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Jamienoel · #1 April 14th, 2009, 01:13 PM

Hey ladies. I just recently miscarried..actually a week ago yesterday. I was sitting at my desk at work and noticed some spotting. Didn't really think anything of it because it was light. I did call my doctor and spoke with the nurse and she just recommended to take it easy and to go to the ER if it got worse or if I began to cramp. Well, needless to say when I got home that evening I made a trip to the ER. I was 5 weeks 2 days, but the doctor didn't do a D&C, said it was too early in the pregnancy and that my body would do it on it's own. I found that quite odd, and so did my Gyn. Anyways, I'm here now and looking for some support. I've had a hard time dealing with this, actually had to take some time off work because of it. Any advice to get over how I'm feeling?

KDD · #2 April 14th, 2009, 01:25 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. There is such sorrow for us to welcome new members.

It's definitely normal to have a hard time to deal with a loss. I know for me it was not knowing what caused it (even though I probably could have done nothing to prevent it.). As to how to get over your feelings - be open about how you are feeling and the pain will lessen with time.

I think quite a few of us had a natural m/c. Drs won't always do a D&C, and it isn't always required. I wouldn't worry about it.

*SamF* · #3 April 14th, 2009, 01:33 PM

I’m so sorry you are going through this.
There is no easy or quick way to get over it, it does however get better with time (man, I know we all hate to hear that). I didn’t have a d/c either. They offered but I let it happen naturally, I also ended up being out of work for I think 4 days. D/C’s can be quicker, but typically your body heals faster if you let everything happen naturally. Just make sure you get some kind of follow up check to make sure everything does.
My first m/c was in July 08, and at times I still want to curl up and cry, but with some distance now I just keep focused on the final goal. Your feelings will be a roller coaster ride for a while, I'm sure. But we will be glad to give you all the virtual

you need.
I’m glad you found this board, it is a great supportive place. I hope you stick around!

Kary♥RN · #4 April 14th, 2009, 01:58 PM

I am so sorry for you loss,

You might also want to check out the pregnancy loss board... It is another great group of ladies... These are the two boards I am mostly on. You have found an amazing support system here!

momof6lopez · #5 April 14th, 2009, 02:27 PM

Welcome to this board, and Im so sorry about your loss. have you made a follow up appointment with your OB/GYN? that is so important, to make sure that everything passed on its own. As for the healing emotionally part, I hate to say it too, but it just takes time. Come here and visit when your up to it, helps to talk to woment who are going through it with you. Also helps to help other people, in my opinon.

mlyster · #6 April 14th, 2009, 02:55 PM

I don't have much to add except that we are all here because we have been where you are. I took a week off and did nothing but lay on the couch and recover (both emotionally and physically). Mine was also natural and happened the second week in March. As much as it is cliche... it does get easier with time.

No one deserves to lose a child. We are all here because we have done just that. Take time to heal and let yourself feel!

Trish36 · #7 April 14th, 2009, 04:39 PM

I am so sorry for your loss!! There just isn't anything that anyone can say at this point to make it better. HUGS!! You hear about it happening to other women, but when it happens to you it's just so hard to deal with. Everyone grieves in their own way, but it does get better with time. For me, it really helped to talk about it. It was hard at first, but I now don't start balling anymore when someone brings it up. We are here for you and good luck ttc whenever you are ready!

..Jessica.. · #8 April 16th, 2009, 10:44 PM

Welcome to the board,

I'm very sorry for your loss!!!

Any advice? Well, seeking support is a big thing following a miscarriage, just to know other people have been through it was enough to pull me out of my rut. I hope you stick around!

Halloween81 · #9 April 17th, 2009, 09:40 AM

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Welcome to the board, as you can probably tell the ladies here are great.

#10 April 17th, 2009, 10:02 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. The hardest part for me was wondering what I did wrong and why everyone else seems to have easy pregnancies. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn't anything I did or didn't do, it's just an unfortunate part of nature. I wish I could take your pain away, but please know that you'll get through this and when others in the world are insenstive, you will have all the fabulous ladies on the board, who understand exactly what you're going through.

tobynscarlett · #11 April 17th, 2009, 11:12 AM

Welcome to the board!!! this is a wonderful place to find support and the ladies here are great!!

Jamienoel · #12 April 18th, 2009, 04:45 PM

Thanks ladies for all your support already. I'm feeling better, still dealing with all of this but it's better. The only thing I would have to add a gripe about is the fact that on top of the miscarriage I just got laid off of my job on Wednesday..good grief!! When it rains it pours!!!