months and I know that my time will come. I think that is why we have friends like we have here. Even though we are happy for others we still can come on here and vent and know that everyone on here feels or has felt the very same way we do. I am so very thankful that I have found this board. I may not post much but I know I can and that you guys will listen and really understand where I am coming from.

I'm sorry so many of us feel the same way. I guess it will make us appreciate the little miracle so much more when it happens for us.

I don't want anyone to feel the way I do but it's nice to know I'm not alone.

And Eleysia- who was that directed toward??? I'll have you know i wasted a test last night at 8dpo and of course it was bfn

[stargatemommy]

Ugh... I know how you feel. 2 of my sister in laws announced they were pregnant on easter! One already has 3 kids, and got PG on the first try ALL FOUR TIMES, and had never had a miscarriage. The other tried for about a year before she got pregnant, but I am still jealous... I am happy for both of them, but definitely a little bitter about it...

[mollysmom2008]

i guess i'm the worst one here, but i can't even look at or talk to the pg girls at work. one girl and one guy's wife even have due dates that i should have had and i can't stand to be reminded of that every day. hate and jealousy have overridden other feelings so far, but i'm sure eventually i'll start feeling guilty for being so mean. just not yet.

[ThankingGOD4my2girls]

I feel the same way. I am also happy for anyone who is pregnant but there are so many that are. My DH's cousins baby was born on Saturday and I just found out yeturday that My cousins girlfriend is pregnant, and I am happy for them but it is hurting me so bad and it seems like every time I go out to town to shop or anything I either see pregnant women or newborn babies and I cant stand feeling the way I do. I want to be pregnant. I would have been 5 months pregnant this month if not for my M/C. And to make things worse I havent had AF since February 24th and I was due for AF on the 30th of march and she never came so I am 17 days late for AF and my tests are BFN's. I have a Dr's appointment tomorrow though so maybe he can give me something to jumpstart my AF so DH and I can get on with TTC.

[taralyn]

I feel the same way too. We got pg right away with our loss, so much so that we were literally shocked when my test was bfp. I just finished my first cycle after my d&c (or I guess second cycle??) and although we weren't officially "trying" i know we bd'd around the time I o'd and i just thought it would happen right away again. wrong!! I have a friend from highschool who just told me she is pg and we would have been due at around the same time. it's definitely hard...

[Kary♥RN]

Yea I have to say.... it is bittersweet when I hear of people pregnant... I am happy for them.. but the sting knowing I should be coming up on being 18 wks... KILLS me! I have such mixed emotions... Hurt, envy, sadness, it is all thier. I so much want that!

[lmunoz8517]

Yup I know how you all feel. I should be 19 weeks and 3 days. I try not to think about how far along I should be, I dont have it written down it just sticks in my head every single week.

I know this is about to sound horrible so I apoliogize now:
My first child ds was a woopsie baby when I was 17
My 2nd child dd we had been ttc for exactly 16 days when I got my bfp I guess we started at the perfect ime
My 3rd chil m/c It took 3 cycles which I know isnt a lot compared to some but with my history I expected the first month or two. the one pregnancy where I stopped the bad stuff and started taking vitamins before I was preg and prayed for every night is the one I lost. How is that? I am not saying by any means I wish it would of been one of my other pregnancies but it is hard to understand why my loss is the one we waited and prayed for. I just hope I get preg fast, this is our first cycle ttc and I just know I will be terrified if it takes 3 cycles again, like history repeating its self or something. I hope this doesnt sound bad I dont mean it too.